i dont understand why we need our space he assured me that he isnt talking to anyone.He tells me its just because he feels trapped and he needs some space and time to him self but its so hard to forget about it just like that after being together for almost three years.I need advice in what i should do? Do you think that maybe there could be a chance in us getting back together,has this ever happened to anyone out there? how can u over come this horrible situation? help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-03 05:43:55 · 22 answers · asked by chunkybug2005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Space? Hmmm sounds like your boyfriend wants to explore the world without you. He may be telling you the truth about there not being anyone else. He may just need some time to see what his life is like without you in it. It may be a benefit for the both of you to take time away from each other, especially if things have been a little rocky. Don't let him make the situation about just him being trapped, you take this time as well to see if you really want to continue in the relationship. Sometimes we get comfortable with each other or we are afraid to step out of our comfort zone. Step out of that place and see if maybe you have grown since first having met him, you may very well realize that he is not the one for you either and maybe you were just stuck in that comfort spot. I know it is diffucult but be strong. Don't stay at home. Go out with your friends, keep busy and most important make this a time for "You" to find out if he is really the one. Oh and yes I have gone through the same thing you are going through. It just so happens it was during the 3 year mark. Yes we got back together for 2 and a half additional years, but at 5 and half years he decided he needed space once again. What was wierd was that he wanted space from me so that he could share his space with someone else he had met while we were together. I guess he was trying to keep me on the back burner just in case. At the end (6 yrs after break up) I am the one that is happily married with a daughter and he is still single. Sorry this is happening to you but hang in there and keep your head up. Try to surround yourself with family and friends, I found that helped me a lot.
2006-10-03 06:36:00 · answer #1 · answered by yomama h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all im sorry. Second of all I know exactly how you feel only if you can believe it my situation was a little worse but YES YOU WILL BE BACK TOGETHER!
I have been with the same guy for six years (yesterday!) we have shared everything and love eachother more than anything or anyone else in the world.
In february me and my boyfriend bought a brand new home together. and that is where my story is worse than yours.
All in all though there is nothing that you can do. This happened to me just two months ago and he came back to me in less than one week. This just means that he is ready to take the next step in life, MARRIAGE, he is just 1) Afraid to tell you just yet, and
2) He wants to make sure that it is real and also do the stuff he has missed out on in the past three years .
Just wait!! He will crawl back, let me know if you need more help..
megan_erdel@yahoo.com
2006-10-03 06:33:25 · answer #2 · answered by Firemans_Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the answer to everything. He may really need his space, or maybe he was just trying to find a nice way to break up with you. The most important thing now is to pay attention to yourself. Do things you've always wanted to do. If there is any hope of you two getting back together, you HAVE to give him space. Don't call him. If he calls you, don't talk long. Take a couple of days to return his calls. Keep yourself busy. In doing so, one of two things will happen. He'll realize what he's missed and come back to you, or two, you'll keep yourself so busy you eventually forget about him and move on. Either way, you win.
2006-10-03 05:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand where your boyfriend is coming from. The two of you have been together for so long, he may forget what it is like to be alone. However, I do think that the chances of you two getting back together are very high, because he may realize how much he misses you and come back. This may make your relationship even better. In the mean time, don't sit around and wait for him to come to you, explore what's out there a bit; you might discover something great.
2006-10-03 05:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally, getting ones space is the first step to getting away. He'll keep you at a distance for a bit. You'll talk and do many of the things you did. Then, one day, he'll meet someone and that will be it. "I need my space" translates to "I'm going to use you for company until I find other company to keep."
This usually comes from a guy or gal who doesn't really want a commitment but can't come out and be honest. It's cowarice, really. It's running out the backdoor without any discussion of why the person is feeling the way they do and without saying goodbye.
Think about you right now and not about him.
Sorry.
2006-10-03 05:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that it's hard for you, but the last thing you need is to keep questioning him about his decision for space. It will just push him further away and feel like he's being trapped in a corner with no way out. Asking for space doesn't have to mean that he's found someone else, but maybe that he wants time to think about you two, and see where he stands, and what he wants to do in his life.
Although it's going to be hard to overcome this situation, just let time heal this. Think of it this way, if you love something, let it go, if it comes back, then you'll know that it's meant to be. Hang out with your friends, you family, and take time to think for yourself. Maybe in the long run, having time to think about yourself will make things better. Decide what YOU want to do in life, and reconnect with yourself. It's been a while since you've probably got to think about YOU, instead of "we" or "us".
Best of luck! You'll make it through, I promise!
2006-10-03 05:48:20 · answer #6 · answered by marypaz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but its like that book says.......................
HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU.
If he is asking for space then there is a serious problem and you getting all upset about is understandable but really not worth it. You might as well take it as I want to see other people because usually that is what it means and they already have someone in mind.
Sorry this happened to you, don't let him know that it hurts you this bad, somehow I think they get a kick out of that. I am sure as soon as he sees you moving on if he doesn't have someone else he will be back.
2006-10-03 05:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when a man says that to you, he's telling you in a nice way that he wants to see other people, but I can't say thats the motivation behind what your Boyfriend is doing. Maybe he actually just DOES need space to look at the relationship and see if he wants to continue it. If he loves you at all, it's inevitable that you'll be back together.
2006-10-03 05:48:23 · answer #8 · answered by Ronijn 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the guy needs some space, give it to him, if he wants to get back with you he'll let you know. Don't sit at home waiting for him to call you, don't bug him with phone calls. Do get together with your friends and go out and enjoy yourself. If you are meant to be together you will be if not you can't change it, sorry, but thats the way it is.
2006-10-03 05:51:36 · answer #9 · answered by ffiondove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand in love why people will need space after some times. I had a same thing, I am still dealing with it. Broken Heart.
2006-10-03 05:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by Alisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋