I discovered today that a girl I know is my half sister- we have the same dad. I confirmed my suspicions by saying I know her mum & finding out her mum's name. I don't know if her parents have ever told her about me, but I want to say something to her because she's going to live in Canada, and I really like her. I don't want to upset anybody, so what should I do?
2006-10-03 03:31:35 · 17 answers · asked by Twisty 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
To add to my question, I can't ask my father. He was only 21 when I was born & he hasn't seen me since I was a baby. I have a sister who is abroad at the moment
2006-10-03 04:06:25 · update #1
I am 40 she is 33
2006-10-03 04:07:07 · update #2
i wld say ..yes ..tell her who u are...this may be the last chance u have to let her knw this...its a turning point in history for you as it will be for her also but ..theres nothing better than to knw u found someone in your life who is closer and hence may mean even more than u thought..its a choice i knw is gonna be hard to make but i wld say ...let her knw and take the chance to find each other for who u really are..otherwise it will just be a lifelong lie and it wld hurt you more than anyone else ...good luck with your choice...i hope u do whats right for you and your sister..
2006-10-03 03:39:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say contact your dad first then go from there, I've been chasing up family I've lost contact from and found it easier to deal with the parents before contacting the children.
2006-10-03 11:46:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how old she is. If she is an adult, then maybe you should. But if she is younger, you should probably talk to your dad, or her mom. It would be great if you could have a relationship, but not knowing how much she knows about her (and your) father's life prior to her existence, could be traumatic for her.
2006-10-03 10:36:41 · answer #3 · answered by JerseyGypsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have your facts straight- then by all means.
Honesty is the best policy.
She may know already-
She may not care-
She may be trilled.
Aren't you?
Don't tell her unless you are open to an honest relationship.
Family is family. You have to be sincere.
This invloves more than just you and her.
2006-10-03 10:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by cork 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her parents and see if they have any good reason for you not to tell her. If they don't then ask her parents to say something. It will seem better hearing it from them.
2006-10-03 10:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by carolinexx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that is an amazing thin to find that you have another sibling and u already like her and shes leaving think of the reults of if you do or if u dont
2006-10-03 10:33:27 · answer #6 · answered by mssjj87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her, if she does not know its her parents fault for not telling her, secrets only cause pain x good luck honey
2006-10-03 10:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by trouble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your chance pass you by. You're not doing anything wrong, so, if anyone gets upset about it, that's for them to deal with, not you.
2006-10-03 10:43:22 · answer #8 · answered by curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her. If you don't, you'll never know what might have happened. It's always better to be open and honest.
2006-10-03 10:33:31 · answer #9 · answered by megtownson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself would you like to know if things were the other way around??
I hope it all goes well for you!!
2006-10-03 10:37:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋