Ok well as u remember i found a dildo in my friends purse and i confronted her about and she said that yes she is a lesbian. A few days after she started showing sexual attractions to me. And the day after that she actually cam up to me pushed me up against a wall and made out with me. I found it very akward...obviously. I pushed her off and ran away. i dont know if i should confront her about it or just stop being her friend. I am scared that if i continur to be her friend she will just try cop a feel
help me i'm scared!
2006-10-03 05:25:13 · 31 answers · asked by CantTouchThis22 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The issue is that she isn't respecting your feelings and has quite frankly violated you. That alone is cause enough to go your separate ways.
2006-10-03 05:30:04 · answer #1 · answered by Robert 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your question shouldn't be "...stop being friends because she's lesbian..." Your questions should be: Should I stop being friends with her because she pushed me up against a wall and tried to make sexual advances toward me??" What would you have done if it had been a male freind that forced himself on you?? I would seriously examine your friendship. You can't allow ANYONE, male or female to push you around and make advances toward you at free will. The fact that your friend is a lesbian has nothing to do with the fact that the way she treated you is borderline assault...at best!! I would talk to her, tell her how you feel, that she made you feel uncomfortable, then go from there. If she is truly your friend, she should understand your feelings. Then decide where your friendship should go from there. Good luck!!
2006-10-03 05:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by lil_rowdy1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, all women should own a dildo and it has nothing to do with being a lesbian. How you made that connection I'll never know.
Second of all, what kind of friend is digging around in her friend's purse?
Most of all, who cares if she is a lesbian. You should do one of two things and my choice would be number one.
1) See it as an adventure and tell her you want ot get it on.
2) Decide you are not even a bit curious, at which time you tell her so and add that you have no problem with her being a lesbian and you will respect that and be her good friend as long as she respects your desire not to experiment in that area, thus being a good friend who respects your wishes as well.
2006-10-03 05:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
have a talk with her and tell her you are not that way and like her as just a friend. Nothing more. Tell her you were hurt and offended when she pushed you against a wall and made out with you and you dont want her to ever do anything like that again or you wont be friends with her. After you make yourself clear.... keep being friends with her if you wish. If she still comes on to you after the talk.... quit being her friend. Good luck and take care
2006-10-03 05:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definately need to talk to her about this. Try to think of it this way, pretend that she is a guy friend and you found out that your guy friend has feelings for you and tried to make out with you and you ran away. Now you know you dont have feelings for this "guy friend" and you need to tell "him" that it is just a friend basis and nothing else. If not, then you need to lose this friend b/c the akward feeling will never go away.
2006-10-03 05:34:16 · answer #5 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is a real good friend to you, then when you tell her that you are friends and that you have no interest in her sexually and that you are not attracted to her in that way, she should be accepting of that. If she gets upset than she befriended you to try to make a move on you and you have to just cut the ties and move on.
But in retrospect....Not all women that have dildo's are lesbians. Just very experienced and comfotable with their sexuality.
2006-10-03 05:31:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is truly a friend, she won't pressure you into something you don't want. I'm happily straight.....I have a number of gay & lesbian friends. We are friends on that basis. Just tell her, openly and honestly, that you like her as a friend. Tell her you are straight, and that you have no problem with her being Lesbian if that's what she wants, but that you want no part of it.
I also think that a large part of the younger Lesbian/Gay community these days comes from "curiousity". For a lot of people, I think its a fad. A lot of people "think" they are gay becuase it's "different" and the idea shocks people, and shakes up the "norm".
2006-10-03 05:40:31 · answer #7 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at sll lesbeian are totally cool, ok before you found out she was a leasbian you too were close cool and like best friends and now that she is dont throw it away. She is still like your best friend but she just doesnt like boys very much. Most guys would actully kill to have a leasbian friend. trust me when i say keep the friendship it will carry you along way.
2006-10-03 05:38:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is a very important part of a friendship, you need to talk with her. I mean have you ever had a problem with lesbian women before this? I say keep in open mind have a talk with her let her know how you feel. There is no sense in throwing away a relationship, youd be running away from a problem instead of facing it.....
2006-10-03 05:31:12 · answer #9 · answered by Ashlee K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't stop being her friend because she's a lesbian. But you can't be Friends with someone who doesn't respect you. Talk to her about how you feel and make sure that your clear about these issues. If she can't respect your personal space let her go.
2006-10-03 05:30:06 · answer #10 · answered by Jackie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being her friend NOT cause she is a lesbian but because she crossed a boundary. Let her knowe that you can not remain freinds with her because her feelings are that of a sexual intimate nature and yours aren't
2006-10-03 05:28:04 · answer #11 · answered by kim_mii 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋