i think my husband dont love me no more?

Question

how can i tell if he loves me.. he dont buy me gifts no more and he never offers sex anymore............

Answer 1

Join the club.

Answer 2

That is sad to hear. Why don't you try to communicate with him? Have you tried marriage counseling yet?

These are both viable options. I would like to think that buying gifts is not the only expression of love you will consider from him. I would however be concerned that he no longer desires sexual intimacy.

Have YOU offered sex? We as women sometimes think that men need to be the aggressor. If my man is "not in the mood" then I get him in the mood! He hast yet to turn me down ;).

I would suggest seeking the help of a professional. There lies first it seems a lack of communication between the two of you. You have to start discussing your needs if you expect him to do something about. Men are very visual creatures. They don't like to guess what you're thinking and he certainly does not know (atleast for sure that is) how you are feeling unless you express it terms that he'll understand. I know you think he should know, but men do not learn from osmosis....contrary to our beliefs.

Hope this helps and good luck to you and him!

Answer 3

Does buying gifts for you really count as love? I know guys that buy their girls gifts so that they dont find out that they are cheating....does that mean they really do love them? Have you tried to offer him sex and has refused? Sometimes you have to make the first move and try to think positive. Maybe you two should take a vacation somewhere and try to rekindle your love for each other.

Answer 4

Hopefully the love the two of you have isn't shown only in buying gifts or sex. There is so much more to love. I think you need to really think about the other ways he makes you feel loved. And if you can only think of sex and gifts, then you both need counseling.

Answer 5

my husband dont buy me stuff either but he does offer sex just ask him why he does not want to have sex but he could be tired if he works all the time i dont mean to put out my bussiness and all but we hardly get ne bc he works and has to get up early so only few weekends bc of kids and things so it just could be bc of work and stuff not that he dont love you. You just need to talk to him that is the only way you will know what is going through his head good luck

Answer 6

What does love look and feel like to you? If it's gifts and sex and he knows that then maybe? Maybe you'll recognize you don't love him. Or he could be going through something and he should be sharing that with you, instead of taking it out on you.

Answer 7

That's a double negative so you're really saying he does love you.

Look, those things may have nothing to do with whether or not he loves you. It could be stress, it could be health, it could be anything. It could be external to your relationship rather than internal to your relationship. Your best bet is to talk to him rather than asking us.

As far as the sex. I hear women complain that their husband doesn't initiate sex while at the same time never initiating it themselves. Try to jump his bones.

Answer 8

first things first, find the willpower to stop offering yourself to him.step up your activities go out with your girlfriends have some fun be happy smile a lot, like you got somthing going for you . for exsample, act as if you just met someone in your life and that person means the world to you .now if he does"nt try to find out what brought on that change you know he stop caring and he realy does'nt love you any more.

Answer 9

I have a similar problem, but its with my wife. The gifts I could care less about. Its the affection I miss and the sex.
I don't know why this has happened.

Answer 10

You should be able to sit or wait until bed time to talk over any personal concerns you have with your marriage. If there's no communication in a relationship its headed for trouble. It may be difficult to openly talk but find a way to ease into a conversation for your sake.