lets say u love this guy and you;ve been hiding ur relationship away from ur family and some how they find out. thenur family and everyone judge him by the mistakes he;s made. i mean people make mistakes all the time and it doesn't mean they should be held for them. what if u try so hard to prove him worthy and nothing works. what if he is the only one thats been there seens ur parents died and no one seems to understand.and u know that he is not the person to lie to u cause u have so much in common and u both been through so much in ur past years and the 2 of u understand each other like no one could. AND WHAT IF U ARE ONLY 14YEARS OLD AND SCARED.
2006-10-03 06:32:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What if they are right?
2006-10-03 06:35:46 · answer #1 · answered by toietmoi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Well, generally, with 30+ year olds, if everyone is saying the same thing about him/her, then it's often (though not always) true. But I presume your boyfriend is about the same age as you, in which case of course he can change from what the others think he is into a better person. But either way, if he is treating you well, and he's not lying to you, and you feel so good and secure with him, then forget what everyone else says and go with your heart.
I also agree with everything "carolynnn" has said, and strongly reccomend you follow her advice too.
I'm so so sorry about your parents, that must be the most awful awful thing. I'm so so sorry.
2006-10-03 13:42:21 · answer #2 · answered by Quilps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly, your only 14 you shouldn't be worried about what people think at your age.
family and friends will worry and disagree with your choice of man even if he is david beckham there will still be something wrong with them. Trust me.
i have 3 children with a man nobody particually liked but i followed my heart and they learnt to live with it.
As long as your happy it will shine thro you and every1 will realise he's not all that bad.
becareful sweetie, and remember there is plenty more fish in the sea if it doesn't work out. A nd in the mean time just enjoy yourself x goodluck x
2006-10-03 13:48:30 · answer #3 · answered by emzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how much it is going to kill you, listen to your parents. Believe it or not they do know something that you do not. If they are saying this guy is not good for you than they are right and they are trying to keep you from getting hurt or making a huge mistake in life.. Sorry but I belive that you should listen to the others in this situation.
2006-10-03 13:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by Firemans_Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you found someone who truly supports you and loves you, then just be OPEN with your family, cuz hiding stuff will only make them suspicious, and hopefully over time he will prove himself. just be honest! sit down, and talk with em, and say that... i know you guys don't trust Joe, but I do. I also know that I am young, but i still have feelings, and he's helped me through this hard time. So, i would still like to keep seeing him, but i will be open and honest with you about everything. i'll tell you where i'm going, when i'll be back, and i'll keep my word. i hope that as you see how great we really are for each other, you will change your minds..... i think partly your family is scared that you will make the same mistakes "joe" did in his past, so if you are completely honest and open about your plans and activities with joe, they will calm down, because they will know you are safe. just DON'T HIDE STUFF, cuz they WILL find out, and it will only make things worse.... good luck!
2006-10-03 13:38:12 · answer #5 · answered by carolynnnna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You look in the mirror and tell yourself that unfortunately they are probably right!
Record that moment in your mind for posterity.
You will want to look back on it in years to come and congratulate yourself on your perspicacity.
Then dump the poor bu**er and move on with your life.
2006-10-03 14:27:07 · answer #6 · answered by Christine H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to them, i did exactly the same ignored everyone even after they told me what he was like, his ex wife even tried telling me, but i was "in love" ......and YES they were right he lied he cheated, he used me, he used my car (3 actualy) and ruined all of them, he used my house, walked out once, i had him back, walked out again, i shut the door and never opened it to him again that was 12 months ago and im happier, healthier, and my home is alive again, so take into account what people think they might actualy know
2006-10-03 13:55:17 · answer #7 · answered by carasr32 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait and find out for yourself
only 14 you've got YEARS of dating ahead of you
have fun
2006-10-03 13:35:14 · answer #8 · answered by pepzi_bandit 2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋