What, if anything, did you do to mark the occasion of your divorce being final? For instance, take a trip, go out with friends, get a tatto, etc.
Also, how soon is too soon to start dating after the divorce is final?
2006-10-03 07:06:50 · 11 answers · asked by babyred 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My divorce isn't final yet...so I'll let ya know... and I've already been on two dates...my marriage was over two years before we started so I thought I was ready...I was wrong...wait a while:)
2006-10-03 07:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First did nothing except feel the pressure of the divorce happening go away.
Dating. Took a year for the divorce to be final. Trying to save marriage lasted about six months. Started dating about 3 months before divorce was final. Wife was dating before filing for divorce I found out later.
2006-10-03 14:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went out with friends and celebrated when the divorce was final. For everything I had been though, I felt that I deserved it to myself to celebrate. It was my way of starting a new life.
Start dating as soon as you feel you are ready to. I don't think there is a certain period of time that you should wait. For me, it took me about a year before I wanted to start dating but, each person is different.
2006-10-03 14:17:40 · answer #3 · answered by cee cee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce was very depressing for me and to get myself out of a slump; I took a trip out of town and called it my trip to regain sanity! Now; each year on the same day, I repeat the sanity celebration! It ended up taking about a year and 1/2 to actually date again, but the wait was worth it!
2006-10-03 14:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by shelly_mo67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did absolutely nothing, I don't even remember the exact date. I simply put it behind me, it is not important anymore.
I started dating within weeks of separation, the divorce was not even final for another year and a half. Nothing's too soon, as long as you use common sense. Distractions are good.
2006-10-03 14:13:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A tattoo is permanet. Make sure its something you wont be ashamed of or something you can live with. It takes quite a few bucks to get one that looks good that you are satisfied with and another few hundred to get it removed if you arent.
If you can afford to, take a trip. Sometimes taking a trip doesnt mean you have to go completly out of state or out of the country. Go somewhere in your own state, rent a motel room, do some window shopping, Get your hair done, your nails, buy yourself some new clothes. Cut your hair, dye it a different color.
Spend the weekend by yourself doing stuff just for you.
If you choose to go out with friends, then do so.
Here's the tricky part. Dating after a divorce.
If it were me and it has been as I have been divorced twice and I am married to my 3rd husband.
Take a while to figure out who you ARE. After you have been married many of us women become the person our husbands want us to be and forget who we were when we married him, and the same applies to men as well. Alot of the time we tend to date right after a divorce only to end up dating someone just like the person we just divorced, and this isnt good for us. We tend to place ourselves right back from what we got out of, only this time we havent married him or her yet.
We think we know ourselves, but as time wears on we find that we only thought we knew ourselves. When I divorced my 1st husband I wasted no time in finding another man and marrying him without a second thought. He turned out to be just excatly like the man I have divorced to begin with. However in time I knew that, although if I had waited and dated him for a while and better yet if I had lived a little and knew myself more I wouldnt have seen him for what he was and wouldnt have married him to begin with.
With my 2nd divorce I waited a whole year before I dated. Thats not to say I didnt DATE, period. I did. But I went on dates, but I didnt date anyone exclusively. In time I learned more about myself. I became more sure of myself, what I wanted, what I would tolerate, and what I wouldnt tolerate, I learned more about who I was.
As much as I didnt want to be lonlely and not have someone in my life. It would have been better for me to be alone for a while than to have one failed relationship after another.
2006-10-03 14:48:27 · answer #6 · answered by Shalamar Rue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy myself a house
no it was not with money form the D
I took my school money and brought the house
that what pissed him off he never new my father had put the money away for me
because the before the D was final he words to me were I can not wait for you and the children to end up on WELFARE
just smile, I left the court strait to the notary to sighn for the house
he went crazy he tough that I was about to suffer
because he had empthy our bank account well the suprise was on him
as for dating
I always take your time, I know a lot of woman that end up D a second time around because they did not take the time to get to know themselves they end up chosen the same kind of man that they left in the first place
Good Luck
Sorry I write so much
2006-10-03 14:12:27 · answer #7 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i did alot of different things - but what sticks in my mind was take a trip with the girls, go out dancing & drinking every Friday nite & had casual sex on my wedding anniversary.
i started dating right away (while separated).
2006-10-03 14:14:19 · answer #8 · answered by livetall1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read about mine in the Sunday paper, before I actually got the decree. I waited a while before dating, though.
2006-10-03 14:41:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a trip, and start dating right there and then!
2006-10-03 14:10:41 · answer #10 · answered by cuteboymom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋