im 21 and live in a semi- independent setting and my "superiors" can be major assholes when they want to be. they usually want to be. and i'm afraid if i try to stand up for myself i could tick them off and they would call the police or some other kind of bullshit. how can i gain respect and make them keep out of my personal business without starting world war three? or should i ****** up and go down in a blaze of glory.
THIS IS OBVIOUSLY A VERY SERIOUS QUESTION!!! so please don't send me any bullshit answers
2006-10-03 06:06:54 · 7 answers · asked by the one and only robertc1985 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
because of the severity of the situation just bear with the question even if it pisses you off. basically i'm asking you not to violate this question. I NEED REAL HONEST ANSWERS!!! preferably from some one who has been in a situation like this one.
2006-10-03 06:09:43 · update #1
in reply to some answers. i would leave this setting if i could. for some reason it is the law for me to stay here. i'm afraid somebody's paying off the police. if i leave i will be arrested. this is the litteral meaning of catch 22. i can't leave this shithole without legal consequnses, and i can't deal with the annoying bullshit they put me through. what the hell can i do?
2006-10-04 09:15:36 · update #2
The only solution is to change your situation to a completely independent setting.
If someone is paying for you, they have the right to be all up in your business.
Leave, get a job and pay for yourself.
2006-10-03 06:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by Ricky T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bottomline: If they are truly your superiors, than you have to be the subordinate-which means you are NOT in a semi independent setting. They allow you any independence you have. If you don't like the situation, then you have to ask yourself what options do you have? Your not specific in who these people are and what control they actually have, so you will be limited in the amount of help you get. "going out in a blaze of glory" will only put you in a setting where you have absolutelt NO independence!....and quite possibly a roommate who calls you Sheila!
2006-10-03 13:25:56 · answer #2 · answered by Big D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you talking about your parents? Or are you living in some kind of facility?
If it's your parents we are talking about, maybe you should try sitting down and having an adult conversation with them about what you both expect out of each other. Even though you are 21, if you live with other people you have to compromise some, you can't just do exactly what you want all the time!
I have had to move "back" home more than once, and I had to follow my mom's rules even though I didn't always like them!
P.S. It would help answering this question if we knew who you lived with.
2006-10-03 13:16:19 · answer #3 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For now, you should probably mind your own business and do what they tell you to do. Once you are out from under their control you can do whatever you want. But, as you mature you will realize that life is full of a**h***s and you just have to deal with it. Life can be a pain if you fight everything, or it can be carefree if you just let most things slide right off your back.
Good luck!
2006-10-03 13:12:07 · answer #4 · answered by www.lvtrafficticketguy.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect can not be asked for, it must be earned and given. Perhaps the best thing you can do for yourself is to go it alone and become fully independent; but please don't burn your bridges when you do. Keep in touch with these people and at least try to be friendly towards them. By combining your full independence and staying friendly towards they, they may come to see you in a new light, and one day you may find you have their respect.
Good luck. This won't be easy, but it can be done.
2006-10-03 13:18:49 · answer #5 · answered by pinduck85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing any details, here is my take on it:
First, being 21, you are an adult. Your posessions and your space are your own. However, if you are in their space, you are subject to their rules.
To the best of your ability, try to follow their rules, and certainly don't do anything illegal. Then lock your door and your posessions to keep them safe.
Move out as soon as you can. Good luck to you!!
2006-10-03 13:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by ItsJustMe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you live in a halfway house. repeat after me; SIR YES SIR SIR YES SIR SIR YES SIR when you decide to stop breaking laws and decide to be a productive member of society, then it is time for you to leave.
2006-10-06 15:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋