I am not beautiful and i am very shy. I dont reallu dare to approach people. I am only myself when mixed with my best friends. I really have low self esteem. What should i do?? No guys approach me.. Do you think they think that i am unfriendly because i dont approach them and talk much??
2006-10-03 05:07:01 · 9 answers · asked by pinky_days 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
Get a makeover. As your girlfriends to help you out. Just a new haircut, new clothes, makeup, a new pair of shoes maybe....just to make yourself feel good about you. Guys are not going to approach you if they get a vibe of low self confidence from you. And believe me, guys notice that. So just put your best face forward. I know it's hard to break out of your shell at first, but just try it. Nobody's gonna bite.
2006-10-03 05:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all , stop saying you're not beautiful. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. It is hard when you're shy. You are probably sending out signals that you don't want to be approached. Try going out with your friends and approching a group of guys together. Then when you get to know the guys better, they will be more likely to approach you one to one. Good luck and don't be hared on yourself. Most people feel shy at some time.
2006-10-03 12:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you have low self-esteem. If that's the case, I think you should worry about what you think of yourself before you worry about what others think of you first. (I'm speaking from experience.) Make a list of all of your good qualities and read your list as often as you need to. You don't have to be beautiful or really outgoing for people to like you. You just need to have confidence in yourself. Know what you are good at and what you are not good at. Have confidence in yourself when you know you are good at something and don't be afraid to admit when you are not good at something. People tend to like this because you aren't going to come across as being a know-it-all or as being insecure.
As far as being shy goes, a lot pf people like shy people. (I'm not shy at all but I have a crush on someone who is shy.) The shyness probably isn't giving people the impression that you are unfriendly. You should try smiling and saying hello to everyone you see. Everyone I knew used to refer to me as the bi*** even though I'm really not. It was mainly because I didn't smile unless I was returning a smile or laughing. I started smiling and saying hello to everyone I saw and now people who didn't know me before think I'm really outgoing and some people have actually asked me how I make everyone like me. That is a huge change since I only started smiling and stuff about ten months ago.
Just try it. You'd be surprised what a smile and a "Hello" can do!
And be yourself!!! It is always easier to be yourself than be worried about putting on a show and worrying what everyone is thinking. This is your life and in ten years you still won't know what they were thinking about you. You'll still be you and the people who love you will still love you and the people who don't still won't matter.
2006-10-03 12:23:40 · answer #3 · answered by Jeni4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are beautiful. Everyone has defects, does-nt mean you can-t have any. All you need to do is slowly change things you don-t like about yourself, and slowly but surely you will find people will start approaching you more often. Example. clothes, make up, hair etc. Try to make yourself look better, appearance is first. Remember everyone is beautiful in their own way.
2006-10-03 12:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by natbens205 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your lack of self-confidence might be what keeps the boys away. They may like to be "the man" but they still like a confident woman.
I would say first of all you need to do a real self evaluation with the help of your friends. That includes inside and out. First and foremost focus on your positive qualities and play those up. Then one by one work on your weakness and try to make improvements. My advice? Don't try to work on EVERYTHING all at once. You'll find it overwhelming. For instance, if you re overweight and need to lose say 50 pounds. Don't keep telling yourself you need to lose 50 pounds. Think in terms of five pounds at a time. and set reasonable goals. Don't expect to go from wallflower to prom queen over night.
All the best to you hon. :)
2006-10-03 12:17:33 · answer #5 · answered by Q&A Queen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no men want to hang out or ask a girl out who is shy and unapproachable.. first of all, calling yourself "low self esteem" is a proof that u ARE having low self esteem. u should think optimistic... tell urself that u are friendly and act upon it.. it won't be easy but its a start.. then u'll get the hang of it.. im not saying go to a stranger and talk and talk and talk.. the point is to make a decent "conversation"
2006-10-03 12:56:18 · answer #6 · answered by KJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who on earth told you that you weren't beautiful... If you act beautiful, then thats what people see. Haven't you ever seen the girls around that are way to large to be wearing some of the skimpiest cloths and struting their stuff like they were 115 lbs. "somebody that they care alot about has told them that their beautiful and sexy" So they are. Everyone sees themselves through the eyes of the person they love.... Try to see yourself through the eyes of your friends.. Your real friends... Your cheating yourself out of the beauty your keeping inside.
2006-10-03 12:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by JENNIFER M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be u... u not ugly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! who told u that?built up your self esteem. You don't have to approarch them... just smile... say hello if they looking at you... don't change who you are for anyone... Love yourself girl! You're BEAUTIFUL! don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
2006-10-03 12:18:14 · answer #8 · answered by shaniB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes .they will think u are unfriendly.
2006-10-03 12:12:51 · answer #9 · answered by rajan naidu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋