for married and living in sin couples??

Question

ok first of all i have been living in sin with my man for about 5 years now andi was just curious on how many times do married and living together couples have sex and compared to when you were dating?me when we were dating about 2 to 3 times per day and now that we have been married about once every 2 to 3 weeks is that normal?

Answer 1

No,that's not normal.......when you are married you are locked together, you share everything.......but when you are dating it seems like you could just walk out anytime you want to without any hassles, your not tied down. Marriage is wonderful, yes, but it can also be stressful. Finances, household, children, retirement.....etc. There are alot of things to think about and do. And sometime that can wear you two out. Sex would be the last thing on your mind, for some. But you should always take as much time out for yourselves, to keep the marriage going and staying strong. Just don't get too tied up in other things that would allow your partner to stray away. Try something new, runaway together. Don't let work or any other of lifes problems get in the way of time for each other. Take Care.

Answer 2

If you have time to have sex 2-3 times a day, then someone needs to get a job. That number is unreal for most of us that work. As for the once every 2-3 weeks is the exact opposite of what you were doing before. Too little is not normal and too much is just someone's fantasy. No, it is not normal.

Answer 3

People are going to tell you that your sex life is going to slow down after you have been married and that it is normal....IT'S NOT NORMAL. It may be the norm, but it is not normal. Your sex life can and should stay the same for the most part if you are working on your relationship. I have been with my husband for almost 14 years and we do go through a slow week here or there, because life happens. But for the most part our sex life has not changed from when we were dating. You need to discuss this with your husband and have an open conversation about it, even if it hurts. My husband and I talk about it all the time and sometimes neither one of us likes what we hear, but how will you know that changes need to be made if one of you doesn't say something.

A friend of mine who wasn't having regular sex with her husband, told me one time that sex was not everything in a marriage and I told her but, it is the reason that most marriages break up (along with money). Do not let a little thing like sex draw you and your husband apart...talk to him and tell him honestly how you feel. If he truly loves you, he can handle it.

Answer 4

Once every 2 - 3 weeks is NOT normal for married folks..... Two to three times a week would be more like normal....

Answer 5

First of all I agree with the guy that posted what wasnt normal was to be calling yourselves a "Living In Sin Couple".
Apparently you have been raised by some zealous religious parenting and feel that without the BONDS of marriage that a sex life is SIN.
IF you want to get nit picky, there are as many married couples who are commiting sin as those who are "living in sin" as you put it.

Sex is not everything. The longer you are with someone the more comfortable you become. I know couples who rarely had sex when they were "living in sin", who now say to me that they feel like they now **** like rabbits. They say they have sex all the time.

I think its your mentality on the subject. You were probably raised to believe that married people dont have a lot of sex, and that married women didnt like sex, but was supposed to "give it up" to her husband as he was the more sexual one. Whereas a woman was only supposed to want sex only if she was wanting to have a child.
Everyone thinks that after marriage your sex life is supposed to change as is your whole life together. People who "live in sin" but only have sexual relations with their partner seem to have more sex, but then they marry and that supposedly changes everything.
Not so.
As I said I think your mentality on sex before marriage and sex after marriage is what your problem is. Its the fact that you have let a simple WORD change how you feel about sex. Now you may not have really sat down and said that now we are married our sex life is gonna be different.. Its how you were raised that causes you to think its different and therefore act differently towards it.

Some months me and my hubby have sex every night of every week, sometimes 3 or 4 times a night. Then other months we may only have sex once or twice that entire month.
Am I worried about the amount of sex that we have?
No, because I know that are relationship isnt changed for better or for worse depending on how much sex we have or not.
We "lived in sin" as well and now we are married.
The things we did, the way we lived are lives changed nothing when we married unless you count the legal aspect of it.

Maybe its because with you the image of "sex without marriage" was a thrill for you because you were doing something that you werent supposed to do. Although that it wasnt really a crime. Now that you are married, the thrill of sex has worn off.

Answer 6

It really depends on your every day life. Some people have a lot more going on than others. But I would say that on an average I would say at least once or twice a week. You want to keep your relationship interesting, fun & you want to keep it going! Men need to have sex. You can get new ideas or play things on line, at spencers gifts or have a womens only at home party. Try sending him a sexy text message or email. That will get it started! Good Luck! ;)

Answer 7

no it should be at least 2 - 3 times per week

Answer 8

To me theres no normal when its comes to sex. Different strokes for different folks, so you do whatever excites you. I'm living with my boyfriend, we're not married and my norm is twice a week. Hope that helps.

Answer 9

That can be normal. Maybe that's just what your body's internal pace is. What's NOT normal is being called a "living in sin couple".

Answer 10

once every 2-3 in not normal. not in my books