ok, so an add on from the question yesterday. when i got home my husband was still super pissed at the whole strip club thing that just to piss me off he went out with his friends and went to the one down the street,(we live right over the bridge in cinci). I didnt want to say anything because i didnt want him getting angry and taking more **** out on me. i feel like he did some things that could ruin our marriage. I want to ask him but im afraid he will then accuse me of not trusting him ECT and a big argument will break out. i feel really bad about this whole situation and hate it that he is pissed. i kinda want to give in to him just so this whole thing can be over..what would you do in this problem?
2006-10-03 03:38:58 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, I don't think you're going to like this answer but it's the truth as I see it. This man sounds like a control freak and he's got you exactly where he wants you! If you give in, you are telling him that you accept him just the way he is and that regardless of how badly he behaves, you will always be there and everything will still be ok. If you desire to be the submissive wife in an uncaring relationship, then go ahead and give in. Make peace. It's a lot easier than the alternative. However, if you have respect for yourself and a desire to have a healthy, loving relationship, don't give in!! He should actually be crawling to you, begging your forgiveness for his insensitivities. However, it kinda sounds like that's not in him. Maybe you too blinded by love to notice you were marrying a chauvanistic, uncaring pig!! Sorry, but that's what he sounds like. I applaud you for having gone to the strip club with him to begin with. Most women probably wouldn't have been open minded enough to even try that and he should recognize and appreciate that. And, he should have had enough respect for your feelings to leave with you when you felt you couldn't deal with it anymore. And, having lap dances in front of you? That is just the icing on the cake!! What the hell was he thinking?? No wife or girlfriend I know of in this realm of reality would be cool with that!! And, after being callas enough to let you leave on your own and him staying until 2am, he has the nerve to be mad at YOU and go out again to another strip club the next night?!?! Can we say "HUGE RED FLAG"?? He is obviously either too immature for a succesful, committed relationship or he just flat out doesn't care or thinks you will accept whatever he dishes out. Afterall, look where you're at now!! As far as I'm concerned, he is the one completely in the wrong and YOU are the one feeling bad and wanting to give in? I know this is hard to hear but you've gotta respect yourself and stand your ground. If it means the end of your marriage, it's a hard pill to swallow but would probably be for the best. The alternative? Maybe, just maybe, if he really loves you, he'll smarten up when he realizes you will not accept his crap. Walk if that's what it comes down to. Better yet, pack his bags and leave them in front of the local strip club for pick up and then HE can walk, lol! It's a hard situation to be in. It's easy for all of us here to give our opinions on your situation but it's hard for you, the person who is actually living it. Obviously you love him or you wouldn't have married him but sometimes giving up doesn't mean you are weak. Sometimes it means you are strong enough to let go. Best of Luck. Whatever way it goes, I hope you find peace and happiness within. Take care and good luck.
2006-10-03 04:07:40 · answer #1 · answered by Super-Mom9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fight with him over this, you need to make you position very clear and how this is ruining your marriage. He has made it very clear from what your are saying that he does not care what you think about it and he was very wrong not to leave with you when you left the club. The fact that you did try and went with him was a huge effort on your part. He was very disrespectful to have a lap dance and very selfish to not leave with you. I do not know if it is an option or not, but if you have a someplace to go, I would pack your stuff that you need and leave and just leave him a note, that says something like..."Since you choose strippers over me, I have gone to my moms to really think about what kind of husband I have." Don't argue, don't fight, just be very calm...if he calls or comes by, tell him that you can not be with a man that prefers to look at other women over you and get lap dances from other women. If that is what he wants, then he can have that, but he can not have you and the strippers. You have to get away though, that way you are safe and after a day or two, maybe the point will sink in, he has a choice to make. Do not be ugly to him and do not say anything you will regret, just do not let him keep the strippers and you, you deserve better.
2006-10-03 03:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why no longer? When I used to be 21 I used to be in school and going to golf equipment with my peers. I had underage peers that wherein ready to head too, however considering that they could not drink besides I made them my precise motive force's. During the night time I noticed them ingesting alcohol (which they bought from our RA!) so I switched to water. After that I under no circumstances drank at golf equipment once more (most effective water or soda). My factor is that you just CAN hire your self to be your possess precise motive force. Don't feel that it is going to eliminate from you leisure both. I had a bigger sober then I ever did inebriated.
2016-08-29 08:43:44 · answer #3 · answered by brickman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go to a strip club myself, spend all of the money in our accounts, come home, and have sex with the spouse.
2006-10-03 03:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the end result is a small loss of cash,and a large amount of steamy,hot makeup sex,then consider it money well spent.
2006-10-03 03:46:24 · answer #5 · answered by onelonevoice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im SORRY IS NOT THAT HARD TO SAY EVEN IF WE FILL WE DID NOTHING WRONG IF IT PUTS PEACE IN YOUR HOUSE ITS WORTH IT THE BIBLE SAYS IF YOU OFFINE SOME ONE YOU GO TO THAT PERSON AND MAKE RIGHT SEEM SO SIMPLE TO ME "BABE IM SORRY!" 3 WORDS OH YEAH A I LVE YOU MIGHT HELP!
2006-10-03 03:48:33 · answer #6 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u gotta talk him out in a peacefull manner.
2006-10-03 03:42:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋