My husband has friend that he sometimes hangs out with. I beat the crap out of her about a yr ago cause i thought that they were seing each other at one time but they atomately proclaimed that they were just friends, since then he vowed not to talk to her for our sake, and then I found out that they hang out sometimes, and have been for about a month after i whooped her !@#. I didn't know anything about it until I caught him in a lie about who he had called. He still states that they have only been friends, and that the only reason why he hasn't said anything is cause she is scared of me now. We have a 3 yr old daughter together, I feel that if she is a friend she should be a friend to me as well. Can I get someones opinion. Am I over reacting ?
2006-10-03 06:51:50 · 11 answers · asked by Sandra G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Rather you are common law or legal, you are a COUPLE PERIOD!! As far as your question of having a "friend" of the opposite sex; YES! My BEST friend was my ex husband! We kept in touch all the time since I knew him for many many years. I have a common law man in my life and he "knows" I don't intend to hurt him, "HE" IS MY MAN, not my ex! Sounds like no trust in your relationship. I wouldn't go around the person who kicked my butt nor would I want to be friends with that person unless we got this mess cleaned up!Granted your man should be honest with you, now he has only made your trust even worse, bad deal on his part. You need to come to grips with this issue, talk it out with him.. get it out in the open and try to work something out. If she is "only" a friend then he should be willing to at least talk to you and try to work this out, if not, then you may have something to worry about. My man has friends I don't want to be friends with but I don't try to stop their friendship just like I have friends he doesn't like but doesn't say anything or stop me from seeing.You will know if more is going on, can't keep something like that hidden for long without finding out soonber or later. People talks!
2006-10-03 07:35:14 · answer #1 · answered by GardenGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is hiding something.
He lied about the relationship Why?
He said because of you, that's a lie. He is trying to make you feel guilty so he can get by with it.
If he had nothing to hide he would have told you.
Put a stop to it, if he really cares about your relationship at all he will stop.
If you was having a secret relationship with a guy & he asked you to stop would you?
Buttom line is, he kept it a secret for a reason & it's not you.
What else is he hidding?
2006-10-03 07:24:29 · answer #2 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going away over board. He is not married to you he owes you nothing. Yes you have a child, but it took two people to make that child. You seem to feel that to beat up on people is the answer. I would have you arrested for assault. I have no pity , nor understanding for you. Get a grip on your behaviour, and grow up
2006-10-03 06:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you. Sounds more to me like this guy is having a relationship with his friend. What are you doing fighting? You are not suppose to do that. Are you an animal? Fighting won't solve anything. Get a life. Leave this guy and try to be on your own.
2006-10-03 06:55:11 · answer #4 · answered by Art The Wise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well being friends with you after you beat her up will be kinda hard to do. i do agree that he shouldn't have kept it a secret. it just makes the feelings of jealousy grow. talk to him and make him understand( not violently)how insecure it all makes you feel.
guys are friends with woman without being sexual all the time. If you cannot handle such a friendship on his part let him know.
2006-10-03 06:57:12 · answer #5 · answered by me2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel that way too, just try to get everywhere with him, dont let him got o the store alone or sa he stayed at work late, whatever
2006-10-03 06:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all you should be mad at him not her.
He is cheating on you. She is only "with" someone who is taken.
Second of all, if you are not really married, why to you expect him to be faithful to you?
If I were you I would demand a marrige licence or leave him and sue for child support & palimony.
2006-10-03 06:58:02 · answer #7 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any partner who loves you would not do something that upsets you. If he does, he cares more for himself than he does for you. Move on. He's not worth it.
2006-10-03 06:55:24 · answer #8 · answered by Katyana 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if there just "friends" they wouldent be hiding it from you like they have been. i think somethings going on. good luck
2006-10-03 06:56:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes... befriend her...she might be able to help you in the near future ;-)
2006-10-03 06:55:56 · answer #10 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋