I want my boyfriend to cough up an engagement ring?

Question

..... how do I give him hints I wanna get married?

... and NO he didn't swallow it, I'm just ready for that big step. I've never mentioned it to him...I'm a little scared.

Oh yeah he's 33 and I'm 26

Answer 1

get some wedding or brides books to look at and leave sitting around so he can see them and hopefully get the hint. If he still doesnt get the hint.... it could simply mean hes not ready so give him the time he needs. good luck

Answer 2

Baby......... NO NO NO NO NO!!!
Girl....
Men already have a hard time making any commitment. But first you need to know where you stand. How long have you been in the relationship? Is is strong enough and are you BOTH ready for that next level? You can't cough up no ring out of no one unless you are on the same page. But you need to let him know if you are not on the same page, then you will close that book and be reading onto someone else. That is a big mistake honey. Marriage is something you don't rush into... It's more than the wedding and cake.. This is a lifetime committment for better or for worse. And believe me, it can go both ways, but you both have to be down for it. Because if you rush into it, the next thing you'll be makin him cough up is some divorce papers. My cousin made that mistake marrying someone she didn't know so well, and she got a baby by him, and they don't even live together. And my homegirl got married, and after the wedding he got her *** on lock and key and they fuss and fight about everything. I'm not saying it's supposed to be peaches and cream, but it ain't gotta be war of the worlds either. Talk about your relationship, tell him what you want out of your relationship, and don't rush!! Please!!! Lol...

Answer 3

Your problem is you want him, ( in your words) to cough it up! A serious commitment is never coughed up it is spoken about, as in talked about amongst the two people involved in the relationship. You've left out alot of important details your age, how long you've know each other, etc...etc...etc.. With the little information you did give my suggestion is to ask him how he feels , what he thinks about marriage. His response will tell you if its the right time to let him know what you think & feel about marriage. If the dialogue is open you can share with him what you'd like for your future and then see if you both are on the same page. If his response is such that he clearly states he doesn't see marriage in his future you may have to say goodbye. There is never any point in staying in a relationship where the two individuals don't want the same thing. Better to find out sooner rather than later.

Answer 4

I dont think you should push the issue if it hasnt come up already.

Men always like to think things are their idea first before they go ahead and make a final decision.
If you start dropping subtle hints and he doesnt pick up on them and ytou continue to drop more hints you could scare him off or make him angry casue you are rushing a very serious topic that he is apparently not ready for. Women are usually ready to tie the know before men. They just dont want to make a decision that is forced upon them only to in the end resent you cause you forced them into it and thats how the argument will go.

When he is ready he will let you know, just be patient.

Answer 5

Well first it depends on how old you guys are, how long you have been married. If you are both atleast 24 then it is okay in my opinion. If you have been dating for at least 1 year or 2 then I think it would also be okay to get married. And although it is traditional for the man to propose, you can still propose and wear the engagement ring. Just make sure you don't say," Hey, ________! Cough up that engagement ring or we are through!" I know you wouldn't say that but just in case. ;)

Answer 6

When you first got into this relationship did you tell him that your where looking for something serious, possibly marriage? If we would just open up to each other and tell the other what we're looking for, this will make things a lot smoother. Communication is the key, don't be afraid to asked him or mention the idea of getting married. You definitely don't want to go into a marriage be scared to express your feelings.

Answer 7

Ask him what his goals are for your relationship. "Honey, what do you see happening to us, oh say in the next 3 years or so?" If he mentions marriage, GOOD ! If not, you'd better just take a walk without him. Feel him out first before you make any marriage demands. Men don't like to be pushed, but some need to be. You'll know by the way he answers this question. Godloveya.

Answer 8

Men don't get hints
and the quickest way to being single is to give them an ultimatum about a ring.

if you aren't in a mature relationship where you can DISCUSS your future together and talk about marriage - you don't deserve a ring. If all you want is a ring, you're going to get dumped. Stop focusing on a piece of jewelry to show off to your friends, and focus on the RELATIONSHIP and realize that he might not be ready, and forcing him to be is a recipe for disastor. This isn't about YOU

Answer 9

I completey understand this situation.
My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 4 years, and I have seen no signs of a ring coming my way. You may want to straight up talk to him about it and not even worry about dropping hints.
Or you may want to be subtle and just say you know you want to spend the rest of your life with him.
A piece of advice from experience::: be prepared for ANY reaction from him. If he says he is not ready yet, do not be upset with him, and there is nothing you can do to make him ready. I once brought this up with my boyfriend and he said he wasn't ready so i called him immature, this resulted in a blow-up. We solved it right away by discussing the situation, and we created a sort of loose time frame that coincides with college. Hope this helps =)

Answer 10

You don't. If you try to give hints and "force" him into marriage you will only regret it. You will always wonder if he really wanted to marry you or if you pressured him into it. Let it happen naturally. You know, you could always ask him to marry you. But if you do that, you should be the one to cough up the engagement ring.