I hate my Life!!!!HELP ME?

Question

I can not stand this!!! I feel like all i do is go to work and come home and then the house is empty when I get here. I call my husband at work and he can't talk cause he is always in a meeting.I work second shift and he leaves at 330am to go to work. I feel like I am always alone...ok~I am always alone and no one to talk to but this damn computer. And it doesn't talk back. This sucks..BIG TIME. What can I do???

Answer 1

I am reading between the lines a little bit, but I am guessing that "being alone" isn't the real issue. Would it be fair to say you feel somewhat unimportant and un-needed? Your husband leaves for work early in the day, and has meetings that he cannot be interuppted during. You call your career "work" which is a pretty good indicator that you find it mundane and unfulfilling. I could be all wet, but here are my suggestions (since you asked).
First, you and your husband do need to talk about the state of your marriage and how you can get some more time together. That is a vital relationship and it cannot be put off indefinetely. Perhaps there is a need for a career change for one or both of you.
Second, you have to do some soul searching and ask "What is my life really about?". Life takes on new meaning and enthusiasm when you figure out why you are here, what your passion is, and how you can make a difference.
Third, get busy doing it. I would hate to go through seventy years of life and come to the conclusion that "I punched a clock and made someone else rich". That would be incredibly frustrating. Find something worthwhile and go after it. That might even be in your current job. Maybe there is someone you can help or some way to make a difference. Nothing breaks up a pity party faster then investing in someone else's life and making a difference for them.
I hope you are able to come to some good conclusions. Take care.

Answer 2

Try asking your current job for the day shift if that doesn't work maybe you should be looking for a different job, so you can spend time with your husband. Ya'lls time together is very important in your relationship. Hang out with friends, if you are unhappy with your life at the moment. Figure out what you can change and do it. Have courage to try something different. ask your hubby to make time to sit down and talk with you. Make game time and personal time with him. Start painting or find a new hobby. Don't let it overwhelm you...I know i go to work and just come home to, its frustrating, find a way to fix it, talk with your husband come up with a solution and act on it. You can always do something to make your life different, if you don't every do anything you'll be stuck in this rutt of being lonley and angry and sad. Change something and do it soon. Communicate with your husband above all, talk with him let him know how your feeling and ask if he's got any ideas.

Answer 3

Get some hobbies........... Also stop feeling sorry for yourself. You have a job. You have a house and you have a husband. That is a lot more than some people. Try to be happy for the things you do have and stop sweating the other stuff. It will come. Only change can come from with in you. And if you are not happy than figure out what it is that will make you happy and go for it. Consume your thoughts with good things and you will start to be a happier person. Good luck to you Hun.......... It will all get better you just have to try new things.

Answer 4

Try to talk to him and tell him how you feel and if he says he don't have time then tell him he don't have time for you either and go on with your and make yourself happy..life is to short to live alone and be unhappy..Trust me I know I have been in a relationship for 10 years and 6 of them years he has worked away staying gone from 2 weeks to 2 months at a time..now I get real lonely and when I do try to talk him he acts like he is listening but he don't hear a word I say..If you love him try to stay and try to make him listen to you and if you don't love him get out now..Maybe both of you all should take a few days off if you can and spend all together shacked up somewhere just talking and making love to each other..

Answer 5

First of all; Life is what you make it, either you take it upon yourself to find something to replace being alone, such as a hobby, meeting new friends, joining a club, calling your mom, etc. , Whatever the case may be, the choice is yours, you don't have to feel this way, you have options! Talk to your hubby and let him know that you're feeling this way, maybe he'll have some suggestions that will be helpful to you as well! ("Life's Too Short To Feel The Way You Do") Be Happy and God Bless!

Answer 6

Hi, not knowing much about you like your age and stuff but is it possible you could maybe join a gym?? You could get to know people and it can take loads of your spare time of your hands. You could even get into great shape!
If not then perhaps simple things like shopping might help.
Plan a holiday or something. Hope that can help

Answer 7

Things would be even worse if you didn't have the computer. Go to church, join a club, do something so that you can have real life friends. Do what you can to take care of you.

Answer 8

I know how you feel, and you need to talk to ur husband a marriage can't last if you guys are separated almost all the time.

Answer 9

get out more do other things get a hobby i use to feel like that and now im trying to set up my own buisness going to the gym to make me feel and look better.meeting up with my girlfriends. you and your husband need to pick a day where it is just for you two and no one else.

Answer 10

get a hobby do some volunteer work make a date with your husband once a week