I always hear on talk shows how women feel so emotionally connected with their husbands. I totally love my husband but I don't feel we have a deep emotional bond. Is this normal?
2006-10-03 05:31:49 · 8 answers · asked by Keri Bear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What they consider to be a "deep emotional bond" might be what you consider to be just simple love. I wouldn't compare what you feel for your husband to what other's proclaim to feel for theirs. If it is enough for you, and you are happy and satisifed, then what you feel is just fine.
Besides, you probably do feel this bond, you're just not all mushy about it. Do you ever know what he's feeling before he says a word? Or know exactly how he will react to a given situation? Or know what he's going to say before he says it? All of these, and more, are things that such a "deep emotional bond" usually encompass.
Also, remember that they are on talk shows and might be a tad prone to drama. You're probably more down to earth.
2006-10-03 05:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely feel a deep emotional bond with my fiance, as well as all other ways of being connected (mental, sexual, physical, etc).
I do think it's normal for a lot of people not to feel emotionally connected to their mates. I know I wasn't with any of my ex boyfriends or my ex husband--and I was stupid enough to stay with the loser for 20 years! I believe that a lot of people get into a relationship too fast, don't take the time to really connect with someone, marry too soon because they are lonely, want out of a bad situation, or something else. At least, this is what I have found by watching people I know. I took my time with my fiance (we have been together over a year and will be married next year, sometime). We gave it time to connect in every way possible before living together and saying that we are going to get married. I believe that if more people took their time to get to know somone, they would see if they really connect with someone before having a serious relationship.
2006-10-03 13:51:48 · answer #2 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very emotionally connected to my Fiance. We connect on such a level I can never even begin to explain. But just because you don't feel like this doesn't mean you don't love him. Some women are way more emotional than others and some feel like they have this connection to their mate and some women just don't have it. I think this is normal, I wouldn't sweat the small stuff
2006-10-03 12:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by aquagirl125 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your screen name caught my eye more than anything. i am the father of five, two of which are step-daughters. My wife and I seem to have lost our physical connection that was so strong for so many years, but our emotional connection is still very strong, and that's what keeps us going. The physical side does occasionally take it's toll but we still would rather spend our time together than with anyone else. I say the emotional connection is very strong.
If you haven't been married very long I would think it is very normal to not totally feel that way yet. It builds over time.
2006-10-03 12:36:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women show emotions very differently. A woman will speak about her feelings at length and men tend to be more isolated or very short and direct on how they feel.
Also women need to feel loved to have sex and men need to have sex to reassure they are loved.
Your husband is probably emotionally connected to you, but does not express it openly. Be loving and speak to him in a positive way and he may open up to you.
Good luck.
2006-10-03 12:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married my soul mate years ago. We fight a lot, but finding the root problem and a solution is one way we connect. We figured out each others "LOVE LANGUAGE" by reading that '5 love languages book' that has helped the most. That purple book has saved our marriage twice. no kidding. You can get it a walmart, i give it as wedding gifts. I wish someone had given it to us when we first got married.
2006-10-03 13:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by yeah-a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a step-mom too. I do feel connected with not only my husband but his entire family. Ask yourself, would you be devastated if anything happened to them? Or would you think it's another chore to take care of? I found my soul-mate, and I know we're in it forever. :)
2006-10-03 12:39:46 · answer #7 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES VERY NORMAL, GO SEARCHING FOR THE OLD CONNECTION I BET YOU HAD WHEN FIRST MET OR HAD KIDS.
GO OUT ON DATES GET INVOLDED.
HOLD OUT ON SEX FOR A WHILE THEN SURPRISE HIM WITH ROMANCE AND BAAAM@#$%%^& HIS BRAINS OUT.
GET IN THE GAME GIRL..
2006-10-03 12:36:23 · answer #8 · answered by hazegrey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋