ok, so about 3 months ago My husband and I had a bad falling out with this brother and sister in law. They called me and called me a bitc* said I beat my kids, told me I cant have anything to do with their kids, told me I am a mean person. They basically cut me down on every level. I have never been hurt so much in my life. We decided to leave the family for good because of this. Well since then I felt that God told me to work this out. So I called them to set up a meeting to sit down and talk. Only now I dont feel that I want to talk to them. I have never done anything to them to deserve the way they talked to me. I don t know if I can get past the hurt but dont want to divide the family like this? I dont know what to do. Any advice?
2006-10-03 07:12:38 · 6 answers · asked by Sassy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds like they said a lot of hateful things out of anger; and yeah, I can understand why you would feel that it's not your place to make mends, but as it stands, somebody has to be the adult in this situation and it sounds like you're the only grown up in the picture! If you want to make things better, at least for family sake, I would definitely go ahead with your plans and at least try to put things on a comfortable level between all of you anyways! It may be possible to forgive but you never have to forget! These people were cruel by saying these things to you and not saying to make them your best friends, but Christmas sure would be merrier if by gones were by gones! Good Luck In This!
2006-10-03 07:25:36 · answer #1 · answered by shelly_mo67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow this is a tough one. I hope that you all are meeting someplace neutral. Like a restaurant or someplace like that.(it will help keep the tempers in check). Also I hope that your husband is taking the lead in it sense it is his family that is the issue and not yours. He should be the one having the majority of the conversation and finding out why they said these thing about you. If there is a family member that is neutral it might not hurt to have them along as well as I am sure it is hurting them as well to have the family torn up.
Above all things you really have to be able to forgive these nasty things that were said against you. It will be quite some time before things will become comfortable again, and the situation in the family may be slightly changed for a while but I commend you for trying not many would take the time to do what you are doing. A split family is hard for all involved.
good luck
2006-10-03 07:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by no 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should keep the meeting that you have already set up because at least if this does not go as planned it will not be for lack of trying on your part. Family is important but you should not be disrespected or made to feel uncomfortable. So for now all you can do is try and God will love you for that.
2006-10-03 07:18:34 · answer #3 · answered by blessedbytheluvofjah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 11:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been going through this on and off for years! The problem with my husbands brother and his wife is that they think they are always right, and nobody else know's anything about anything better then they do. I know it's hard, but if you talk to them, it might work for the better. I can't talk to my brother in law, he just talks over me, and louder then me and won't let me defend myself. Good Luck!
2006-10-03 15:04:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You felt attacked and you were. every one has different ideas about who and what they are. Yes you need to sit down with the in laws and sort this out, set ground rules and do not allow them to attack, they may disagree with you, but under no circumstances attack you or all dealings are off
2006-10-03 07:30:14 · answer #6 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋