I'm currently married with a two 1/2 month old son. Sadly, I have a gut feeling my marriage isn't going to last much longer. I'm young, and I consider my self to be pretty, and smart, what are the chances of finding a great guy who will love me as well as my son? I know a lot of men don't like women with kids. But I only have one... I just would like to know. By the way, I am not vain for saying I consider myself to be pretty and smart. It's called "confidence". (Just a disclaimer for all the people who like to nit-pick)
2006-10-03 04:46:24 · 24 answers · asked by Ashley D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i know your looking for male response/ but i can give you my man's point of view/ as well as mine /wouldn't matter to hI'm kids or no kids/long as there is a connection/that out weighs the kid thing/ and he loves them/ for me i love them too/ but i don't think im strong enough to take on someone Else's' baggage-meaning the ex-that will always be connected / may i suggest when your out dating/don't mention (mommy)/ let him get to know you for you/ then/ if their is a connection/ you can bring in the (mommy) thing/ it's not dishonest/ it's just letting the other know you better
for you!! not your title/ this way if there is something there/ he may like to give it a shot/ PS also watch out for perv's be surprised how many losers pray on children through the mommy(another reason you never disclose you have children) until later in the game good luck
2006-10-03 05:05:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heh.
Firstly, I think your confidence is great.
It makes a change.
Secondly, I wouldn't have a problem dating a woman that already had a child. It takes a lot of hard work and constant effort to be a parent, and I admire any woman (infact, anybody) that takes on the role, giving it 100% all the time.
If you find a man that doesn't learn to love your son, while loving you, he isn't worth your time. Whether you have 1, 2, or 3 kids, any man that adores and respects you, will open his heart to those around you, without hesitation. And you should never settle for less.
2006-10-03 11:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by Medicated Harmony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, I'm not nit-picky like that. I only pick at nits such as that you probably meant to type "2 1/2" or two-and-a-half, which mean the same thing, assuming that's what you meant. Just a thought.
Right, then. This guy likes you, right? I mean really, the two of you love each other, right? (I'm just guessing, here.) Well, then. If that is the case, he would stick with his companion (you) through thick and thin. I know I would. There's my answer.
2006-10-03 11:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The energy you are wasting on who you are going to be with next, would be better spent thinking about why you think your marriage is not going to last and then working on ways to make it last. Regardless of whether or not the marriage last, the man will still be your infants father, so isn`t it worth the effort to resolve whatever the issues may be, instead of focusing on who the next man will be to keep you warm at night. Then when that doesn`t last, probably due to the same issues that your marriage didn`t last you will just be going in the same circle. Do the work now and save yourself and your child much heartache down the road.
2006-10-03 11:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by nashville 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have confidence and if people don't like that, bug off... Now to your question, I believe you could find someone who would care for you first then learn to love your son. I would suggest you not to subject him to every guy you go out with, too much on the line of them liking you or disliking you for the sake of the child. You want them to want you and they will realize if they are mature that you have a child and he comes with you. Good Luck and don't stay where you are not happy you will be thinking in 5 years you wasted a lot of time.
2006-10-03 11:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by kirsten215 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of guys out there that would accept and love the both of you. The key is to let anyone new in your life know right away that you have a child. If they run away then it is their lose. There are guys out there that will love you and your son. Don't give up hope they are out there. I know for me personally I would love to find a wonderful woman and if she had kids so be it - that would be even better. You sound like a great person - keep your chin up high!!!
2006-10-03 11:52:08 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some years ago a close friend of mine who had just become a single mother asked me this same question. At the time I told her I was concerned because at that time I found it hard to see myself dating someone who had children. (I just wasn't ready for that yet.) Well, time has passed and she has found a nice guy she is happy with. And me? Yeah I would date someone with children. Bottom line? Having a son isn't going to help any, but there are still a lot of guys, nice guys, who would be ready and willing to date a single mother. The dating pool may be a little smaller, but it's still a nice size and can provide you with a good swim. Good luck!
2006-10-03 11:50:53 · answer #7 · answered by danl747 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you can. i realize there is a stigma out there with guys and kids, but it depends on the age group and maturity of the guys you are meeting. and so when you are thinking about finding a guy for you and your son, you have to consider qualities in a guy that your son needs, because if you want a guy whose loaded, and looks like a model, then your chances of finding a father for your son is not so high.
you may want to also look for a guy who is also divorced, who was at one time in their life ready for a serious commitment.
2006-10-03 11:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by veergeo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is always someone out there,i was 23 and i ended up marrying a woman with 4 kids it all just depends on what kind of man you are everyone told me that i was one of a kind for doin what i did but at the time i was in love with this person eventually i seperated and i no longer love her anymore but do think of her as a friend.
2006-10-03 11:50:59 · answer #9 · answered by magic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes men can be a bit picky about a woman with kids, but a lot of men out there would be ready to take that challenge for the right person.
Personally i'd be more concerned about why your present marraige failed so soon..
2006-10-03 11:51:19 · answer #10 · answered by Norman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋