I am 19 and getting married to my 18 year old g/f who is 3 months pregnant. We are going to the courthouse in December and having a wedding in the summer, anything I should know about marriage before I go into it?
2006-10-03 04:15:07 · 28 answers · asked by David S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be open and honest in your communication with her. Remember you are a team now. You do your best for her, and she should do her best for you. It's not all fun and games - it's hard work being married. It's not fun to wash dishes, cook and clean, do shopping, work and pay bills, but the rewards are found in a quiet moment watching the sunset, or holding your baby for the first time and watching that child grow. Show your wife and child tenderness and compassion. Treat her as you would like to be treated.
I know it can work. I was 18 when I got married, and my husband was 20. We've been married 27 years now. It's not easy, but it is very rewarding. I love him more now than I did when I was 18. Good luck to you and your family.
PS Even though you're going to the court house, with the wedding planned later, give her flowers or a gift or something this time too, because this is your actual marriage date.
2006-10-03 04:25:24 · answer #1 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make a 2nd mistake if you don't think she is the one for you for a lifetime. I wouldn't get married at the courthouse. Getting married later usually doesn't happen, then the only memory of her wedding day is at the courthouse. Can you use someone's backyard to decorate? My daughter got married in our back yard, we decorated it up, my wife made a 3 tier wedding cake and I officiated. At least she has a wedding day she can remember. This is about her, not the groom. Grooms are way down on the list of important people at a wedding.....
2006-10-03 11:19:33 · answer #2 · answered by daj11551 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny...that seems to be a question you should have been asking before your got your 18 g/f pregnant!
Marriage is hard enough to handle at the start without a child involved. Be committed to making it work and find a counselor to go to when there are the inevitable rough spots. Don't be afraid to ask for help, work hard, support your family. You owe it to your kid that had no choice in the matter.
2006-10-03 11:21:30 · answer #3 · answered by missourim43 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah if you truly love this girl and are dedicated to helping her raising your child then go ahead and marry her and be happy together
When you get to the courthouse you both will need to know info about your parents( where they were born and when) and you will also have to have your drivers liscence, birth certificate and social security number to prove who you are and proof of you age
I know this info because I have been married twice and both mariages ended because they cheated on me So marriage is a union not to be taken lightly Now my current boyfriend and I are engaged but not sure when we are getting married We are happy for now raising our first child a baby boy I gave birth to and who is a happy and healthy three month old because of us working together
2006-10-03 11:28:49 · answer #4 · answered by evillynn8098 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are two young to get married, but even younger to have a child. However, Have open communication ALWAYS, support each other ALWAYS! Love each other as much as you can. Work threw your problems as a team. Even when things seem to be stacked against you, as long as you and your partner build up a strong bond, you guys can do anything. Please continue your education and continue to work, because you both can still lead amazing lives, you just have to work harder now. Good luck.
2006-10-03 11:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by thealysiad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check to see what you need to bring. A lot of times you'll need the name of your parents (full names) their address, your birth certificates, drivers license, cash money, name of person marrying you and their address, and and the place you are getting married with date. And if the other person has been married before a divorce or death certificate.
2006-10-03 11:20:22 · answer #6 · answered by Aubrey's mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are about to endure the hardest thing you have ever done in your life. Make sure you both express your feelings at all times no matter what they are, Honesty is really the best policy.
2006-10-03 11:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by kinreep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALWAYS PUT EACH OTHER FIRST TAKE CARE OF YOUR CHILDERN AND BE THERE WHEN THE OTHER NEEDS YOU AND TRY TO NOT GET TOO BUSY TO FIND TIME TO TALK AND JUST HOLD EACH OTHER I GOT MARRIED AT 18 AND MY HUSBAND WAS 21 AND WE HAVE BEEN HAPPILY MARRIED FOR ALMOST 29 YRS OH YEAH REMEMBER THIS IS FOR EVER ! GOD BLESS
2006-10-03 11:24:43 · answer #8 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage takes a lot of work but it's worth it if it is with the person you love
2006-10-03 11:19:18 · answer #9 · answered by Briget B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to argue well with each other, do you want to win the argument or still like each other when the fight ends? Arguments are part of any relationship. Learn to say "we will get over this".
2006-10-03 11:47:49 · answer #10 · answered by yeah-a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋