i went through divorce and i am preparing up for my forthcoming marriage. Whomever i meet, they seem to advice me. I am not looking for their advice, all i need is their old friendship in which we freely enjoyed our relation. Nowadays my friendship seems to be extra heavy with my divorce? Everyone seems to be bit negative towards me...Any thoughts why ?
2006-10-03 05:47:41 · 16 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to stand up for yourself and tell them that what is going on in your personal life is none of their business. Tell them that you are moving on with your life and that you want the past left there. If they cannot do that then you may need to distance yourself from them for a while.
2006-10-03 05:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by Tammy G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because this is your fourth marriage. You think? I mean you may want to aske yourself, why is this my fourth marriage? Is it my spouse or me? Or is it when you find something that you don't want to work through you rather get a divorce and hopefully that women has what your looking for completely. Sometimes we need to do some soul searching.
2006-10-03 13:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by RLS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the middle of my divorce and it seems as though my family walk on egg shells around me. I'm the first one and probably the last, at least in my immediate family to get one. They look at me like I'm an alien, never know how to act, are either extra nice or extra bossy. I have to admit, my nerves are freyed and I have been slightly less patient than I have ever been so I'm sure I do add to their quandry as to how to act around me, but I have to tell you I was wondering myself when the hell I'll just be me in their eyes again.
2006-10-03 13:08:09 · answer #3 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to sound hateful but do you constantly talk about your upcoming marriage? Some may just think your jumping into another marriage too quickly. Maybe you sound just politely tell others that you don't wish to talk about your personal life in a negative tone.
2006-10-03 12:52:23 · answer #4 · answered by ?? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be for 2 reasons:
a) they care about you and feel that this is a big change that they seem to think you need to talk about. Don't worry! Just explain to them how you feel. If they don't understand then you don't need them.
b) they have nothing better to talk about and their lives are so simple that your life is grander then theirs. If this is the case then get use to it. It happens.
2006-10-03 12:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by Ledbetter Chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They prolly feel as if they have no common ground with you anymore and don't know what else to talk about. Just take control of the conversations and direct them in a different way.
2006-10-03 12:50:51 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its nice to get opionions from family and relatives at times..but the most important is what u think dont ever forget that..i rember being soo wrapped up in a period of my life what other thought..i never had the chance to think of what i really wanted!! the most important is for u to live your life and make your own mistakes...and listen to the relatives sometimes they are right too but rember too..do what makes u happy!!
2006-10-03 12:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by chas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's the way your divorce went? I didn't have any problem with my friendships when I got divorced.
2006-10-03 12:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, its possible that they have no life and your life is the closest thing to excitement that they have.
BUT. You might consider the possibility that they see something that you dont. They may be genuinely concerned about you and the reason that they are repetitive is that they've been saying something you dont hear.
2006-10-03 12:54:22 · answer #9 · answered by kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is a hard thing to go through both emotionally and financially so i guess they dont know how to help you deal, they think that it has consumed your life and trying to help but in reality its not...just let them know your REALLY ok.
2006-10-03 12:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋