I am shy and introversion person. How can i cange into extraversion, social and talkative.?

Question

I don't know what to say when i meet someone for the first time. I don't know what to talk about. and how can i start talking. Or how can i chat up a girl in the street for example what to say ? How can i improve my personality into more open less shy, and more talkative and confident personality ?
I wish i can talk to people and make them feel as if i were a superstar.
I am also wonder how can i improve my sence of hummer. How can i be funny ?

Answer 1

i'm actually a bit like you. Although, i do have a good sense of humour. I think it would be best for you to go to a class depending on your age and there you can meet people who intersted in the same thing which helps converstion. Try your local leisure centre

Answer 2

First you should know that being shy is not a bad thing, you need to see that it is a part of your personality and once you accept that this next step will be a littlle easier. In order to become more in tune with the extravert inside of you you need to start by being bold in your private life. So for instance when you are purchasing items at a store smile at the cashier and say hey at least the day is almost over or tell them how many days until the next long weekend. They will laugh and smile and start talking to you. Small gestures of humanity often are the most extraverted things you could achieve. Once you feel that you have been successful at chatting up a stranger at the checkout then you can move on to smiling at people on the street. Once you have mastered both you then can build on that by asking a person on the street for directions (even if you know the way) and then once you mastered that I suggest you turn around and attempt the tricks in a social atmosphere and initial conversation starters (with women complimenmt them on how they look and how they are attracting all the attention in the room because they are stunningly beautiful...then follow up with how discuss how her eyes sparkle in the light etc.) and with guys (talk to them about which lady looks hot and who you would like to see more of) once you use these tricks the conversation will flow and you won't have to worry about how to keep the conversation moving. Good luck and I hope this helps.

Answer 3

I don't think you can change from an introvert to an extrovert. An introvert gains it's energy from being alone in order to have the energy to deal with people. An extrovert gains it's energy from being with people.

However, you can work on how you socialize with people. I'm always shy at first, but I'm quick to ease after I've been in the social situation for a minute. You can join a group or do some volunteer work which forces you to become more social and you will gain some confidence.

As for being able to chat up a girl on the street, maybe you start off simple by just smiling and saying hi. Do that for a little until it isn't as scary to you anymore then take baby steps to further conversation.

Answer 4

By building up your confidence, this can be done by attending Social skills training sessions, you could also try to get more, if you have a dog maybet take him for a walk and you might just meet people. Shyness is now called social anxiety disorder and can be treated by a trained and fully qualified psychotherapist go to your G.P. if it is affecting you that much. Other options can be making yourself go out more even if it is just once everyday and positive self-talk may also be effective this is called affirmation, or joining a local social group.

Answer 5

Hiya, I used to be overly quiet and shy around people I dont know, however from being at work I have had to deal with new people, awkward people etc From this its just allowed me to speak to people Ive never met. Its mostly just having a little more confidence, say hello, smile, make the girl laugh and ask questions about her. Humour is there or it isnt I think yours will be different to mine for example. Go out with mates and talk to their friends you dont know and then take it further from there!

Answer 6

Take on a team sport like Rugby - The more extroverts you hang around with the more it rubs off.

You will then find yourself in situations that are interesting and can be related making you interesting.

Jokes can be practised until you get them right the more you tell the better you get. Watch comedy videos practise the jokes.

Join a theatrical group if sport is not your bag.

Answer 7

Lots of helpful answers to your thread and lots of people have said things I would have said myself. One thing to remember is that just because you are shy, it doesn't mean that everyone else is super confident. It also doesn't mean that other people are going to laugh, sneer, criticise or belittle you if you try and talk to them. Most people are a mix of confidence and shyness, and if you make the first move by talking to them, they will probably appreciate your efforts and respond positively.

Answer 8

this is my advice for people who are shy... and i was one of them (sometimes still am!) for the longest time, but really had to work on my self confidence. :) also, regarding sense of humor, i believe the more u Learn and Study and Develop your knowledge, the more you will be Able to find humor in situations, and be able to make more jokes, because u "know" more, and can "connect" more subjects and ideas together! :) good luck to you!


the more u work on urself, the better u will feel. *trust me*.

so having said that, work on:

1) your appearance: work out. exercise. take care of ur body. take care of ur skin. get new haircut. try on new clothes. buy Flattering, stylish clothes, make u feel good and look good.

2) your mind: study. read more. learn more about current events. find a hobby, and excel at it. the more u KNOW, the easier it will be for you to develop your own ways of thinking, as well as be able to TALK w/ others about it.

3) your relationships: as u build ur confidence in urself, and keep in mind to be Open Minded, Non Judgemental to others..... u will be able to speak out more, talk to ur friends, family members, practice talking about anything and everything u are learning, or find out what they are interested in. the more u practice, the easier it will be for u to do that with Strangers, or friends of friends, and not feel as shy...because remember, 1 & 2, u are already working on ur appearance and your brain, so u don't have as much to be "scared" about.

:) good luck...the more Positive attitude u have (remember, u can Always change something if u make a mistake, u can learn from it, u can always grow, and do something different tomorrow), the more opportunity u will have in ur life. confidence will lead to easier job interviews, class discussions, making friends, getting to know teachers, etc etc.... huge impact on ur life. but getting over ur shyness is the first step, and working on ur confidence will help u become less shy.

Answer 9

Hello,
Cherry here and I put down a few tip on how to overcome shyness, hope they are useful.

( Shyness is sometimes inaccurately called social phobia )

* Practice becoming fascinated by other people. Ask them about themselves, and concentrate when they answer you. Remember what they tell you about themselves so you can talk about it later, or on another occasion.


* Great socialisers make other people feel comfortable and interesting. How do they do that? By being really, genuinely interested in other people. If you are talking to someone and you feel boring or inferior, ask why that is. Is it really all your fault?


* Practice using fewer 'personal pronouns' when you talk about things. Sentences beginning with 'I' are not only a turn-off for the listener, they also keep the focus of attention on you, which increases shyness. (Note: Of course, part of friendship is giving away things about yourself, but only when you feel it is appropriate to do so.)


* Remember that the way to overcome shyness is to focus elsewhere. Like on imagining what it will be like to really enjoy the social event, on how it will feel to be full of energy, or to be having a great conversation with someone.

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If this was helpful to you in any way, please write back, you see I'm a beginner with this and I'd really appreciate it if you'd give me your opinion on the advice!
-Cherry

Answer 10

first of all... dont make yourself the joke of a conversation. talk about what you did the last days, ask questions concerning life, where to go out, hobbies, everything that concerns you too, or the books you've read last, funny things you saw on the street.
and smile. smiling makes people comfortable, and when they are, you will get comfortable, too i am pretty sure about that, and the conversation will be easier than you could imagine.