Were you abused as a child?

Question

Do you think that stigma of sexual abuse comes from how horrific the act itself was, or how we as society treat the abused?

Answer 1

I wasn't.
But as for the rest of the question, I think it is a combination of both.

Answer 2

I was not abused, I was tortured sexually, physically, and of course with those comes emotionally. I decided at 14 not to play the role of the "victim". Should we comfort, and offer behavioral modification to those who have suffered. Absolutely!

But I am sick and tired of the abuse excuse. A reason is not an excuse to inflict harm on another. I just want to shout from the roof tops : Oh me, oh my, I'm being abused by life. I think I'll go out and hurt someone. Or how about this one...I am gonna get mine..My question is get your what..? Are you owed something.? Why is your choice to rob me of my purse, my fault.? You do not know me..I do not know you..The world owes you nothing..Stop whining like a victim, and stand up and be responsible for your own choices...
The minute we push any of our problems, whether it's a racial problem or a background problem that we personally have, we push it on someone and make them responsible for it, then we no longer are responsible and, frankly, nothing will ever get done.

That's why when people start casting themselves as victims, not only are they asking us not to hold them morally responsible, they are making it impossible to ever change their behavior because they are not in control of the behavior. If they aren't in control, they can't be held responsible. And that is just ridiculous..

We are all personally responsible for our behaviour.
Mature people understand that and are willing to take the licks of life and move on instead of crying the victim and asking everyone else to excuse the abusive behavior that they then do. Everyone has a reason.But a reason is not an excuse.

Answer 3

No--however, a past close girl friend of mine over college break confided in me that she had been regularly sexually violated by one of her brothers in her youth (this conversation took place many years ago). Jane (as I'll call her) seemed embarrassed about it, like she was revealing something about herself for which she was responsible. Did she feel that way (I mostly listened to her--what else could I do but be supportive?), because if so, that must be an awful thing to live with (I can only imagine). She was cute and clever and a wonderful friend and I miss her. And, I'll never forget how much it must have taken for her to tell me what had happened to her and how much its got to be a secret that is like a "pink elephant" in her conscious. "Civil" societies can be and act very diseased at times. My understanding of sexual abuse is that is much more prevalent than anyone really talks about.

Answer 4

I was never physically abused as a child.
It could be a combination of both things. I know some girls who were molested and they absolutely HATE men because of it, have chose to become lesbian, and it's sad that they (in their mind) can never live a "normal" life or have a "regular" relationship because of what happened in their pasts. I don't know how society treats the abused, I've always been very compassionate to others cause you never know what someone else's story is, so you just accept them for who they are regardless of their pasts.

Answer 5

I was, and everyone knows that stuff is just wrong. Thats why its done when your home all alone, with one other person. And it never comes up. A thief, that got away. I hope they repent, and stay away from my kids. I think thats a reason for death. To play with a child in that manner. Especially to be nice, and kind before. Then nice and kind after. You do things that are not eraseable to a childs mind. I pray for kids, that go through that now, especially on a everyday basis. Its just a horrific act, that and rape. Whats wrong with people.

GB.

Answer 6

I feel that any form of abuse, physical, or sexual towards anyone child or adult is horrific. Unfortunately as often as it happens and even now that there is awareness and support groups it still does not take away all the mental pain & anquish trauma that it causes among many victims. You never for get it you just go from VICTIM TO SURVIVOR

Answer 7

It's the fact that someone violated your body when you were unable to protect yourself. It's the most despicable crime committed by a sick coward.

Screw how society thinks or the stigma it may represent.

No I wasn't abused in any way.

Answer 8

Being an abused child myself, I've learned that there is NO act done to me or against me that can MAKE me act a certain way or not. It is all perspective. It comes down to how you perceive the act being done to you i.e. if I call you a name, you choose to let it provoke you to anger or it simply rolls off your back. Society can influence that perspective but essentially it comes down to how YOU process those elements, the act and social influence.

Answer 9

i truly feel it's a combination of both;the act itself and they way some people look and treat people who have been abused we live in a real sick society

Answer 10

i was abused as a child well into my late teens. just not sexually abused. most of the people who abused me were police.
now you know why I'm an anarchist. i never did anything to anybody before they ****** with me. now I'm just waiting to play my part in the Apocalypse

Answer 11

any time a person, whether it be male, female, child or adult is forced or coerced into sex it is wrong and if someone finds a child sexually attractive, that person should be held down, accosted by a 500 lb person and have something shoved up inside them that they dont want, then come back and tell me how they still wanna do kids!!!