A very good friend had a girlfriend who died a couple years ago. He's never really got over it yet, although he has a new girlfriend now. When ever we say the other girls name, it reduces him to tears because that was his first real love, although he's had girlfreinds before her. I was talking with another group of friends and they were talking about how sad it was that the girl died so young and how my friend seems to be getting over this day by day. A guy who is known for saying stuff before he thinks say "He should just get over it by now. She's dead and she's not coming back". Needless to say, we were all very upset because our friend doesn't really handle death all that well.
My friend has no idea that he said this and we were all worried about if we should tell him about this or not, seeing as how his temper is very short. Should we tell our friend this guy made this statement or not?
2006-10-03 04:27:56 · 7 answers · asked by D-Wizzle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just to let you know, My friend talks about the girl almost every day to us and it seems to help. It's still a touchy subject with him but it's not as bad as it was two years ago. The girl died when we she was 18, not to long after they graduated and he's going on 21 now.
2006-10-03 04:53:06 · update #1
When you consider a question like that, you have to ask yourself.
"What good could possibly come from doing that?"
The death of this girl is a touchy subject for your friend. This would only serve to make him feel worse. Is that going to help him?
The other guy may be a little insensitive, but he does make a valid point. It's been two years, & your very good friend needs to start to heal. It's always sad when a person so young passes away. But it would be even sadder if your friend spiraled into the depths of depression over this. If he is still feeling the same profound sadness as he did the day he learned of her death, then he really does need to "Get Over IT". Encourage him to talk a little more about his feelings, & ask him why he thinks he is still grieving so much. If he can't do it with his friends then suggest that he go for grief councelling. This could get worse before it gets better.
So don't tell him what this other guy said. He just isn't ready to hear it right now.
2006-10-03 04:48:19 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What would be the point of telling your friend ? It will only make him mad and want to fight.
The person who said this is insensitive but honest. He should learn his people skills.
You telling your friend would make you feel better but would not benefit your friend at all.
dint do it!
2006-10-03 04:54:10 · answer #2 · answered by P-Wally 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uuuhhhhmm, no!!!!
he does not need to know it will not benefit your sensitive freind at all if he knew this
sometimes people say stupid things, and what exactly will it achieve if you did tell him, nothing positive im sure, so let it go,
2006-10-03 04:37:07 · answer #3 · answered by punkrockprincess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why add petrol to a fire. Your friend already has issues and do you really need to add an ignorant remark to his issues?
2006-10-03 04:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by brahman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!
All you would be doing is causing your friend more pain and causing trouble and hard feelings between two people. Have you or any of your friends thought of suggesting grief counseling. It could help.
2006-10-03 04:37:05 · answer #5 · answered by BUPPY'S MEME 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
shouldnt cause you just dont understand
2006-10-03 04:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by spaz666man 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well tell him tht life is short ......and we should look straight forward.....in the future cos if he is not happy ,his gf might not be resting in peace.
2006-10-03 04:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by ~electra~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋