she had 4 kids by her husband, which was the kids dad, and she knew of his" 2" kids before they married. His "2" were by previous girlfriends. After they married and bought a house, he started getting child support papers in the mail, to make a long story short, he told her he had 2 kids, but in fact he had 10 kids, 8 more other than the 2 he told her about. none of the kids had the same mother! She stayed with him despite the lie he told her. What would you have done in this situation? After she came and told us what went down, everyone thought she was stupid for staying with him!
2006-10-03 04:56:52 · 8 answers · asked by Nyema 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's just it, I don't think he was taking care of the kids if the mothers are suing for child support. Their kids together are 3, 2. and 18 months.
2006-10-03 05:20:18 · update #1
i knew a guy like this. i knew him too well. guys like him are bad news, and will never stop behaving badly. he will never stop lying, he will never stop cheating, he will never stop having children until he's old and cant get it up anymore. your friend is in a tough situation. if she leaves him, which would be the right thing to do, there's the chance she wont get enough child support, theres no way he can pay child support for 14 kids! but if she stays, she will have to deal with a lying and cheating husband, which is no way to live. i wish her luck with her situation and pray that everything turns out for the best.
2006-10-03 06:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by melinda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's married to him now. Like you said. They have 4 kids together. Maybe she doesn't think she can financially support them herself. What happened in the past is in the past. He has 10 children from previous relationships, but that probably doesn't change the way she feels about him now. Unfortunately, she's in a tough spot. That's a lot of child support to pay, but if he's a good person, treats her with respect and is a good father, maybe it's a price she's willing to pay. It's hard to judge until it happens to you.
(I just hope he knows what causes pregnancy, and so does she and stops at 4)
2006-10-03 12:08:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's an idiot.
Any man that has 10 kids BEFORE getting married and having 4 kids is not a suitable father, he is a sperm donor. His children are going to have millions of half- cousins and to think, they probably won't even meet each other.
Why would she stay with someone who could in fact have an STD from sleeping unprotected with that many women. Why would she stick with him knowing that all of his money is going to go to the 10 kids he has to pay support for. If you take one child support, then times it because there's 10, you'll get a ridiculous amount. How the hell would he even have anything left over to support his 4 kids from the marriage.
He cared nothing about his morals and he lied. He wasn't even honest to begin with obviously because he was ashamed of his disgusting behavior. I would've left his behind and pinned him for child support. Then he'd pay 14 kids child support and live a merry little life.
And, if he wanted to be a sperm donor (haha)... why didn't he just go to a place where they collect sperm for women whose husbands are unable to produce babies and get paid for it (because you do get paid for donating sperm).
Instead, he delivered his sperm to everyone and he's paying for it.
And she's stupid to be with him. If reputation doesn't bother her, reality should. Where are her morals for sticking with such a promiscuous man?
2006-10-03 12:15:24 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is stupid to go and have 4 kids by the age 24... Everything else is just icing on the cake. Looks like these two make a perfect couple.
2006-10-03 12:07:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's married to him now, and if she loves him then she's willing to deal with his lies which can't be changed. Otherwise, she could easily be one of the other kids Mom, on the outside looking in to what may be a happy family life.
2006-10-03 12:02:06 · answer #5 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the other 8 are from prior to the young lady then why would she leave? Now I would say this... he needs to financially and emotionally take care of his children... all of them.... and if he is not then she can be prepaired for the same treatment in her future.
2006-10-03 12:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is way too young for this she deserves better there is a reason he has 10 different baby's mommas. Let her move on
2006-10-03 12:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by Raineybaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she is stupid...He started a realationship by lieing and we all know thats a bad way to start..
2006-10-03 12:03:31 · answer #8 · answered by ?Whiskey Girl? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋