2006-10-03 06:18:50 · 41 answers · asked by hampardesi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no, the question is how do you feel cause you are the one sleeping with him at night.
2006-10-03 06:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's NO EXCUSE to stay in a loveless marriage, no matter how many years you have been married... unless of course you want to. But your not doing yourself or your children any favours by doing so.
If your concerned about finances, a place to stay etc; seek advice first and bear in mind, many many marriages with children involved do breakup and they do function happily even if with only one parent around.
Don't let fear hold you back. You deserve to be happy and to feel loved and cherished and if this is not happening within your marriage then its time to say goodbye to that and I'm sure someday in the future, you will find the true love and happiness you deserve.
Have hope and have faith in having a brighter and happier future for you and your children. Good luck.
2006-10-03 13:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY NOT! been there and doing it now. It's really hard to find the strength to finally bring it to an end, but if you get to the point where you don't feel loved and cherished then he aint living upto his vows, and he never will. You'll just get older, more resentful and more depressed and the kids will suffer with their mum not functioning on full power. If you know he doesn't love you and you are more like lodgers than lovers then you are already on your own. The worse day is when you wake up and realise you having nothing left to give. Good luck, best wishes and all that stuff.
2006-10-03 09:51:02 · answer #3 · answered by GalaxyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok sweety,if u want others to love and respect you you must love urself first as jesus loves you and died for you ,sweet heart i don't know why ,or what happened between you and ur hubby ?was he like this in the beginning itself of ur marriage or did something happened between the two of you that upset him really badly?
however sweety you must understand marrige is a very beaautiful bond between 2 people who love each other ,trust and will be with each other forever
i know sounds like a fiary tale story right ! but hey this is the truth as said by the lord
if ur husband does'nt love u the way u love him pls.... stop this relationship (only if it can't b worked out)as u deserve someone else much better ,he will love you for who u r.
if kids are involved pls sit them down and let them know wat u feel let them know that u r a human being and u have feelings ,u too need to be loved by someone special ...but in the need don't make it messy ,make sure u end the relation as good frnds and ur kids will ynderstand that though the marriage has not worked dad and mum are cordial with each other
take care baby
let me know how it goes
always ready to help
love
lord's helper
angel
2006-10-03 06:46:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents stayed together "just for the kids", and from every point of view, including my own, I wish with all my heart they hadn't. And my brother feels exactly the same way.
From our point of view, we had to grow up with them arguing non-stop, with great bitterness and anger in the house, and with them criticising each other to us all the time. As we got older we often found ourselves piggy in the middle and having to "choose" between them in different situations. And that's to say nothing of the role model we grew up with of what a marriage and partnership should be like!
So, in answer to your question, if you have a nice relationship anyway, then maybe (but only maybe if the kids are still small, because if they're already past 16, then you should start thinking about your own happiness too), but if you're arguing a lot, then don't do it, you're not going to be doing your kids ANY favours.
2006-10-03 07:14:07 · answer #5 · answered by Quilps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the child of divorceed parents and i can say that it would be better to get the divorce. AS long as the children can see the love from both parents they should turn out fine. Make sure to keep the divorce clean. The parents should always be mature and handle situations gently. Don't involve the children in your disputes. Besides, can you honestly be a good mother to your children when you are unhappy. Another suggestion might be to talk to your children, if they are old enough to understand, to see how they would feel.
2006-10-03 06:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by Kristin N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!! Honey If the love is not there then go your separate way!!! Life is too short!!! You deserve to be happy!! Believe me if he dosent love you, I am sure the kids pick up on that!! Please don't stay for the sake of the kids or just because you don't want to break up a marriage of 15 years!!! So many people do that!! and they live miserable life's!!! You deserve to be happy just like anyone else!!! Be strong!!! And most of all, BE HAPPY!
2006-10-03 06:26:13 · answer #7 · answered by TBONE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on whether the situation is bearable or not. If you are fighting all the time it's much better for the kids if you split up. Far better for them to have separated parents who each maintain a loving relationship with them than to for the kids to have to go through living hell every day at home. I know!
2006-10-03 06:22:19 · answer #8 · answered by aussiepom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!!!!!!! It is definitely worth it. You two could rekindle what you once had, if you'd put forth the effort. Those precious children will grow up before you know, and they need both parents. An unhappy family is better than no family, and it doesn't have to be unhappy. Do the things you did when he courted you and he'll love you again. How could he resist. You're the most!!!!!!! No one else has been through with him what you have. No one else have given him children, have they??????????
2006-10-03 14:16:22 · answer #9 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that depends what is love the thing is does he treat you OK is he good to you is he a good dad to the kids does he take care of you this is what you need to look at if you can say yes to all of those question and you are happy the way you are then what do you have to lose ask him why does he say he don't love you if he is seeing someone else then give him the boot but if he is not then what does it matter as long as he is good to you and treats you with respect you will just have to look at what you wont are you happy what will you gain buy leaving him
2006-10-03 07:06:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no. However, what is your life style like apart from that. Many people settle for a marriage without love. Think carefully about the lifestyle a single parent has to endure. If you'd still rather endure that than stay, then go and good luck to you.
2006-10-03 06:24:59 · answer #11 · answered by yvonne c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋