Would you ever consider entering into a pre-arranged marriage?

Answer 1

No, because you can't train your thoughts, emotions, heart, and soul into a path that was not chosen by you.

Answer 2

In a modern arranged marriage, the involvement of the child is considerably more. Parents choose several possible mates for the child, some times with the help of the child.
The children have a chance to get to know each other over a longer period of time via e-mail, phone, or multiple in-person meetings, before making a decision.
Finally, in an introduction only arranged marriage, the parents will introduce their child to a potential spouse (that they found through a personal recommendation or a website, etc. From that point on, it is up to the children to manage the relationship and make a choice based on whatever factors they want, love or otherwise.
In many cultures that are modernizing, children increasingly tend to view arranged marriage as an option they can fall back on if they are unable or unwilling to spend the time and effort necessary to find a spouse on their own. In cultures where dating, singles' bars, etc., are not prevalent, arranged marriages perform a similar function--bringing together people who might otherwise not have met.
According to supporters of the practice, these are main reasons why arranged marriages work as well as they do:
1. Reduction or elimination of incompatibilities: Since marital incompatibility has been found to be the major reason for divorce, arranged marriages ensure a much higher probability of success because they tend to match persons of the same religion, caste, dietary preference, linguistic group, age group, socio-economic background, education, professional status, physical stature, etc.
2. What is idealistically called "love" and "individual choice" is often the infatuation of the moment, which often passes when it is too late and the marriage has already taken place. Having elders review the prospective spouse and their family is a kind of "due diligence" that needs to take place.
3. Lower divorce rates:Though this factor has been under-researched, many proponents of arranged marriages attribute near zero percent divorce rates to couple that have had arranged marriages (in contrast to a 50% divorce rate for their Western counterparts). In India, the divorce rate is very low, even in love-marriages (although for love marriages the divorce rate is higher than for arranged marriages). This is often attributed to the fact that couples who enter into arranged marriages (in contrast to forced marriages where there is a higher risk of domestic violence/dispute) are usually more "traditional" and less likely to forfeit a marriage.
4. Low expectations: Neither the man nor the woman knows quite what to expect, and there is a lot of understandable trepidation on both sides. This often works out well, because things turn out to be "not so bad after all".

Answer 3

I don't know. That is a cultural ritual. Americans ain't goin for it. We want to know what and who we are going for... But the irony of it is that all the time we spend with that person and the relationship or marriage doesn't work. But the funny thing about arranged marriages is that since you don't know one another, you are more apt to adjust to each other than if you didn't. In a regular marriage it's what you see and that's what you gonna get. In arranged marriages, you actually "work" with each other more on issues. But I'm not saying I would want an arranged marriage, but I think that was an interesting observation that I read somewhere. There's no win win with marriage. You just gotta hope and pray it will work out for however long.

Answer 4

NO. I would never even consider an arranged marrige! I think you have the right to choose the person your going to spend the rest of your life with!

Answer 5

Never. There is always a underlying motive for these things and it's never in the best interest of the two most important people involved which is the potential husband and wife.

Answer 6

It would have to be a lot of thinking put into making a step of this nature. If the pros's over rode the con's things may just work out.

Answer 7

It would depend on the conditions. Could be the best thing ever. You could wind up better off than hooking up wit hthe drunk cowboy at the bar.

Answer 8

I have seen a movie on this subject. Finally they got united as couples. Interesting but not practical.

Answer 9

Yes--there are cultures who believe that this is the only way.

I was not born into such a culture, but if I were, I guess it would just be thing to do.

Answer 10

I wouldn't. Marriage should be based on love.