As I speak, my girlfriend is assuming her husband is cheating because she says he came too quickly while they were making love. I say its just the opposite. If it takes him a long time then theres a possibility, but too quick means he must not be getting enough. I dont being wrong, I just want my girl to be sure before she adddresses it to her husband. She needs to read it from strangers instead of just taking my word for it. Thanks.
2006-10-03 04:55:23 · 34 answers · asked by selfchecku 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell your girlfriend not to open up a can of worms just based on this theory, its suicide. There could be a number of factors as to why he does it so quickly, don't just jump to conclusion. I would suggest paying more attention to his behavior in and out of the bedroom. If she is unsatisfied with the length of time it takes, tell her to express that to him and perhaps they can work together to solve the issue. Good luck.
2006-10-03 05:15:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually the amount of time has nothing to do with cheating or not cheating. I know of a man who was having relations with 3 women... all 3 women ended up pregnant in the same month... all 3 had the same complaint... however I also know that at times my fiance can be speedy... however I know how often we have sex... lots of things could be causing this... however there would have to be more then just that to suspect cheating.
2006-10-03 05:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is definitely not a reason to think he is cheating. There are many reasons why a guy smuc quickly or even takes a long time. Even stress can be a factor. Just the fact that he is still having regular sex is a reason to think all is ok.
2006-10-03 04:58:59 · answer #3 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend has got this all wrong. This is by no means that he is cheating, some men come faster then others, That is just a men thing, It gets better by the years, this is nothing to be concerned about! But if you are not being satisfied, then their needs to be more foreplay with you, before he gets started, then this has to be discussed with him, that way both of you can be satisfied!
2006-10-03 05:07:31 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are correct, although some men have premature ejaculation on a regular basis. She should buy a book on the subject, if it's a regular occurance, and her and hubby should read it together and try out some of the things in the book. She could also get him off when he wakes up in the AM, an tell him that's just a taste of what is to "come" that night..... that might help with his ejaculation issue.
2006-10-03 04:58:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're both wrong. It doesn't mean anything. Does it always take you exactly the same amount of time? Of course not. If that is the only thing she is basing her suspicions on, she should just drop it, and not mention it to her husband. She really shouldn't be saying anything to you either. What happens between your friend and her husband should stay private.
2006-10-03 05:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I'm not a cheater, but I do finish quick cause we don't do it often like we used to, down from 4 times a week to maybe once. I get so excited that it feels good, and I finish, and I can't stand it when I do that, but if a guy is lasting longer.....he's doing it more frequently....cause when we were more regular with sex, I'd last till I was sore. Hope this helps!
2006-10-03 05:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by heymrdj1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see.....her husband orgasamed too quickly and now she thinks he's "cheating"? God help us. No wonder men divorce women at the drop of a hat nowadays.
Paranoid and simple minded. Men...do not laugh or say "Yeah....right on!" You're no better nowadays.
Just wait until your friend has some real trauma happen in her life. She obviously needs SOMETHING in her life if she makes any analysis like that.
2006-10-03 05:00:20 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do agree that too quickly can be from not enough...but it can also be from way too excited! I think that you need to talk to your friend a little more to see if there is a deeper problem and she's using this as a way out. Don't let her call it on he's cheating without proof!!! Too quickly...NOT proof!
2006-10-03 05:02:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should be looking at other areas of her relationship with her husband if she wants to find out if he is cheating. Maybe strange behavior in bed could be a clue, but I don't think that the above would be a reason to think he is cheating.
2006-10-03 04:59:19 · answer #10 · answered by mariposa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋