I am currently trying to conceive..any advice?

Question

I have been off the pill for a month.

When do you know you are ovulating and is that the best time to try?

Serious answers only please...thanks...

Answer 1

Having been off the pill for a month, your body may be ready to get pregnant or it may not. Depending on the type of birth control pill, and your own body, it may vary from person to person. Normally being off the pill for a month is enough time to start trying to get pregnant. Your period may be different now that you are off the pill than when you were on it and your cycle may tend to vary slightly compared to how it was when you were on the pill. The best time to try to conceive is usually about 10 days after the start of your period. It is reccommended that you try every other day starting at this time and going until the time of your next period. You do not necessarily need to try everyday, although it doesn't hurt, since you are trying to time it so that there are still sperm living inside the woman's body at the time when the egg is released from the ovum and travels down the fallopian tubes. Sperm can survive for a few days inside the woman's body. There are products out there that are designed as ovulation calculators, but the simplest way to figure it out is to figure out when your last period started. Then calculate when you expect your next one to start based on your cycle. You will know when your period starts obviously, and begin 10 days after the start. Your period will of course be over by then and your window for ovulation should be open. Although you can get pregnant even trying for the first time, for many people it can take several months and the chance for success depends a lot on things like age and health of both participants. If you think that something is not right, or is taking longer than several months of trying, then you should seek out a doctor.

Answer 2

If you can predict when you'll get your period... count back 14 days from that date. That is when you'll ovulate. You are most fertile 2 days before, the day of, and the day after ovulation. So if you'll be getting your period on... say 11/1/06 you will ovulate 10/19/06... and you should be having intercourse the 17, 18, 19, and 20th. Contrary to popular belief... having lots of sex can work against you. It's recommended that you have sex every 36 - 48 hours (this gives the sperm potent strength). There's no need for pillows under your back or any drastic measures. Just take a quick pee right after intercourse and jump into bed just to relax or go to sleep (the point is to be horizontal & relaxed).
I got prego the first month trying... and with my second pregnancy, it took 3 months (because I was nursing quite frequently). I've always used this method not only for getting pregnant but as birth control (natural birth control). When you know your cycle and watch it carefully, you can accomplish alot.
Good luck making babies!

Answer 3

To find out when you are ovulating, you can either use an ovulation kit, or chart your daily bbt (basal body temperature). You can get info on charting your bbt, as well as other valuable information about predicting ovulation at fertilityfriend.com.

The best days for conception are the 2 days prior to ovulation and the day of, which is why you need to know when you ovulate. Not every woman ovulates on day 14 of their cycle, or 14 days before their expected period. That's why you need to find out when YOU ovulate. Just before ovulation, you will have cervical mucus (discharge) that resembles raw egg whites. When you see that, have sex that day and the next few days. But check out the web-site for more ways to detect ovulation.

If you don't conceive within a few months, I would consult with your OBGYN. Many people wait a year or longer to seek professional help. I think they waste valuable time and end up getting depressed because of the waiting game and the disappointment each month. Don't put yourself through that.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 4

I see someone already recommended the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. I am giving this book a strong recommendation. The author is Toni Weschler. This book will teach you all about when you ovulate. Don't listen to those who say you ovulate on day 14, or to use ovulation predictor kits. Neither are accurate. And taking your temp tells you only that you have already ovulated, as your temp does not go up until after ovulation. I have very irregular cycles and ovulate anywhere from day 9 to day 32!! But with this method it doesn't matter, because I always know when I'm ovulating! Trust me, buy it.

Answer 5

Do what my mum did. Get legal representation. (then she handed the whole situation over to a friend and moved overseas for 12 months. When she came back all her belongings were in storage and she was divorced) I know you can't take off with your children but maybe get some distance from the situation by not making any personal contact. Even if it means another relative drops & picks up the kids at his house when he has them. Unfortunately it will cost more than doing it face to face but it will save a lot of hassles for you and it may be over much quicker. Also it will be better for the kids if you don't argue with each other. Make a pact that you won't badmouth each other in front of them even when the other parent isn't present. It's all about what's best for them right now. Good luck, I wish you the best.

Answer 6

I advise that you wait 2 periods after you got off the pill and try in the third month. this is what I did. I also went to the store and bought a thermometer for oluvating charting. it's great. everyday (the third month) you chart your temp on the chart and then when you are oluvating it will go way up high but you need to also get a olvulating kit it will tell you that you are fertile that's when you have sex. it worked for me the same month. i am 43 and i have a 18 month old.

Charting is best cause every woman ovluated differently some on the 14th day some before.

Answer 7

I got pregnant on our second month trying. I read the book "Taking Charge of your Fertility" which is excellent. It helps you understand all the signs you body puts out to let you know it is ovulating. One of the main signs is when your cervical fluid begins looking like egg whites. If you notice that happening be sure to do the deed!!

After we had sex I would lie on my back and elevate my hips.

Fertilityfriend.com is an excellent resource. I charted there and it really helped me understand my cycle. There are great boards on there with LOADS of information.

If you are not in a rush to get pregnant just stop protecting and try to increase the frequency of sex in the middle of your cycle.

Good LUCK!

Answer 8

When my husband and were ttc, my doctor asked me to have one regular period off of my pill and then start trying. She then told me to take my temp every morning BEFORE getting out of bed. My usual temp was around 97, but if it went up to 99 or so that meant I was ovulating. (Every woman's temp will be different). I would say to take your temp for a month and see the flucuation....if you can't figure it out on your own, then take your chart to your doctor and she will be able to help you understand what all the ups and downs with your temp means. Good Luck to you!

Answer 9

To get pregnant you must have sex on a day that your eggs are being released. That is the best day to try.

After the 3rd day from the day that menses started put a thermometer into your mouth and check your body temperature every morning before you start turning in bed. The best time is at about 4 a.m. Maintain a chart. You will find that on one day the body temperature drops from 1/2 degree to one degree. This is the day that your eggs are being released. If you want to get pregnant this is the day that you must have sex. Tell your husband to ejaculate on his inward thrust so that the sperms will shoot deep inside.

After having sex you must stay in bed for about 30 mins with your knees bent up with a pillow under your buttocks so that the sperms will not pour out - to enable them to travel up.

Get your husband to save his sperms in the testacles for at least 3 days before sex to enable them to mature well to do their job.

Answer 10

You can start trying to chart your bbt (basal body temperature). Check out this site. It'll explain everything in detail.

http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/preconception/gettingpregnant/3195.html

Start taking folic acid. It's really important in the baby's very early development. You can try those ovulation predictor kids. I never had very good luck with them, but a friend did.
Schedule a checkup with you ob/gyn and they should be able to give you some other options.

Good luck!!