I've been with my boyfriend forever. And as far as I'm concerned he's THE ONE. Really the only one I could actually consider myself spend the rest of my life with. So why is it that I still want to give in to all the temptation out there! You know, the hotties that hit on you, and you know its wrong, but flirt back, and even imagine doing it w/ them, even though you know you don't want a relationship w/ that person. Is it just me? and if not, why do you think we do this!?
2006-10-03 05:09:56 · 40 answers · asked by StonerChick 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's not just you. I'm married and it still sometimes happens to me (sometimes)....I think it's because it's naughty and it feels exciting. As long as you don't go too far. I think you'll be fine. In time you'll find that all that desire and temptation will go away.
2006-10-03 05:14:46 · answer #1 · answered by VMG 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is definitly not just you. It's just a part of human nature. Just because you love someone, even if they are considered "the one", you do look or imagine about other people. It is curiosity, and I don't think you should feel bad about it, as long as you aren't actually being unfaithful. If you are, then maybe this boy you are with is "the one", but not right now in your life. If you are young, then you have to live, let loose, and flirting with other people is a part of that. Don't settle just becuase you think you have to. But if you love your guy, you have to keep in mind that you being unfaithful will most likely hurt him deeply.
It is way easier to appologize for something you thought about rather than what you did. If you want, talk to him about it. Would it help if you went out with him more, rather than putting yourself in a situation where other hotties are hitting on you? Having your guy be with you and give you attention might make it easier to remember, damn you have a great catch in your hands :)
2006-10-03 05:18:52 · answer #2 · answered by Jen M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the thing is you haven't given into the temptation that's all that really matters. You can think about having sex with as many men as you want but at the end of the day you are with your man. Flirting is harmless as long as it doesn't go any further.
You think you have it bad just think what your boyfriend is going thru. If it is happening to you it's also happening to him. If you both resist and stay together then maybe he is the one and vice verse.
Good Luck! & Stay in CONTROL
2006-10-03 05:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by miss_lady6980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not just you. When we are looking for that deep passionate relationship it seems like we are looking for Mr. Right who is no where to be found and when you do find your knight in shining armour and in a serious relationship, all the men that never noticed you before are suddenly showing interest. "Like the hotties that hit on you" IT is great to fantasize every once in awhile but reality is all the so called hotties are good for only one thing, and we all know what that is. Bottom line is that is flattering and it boosts our egos to high hell and we LIKE IT!
2006-10-03 05:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by aquagirl125 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not just you. I think every women has these tendencies. Women like attention, especially from males. Flirt back, it is not a sin or a crime to flirt back... just dont take it any further then that. It is only natural, and that is part of the human being. I am sure your man does the same thing and there is nothing wrong with it. Just dont cheat!
2006-10-03 05:29:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not just you. I have found the guy that I want to spend the rest of my life with and like you I have temptation around me . I just think that I'm allowed to look and flirt with guys but it is him that I'm going home too. Good luck in the future and God bless
2006-10-03 05:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by Aunty Jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You enjoy the attention your getting. It may be a lack of self esteem and need for acceptance (although a guy having sex with you doesnt mean a damm thing). Or maybe you have been with your bf so long that you havent had much outside experience.
Just think about what you have at home and if you are willing to throw it all away.
2006-10-03 05:12:39 · answer #7 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happens to me!! I've been with my boyfriend forever too, and as far as I'm concerned he is the one too....but I also want to give in. Maybe what happens is that since we have been with our boyfriends "forever" we just want something different, or we just want to try something else, I really don't know, but I guess it's only normal....let's hope. =)
2006-10-03 05:15:01 · answer #8 · answered by allie_p15 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FLirting is something that hopefully you will do for the rest of your life. YOu can have a committed relationship and flirt. But you sound a little young for a relationship like this.....
2006-10-03 05:16:39 · answer #9 · answered by Jenyfer C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u just need some experience in thise field with some other guys so that u dont feel that u've missed sth in ur life. i feel that way too although God knows how much m in love with my bf. i simply feel that i need a lil bit of freedom be4 REALLY bein able to stay with him forever. sometimes i feel guilty and confused bout my feelings too..
i simply think that u met ur bf when u weren't really ready to meet THE one.
i wish i knew the solution to this problem... but i guess it'll either stop with time, or expand - n then u'd have to break up...:S
good luck!
2006-10-03 05:25:17 · answer #10 · answered by douza_aj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋