2006-10-03 04:55:40 · 10 answers · asked by Great G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As the dad, I would suggest introducing your kids to their new mom.
2006-10-03 06:09:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness. I would have told her long ago so she could grow into dealing with reality. At this point in her life it is going to shock her. She will be confused and will have much difficulty understanding this. I would tell her right away. Her reaction will probably be devastating to you but just think about whats going to be going through her head. I can't beleive that after 9 years he wants to be a "daddy". This may even cause issues with your husband because you know he is attached to your child as if she were his. After 8 years he would just about have to be. I feel sorry for your husband. This is going to hurt him too. He more than likely be pissed that the biological father just decided to step in because he now has a legal commitment to pay child support. If it was not for that he would be doing his thing which does not include your daughter. Let your daughter know whats going on. As a mother I'm sure you will know the best way to tell her this news. Let her know why you have not told her in the past and why it matters now. Also make sure she knows what a dad is and that her stepfather is the perfect example of what a REAL dad should be.
2016-03-18 04:05:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way...and they will be so upset...just do yourself and them a favor and avoid getting ugly with eachother at all costs. My ex got very ugly and I've had to bite my lip, not because he's right, he's an ***, but because in the end the ones who hurt the most are the kids. I can't tell you how many screwed up things he has done and I just will not tell the boys. I know on the surface of things, I look like the bad guy, I just keep telling myself that one day they will see whats real. Good luck:)
2006-10-03 05:11:59 · answer #3 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its going to be a hard time but make sure you tell them the truth at there knoledge of understanding make sure you tell them that mummy and daddy still love them just as much as you did before and that you will both be there for them as they are growing. children find situations like this hard to deal with and they might have a little resentment for a short while just be there for the ups and down and always show you love them good luck to you and i hope your children will be fine through this terrable time thinking of you all
2006-10-03 05:12:02 · answer #4 · answered by melody3470 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of how you do it depends on their ages...my son was 13....we went out together and spent good quality time...on the way home we talked about it...all that needs to be said is that mom and dad arent happy together anymore, that you both still love them, and that even though you both wont be living with them anymore they will still see both of you.....There is no reason to tell them about any infidelities or to voice complaints about the other parent....by the way kids are very observant...if the relationship is bad, they already know
2006-10-03 05:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be amazed at how preceptive children are. More than likely, they know there are problems between the two of you. When you do tell them, make sure to explain that it is not their fault, as that is what many children think.
2006-10-03 05:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to do. But you MUST assure them that no matter what they think, no matter what they have heard, it is NOT their fault!!! Mommy and daddy are the ones not working out the problems and none of the problems are their fault. But it won't matter, they will blame themselves anyway. Try to work it out & save the marriage....
2006-10-03 05:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice to see you and the husband (soon to be ex) are taking such a vested interest in the children's feelings.
So thoughtful of you two.
2006-10-03 05:08:17 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They arent stupid, they probably have a pretty good idea that things arent going right. They are probably going to take it kind of hard, but they will rebound quickly!!!
2006-10-03 05:15:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you also tell them you both love them very much. and the both of you will be there for then.
2006-10-03 05:25:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋