here's the long story... Okay recently my boyfriend and i are hardly talking. At first i didn't mind the silence between us. Then the other night he was telling a story, he made me feel like a complete stupid person, in front of his brother. I didn't stand up for myself, then a little while later (that same night) he was telling me to be quiet, and to just shut up. It's weird because he never said that to me, and i was hardly saying anything. then the day after, i didn't want to bring up the situation, at all. But all day after that, he's been avoiding seriuos talk. This morning he woke up very early, and sat in the living room all morning, and didn't bother to wake me up for work, and turn the alarm clock off. I don't know, if i am upset for no reason, but there is something "up" because, this is very new. Like i'll be upset(sad) he doesn't want to talk to me, or doesn't hear about it. Should i stay at my friends for a couple days? i can't really talk 2 him, cause he won't bother.
2006-10-03 05:51:44 · 24 answers · asked by Punk_Rockin' Chick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes you are right to be upset. just stay away from him for a little while. say you are going to your mom's or friends's and just let him chill, because obviously he is stressing about something. after a day or two away, try talking to him again. if he ever tells you to shut up, tell him no you shut up and then present your case.
2006-10-03 05:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter explaining to him how you feel because if he doesnt want to listen or hear it then he's not interested in talking. Writing him a letter he has no choice but to read it. Let him know how you feel and tell him that if he's not happy with you or if something is bothering him that he needs to communicate with you and tell you these things instead of ignoring you. That is not the answer because things are just going to get worse and there's no point in continuing on in a relationship if he doesnt want to communicate with you and is being plain out disrespectful. Maybe it could be that he just needs some time to himself and that it has nothing to do with you at all, but he needs to talk to you and tell you and not disrespect you the way he does!!!! Spend some time away...and if he doesnt change his ways then honestly you deserve better.
2006-10-03 13:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by bebechinadoll_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience men usually get quiet when they are seriously upset about something like money or a ticket or maybe he is in trouble and doesn't know how to tell you.
Or....if you have secrets in your past, maybe he found out.
Or he could be having a new relationship with someone.
Or it could be that this time of the year he needs more sunlight. Many men get SAD which is like being deprived of the sun...my husband has it and he is a complete jerk if he doesn't wear his sun visor.
I know it sounds stupid but at the time he is being a jerk he doesn't even realize it.
And no, I am not selling the light boxes or anything. It just works for us.
2006-10-03 12:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by ssssss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is tired of the relationship. To turn the alarm off and possibly make you late for work was cruel and mean. He's venting some anger. Maybe he's found someone else he's interested in and feels trapped. You are in his way. Instead of breaking up with you, he's trying to make you angry so you will make the first move. I don't know if I'd go to my friends house. Is it his place or yours? If it's yours, tell him he isn't treating you respectfully and that he needs to leave for a while until he determines if he wants to be with you. If it's his place, I'd force him to answer my question as to whether he wants you to move out. If he says no, then tell him he'd better start treating you like he wants you there or you are leaving. If he says yes, then you know he's interested in someone else and you should leave.
2006-10-03 13:04:46 · answer #4 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he's withdrawing from the relationship. I couldn't tell you why, but i can give you some helpful advice. Dump the loser. No one who makes you feel dumb or stupid is worth the time. Life is far too short to be unhappy. You can still love him from somewhere else. You don't have to put up with crap just because you love him. You are incredibly in the right for being upset, and you are better than the level he's dragging you down to. Good luck.
2006-10-03 12:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by outlandsishlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have a right to be upset. He should never make you feel "stupid" and you shouldn't be afraid to speak in front of your own boyfriend. Whatever is going on, he's obviously got something on his mind that needs to be addressed. I think everyone craves alone time, and wants space now and then, but to just stop talking to you is ridiculous. Your his girlfriend, not a roomate. I would tell him what's bothering you about all this, and then give him his own time to come to you. If he doesn't, move on.
2006-10-03 12:55:06 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's definetely ok to be upset. It does sound like there's something going on beneath the surface. Give him a little space to see if he comes out of this mood, but whether he does or not you will need to talk to him about it. Don't avoid the issues and allow them to fester - that will be more damaging in the long run. It's unacceptable for him to tell you to shut up - you need to stand up for yourself.
2006-10-03 12:59:39 · answer #7 · answered by chrystelle_19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, if you "smell something is up", I guarantee your female antenna is working well ! Yes, something is up and it probably has something to do with another woman. It doesn't have anything to do with his embarassing you in front of others. BUT, you see, he's trying to make YOU responsible for HIS behavior. Then he can start another fight, and tell you he wants out and it's all your fault! YES by all means go somewhere else. And if I were you, I would pack up and go for good. Don't try to contront this control freak. He's got something going on the side and you just need to let him go do his thing, not for himself, but for your own needs. He's not interested in pleasing you nor does he respect you. Find a MAN who will do that. Godloveya.
2006-10-03 12:56:36 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something is up and it seems it is bothering him A LOT....has he spent any nights away from home lately? He could have cheated and his guilt is projecting as anger towards you....or maybe there is something else going on...is he depressed, how is he doing at work...talked to any of his friends? Maybe he wants to break up but doesn't have the balls to do it, so he's trying to piss you off so you break up for him...sit down and talk to him...if he's not willing to discuss the problem, go stay with your friends and let him see what it is like when you are not around....chances are he'll call you within the week to apologize
2006-10-03 12:55:02 · answer #9 · answered by violet1656 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he have a lot going on is his life? New Job? New Boss? Money issues? Sometimes stress causes these things. But if he won't talk to you and all of a sudden treating you bad, something is going on. Sorry to day that and good luck.
2006-10-03 12:56:49 · answer #10 · answered by VMG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋