I have my own opinions to this question, but would love to hear everyone elses. I stumbles from my current life with people I considered friends but do not want to talk or spend time with me.
2006-10-03 04:12:38 · 23 answers · asked by Knight-wing 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Because people don't deserve your trust!
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2006-10-03 04:14:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as we all get older and out of school, you start to realize who your true friends are. People that said they would always be there for you start going there own separate ways and those who are forreal stay with you for the rest of your life. There can be several reasons that the more people you meet, the less you trust them. Since I don't know your history, I could say this and I could be right or I could be wrong, just take it with a grain of salt: maybe throughout your life, more recently, those friends have hurt you or disrrupted your trust by lying or standing you up, something along those lines, and now it's hard to trust them because of what they're doing. Another reason might be that the new people you do meet are fake or users and don't want friends, they want someone to take advantage of. That might be why it's hard to trust new people. It is really hard when you meet new people to trust them anyway because unlike those friends you've known forever, you don't know them. But, it can be hard to meet new people and trust them, but at the same time, why don't you maybe try letting go a little of some past grudges and giving new people a chance, it's hard, I know, I'm the same way. But I'm doing better now. Give everyone you meet a chance to gain your trust, if they break it, then you know you can't trust them, but until they do break that trust, give all your trust to them (with some limitations of course). But see if that might be why it's hard to trust.
2006-10-03 11:21:26 · answer #2 · answered by beautifulsweetheart20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is no bad thing, it is probably not healthy to trust every single person you meet.
Maybe your negative outlook on life and people depresses your 'friends' but in saying that they can't be proper friends if they don't try to cheer you up and be there for you.
Has something happened to you in your past which makes you distrust? Maybe someone has let you down? I think you need to get a new set of friends and try enjoying your life, after all you only get one and it is too short to live it in misery.
2006-10-03 11:21:36 · answer #3 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nobody is perfect and we only hurt ourselves when we expect them to be. You can't take it personally when your friends let you down cause sooner or later, they are all going to.
I'm an old chick that's been around the block a time or two and I wish I hadn't spent so much of my youth worrying over stupid **** my friends and lovers did to me. You've just got to love people where they're at, and take the good and ignore the bad.
I sure would have had an easier time in life if I had learned that a few decades ago.
P.S. It helps a lot if you learn to love yourself too.
Peace and Love :)
2006-10-03 11:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by mimi22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let me try it from this stand point.... friends are like trees you have your leaves, branches, & roots. Some friends come in your life as leaves and just like leaves when the season changes they blow away. Some friends are like branches, you think they are pretty strong but as soon as you step out on them for support they break, and then you have the roots, just like trees roots are the foundation but there are only a few roots while there are hundreds of branches and leaves. So I think the reason you feel this way is because we will only have a few true blue friends that are meant to be in our lives forever and the rest are just there because they are what we need at that time. People are people and that's just life. Hope I didn't go way out there on that one...:-) Good Question!
2006-10-03 11:16:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people seem to put on acts, to get your attention in the first place. But it's only until you get to know someone, how they really think & feel. Remember real friends, don't ever try to get you to do anything that will hurt you, in any way. Real friends are there for you no matter what happens. It's hard to find real friends, you just have to be careful who you trust!
PS. Hope this helps!
2006-10-03 12:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by elizabethberkley284 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very difficult to trust people as you never can tell immediately, trust has to be earned and that takes time, but unfortunately there are a lot of bad apples out there
2006-10-03 11:18:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life truly is a beach. people are the tides, coming in and going out, leaving a little, taking a little. Pick your company carefully, be careful of whom you place your trust in.
2006-10-03 11:22:19 · answer #8 · answered by Jon S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are meeting all the wrong people??? if they do not want to talk or spend time then they are not really friends, and maybe subconsciously you know this and thats why you cant trust anyone you meet?
2006-10-03 11:16:18 · answer #9 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy do I know that feeling, humph. I agree with Linus on this one... I love mankind it's people I can't stand.
Don't be so quick to let others into your life, your private, real you life and it won't hurt quite so much when they stomp out.
2006-10-03 11:17:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same with me.
People lost the meaning of friendship. They care only for themselves and their material profit. If they can use you for something then they will be your friends if not - they won't call you at all.
2006-10-03 11:18:36 · answer #11 · answered by leoluna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋