2006-10-03 03:18:59 · 13 answers · asked by gs_girl_99 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Personally, I would never waste that much time with someone. I mean when you're younger it's fine, but once you reach a certain age, well, it just seems silly. It does NOT take seven years to know if you want to be with someone. And you know what he shouldn't marry you if he's not ready or doesn't want to, but you should realize that you deserve to be with somone who DOES want to marry you--and not because you force them into it with an ultimatum and he's afraid you'll leave, but because he knows you are the best thing in his life and wants to commit to you.
2006-10-03 03:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by JerseyGypsy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about your man but I am a woman in a 9 year relationship and I am very committed but have had a really bad bad experience being married so vowed no matter what not ever marrying again..this may sound crazy to some but we instead had a small ceremony with a few close friends and family and made up our own "commitment ceremony" we both said our own vows to each other and promised to be each others everything in front of our guest..the only thing we didn't get that day were the wedding license and the expensive wedding bill...we do go all out for this day and made it very special to us and our families...it makes me comfortable and then he has the commitment that he needed to ..yes i wear a commitment ring and so does he..the laws have changed in so many states that the laws for significant others to have the same rights as spouses...good luck and don't push him away the past is sometimes very unforgettable..but he can be committed to you and not married..
2006-10-03 10:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by Alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy! You have waited 7 yrs?Its more like you have the prob! Whats up with you why havent you moved on?The answer is a man wont commit if they dont have to.Look at the bennies of just staying b/f and g/f .Youve wasted your time and ageing to Boot on a guy that wont marry you.Do you know how many men drag you out then you break up and they marry someone within a year ?Its isnt about commiting at this point its about he wont marry you! Wise up and move on or just waste the rest of your life.Ive seen this many times over and over !
2006-10-03 10:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's doesn't want too. That's exactly what's going on.
It's a hard fact to face, but if you want marriage, this guy isn't going to give it to you.
If I were you, I'd be nervous about accepting a proposal if you push for it, because he would probably want a divorce within a year.
You've got some big decisions to make. Can you stay with him without marriage?
2006-10-03 11:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some men dont think there ready for marriage even after 7 years my brother was in a relationship for 10 years and his girlfriend wanted to get married and he told her he want not ready as yet, so she left him and moved on with her life. thats a long time, its hard for the woman, its a womans dream to get married have a family have her own place. try and talk to him about it.
2006-10-03 10:39:51 · answer #5 · answered by MJS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" Girl, you're wasting your time with this one. If he hasn't made an honest woman out of you by now, then it just means that he has no respect for you or your time...move on and find someone who sees you for the beautiful person you are and make sure that HE is worthy of YOU and it's not the other way around!
2006-10-03 10:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by Carefree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wasting your time. You have already wasted 7 years. He is not going to commit. Move on and find someone that has the same goals as you.
2006-10-03 10:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not hard for a man to commit, but it is hard for a boy in a man's body. Don't throw good time after bad -- he is an immature loser.
2006-10-03 10:25:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the big deal? You guys are practically married just not on paper. I heard of some people who dated for years and once they tied the knot things went sour.
2006-10-03 11:46:16 · answer #9 · answered by Blk Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably scared, but you guys need to talk. You shouldn't be waiting on him to make a decision and waste your time. Have a serious talk with him and find out what he's so scared of??
2006-10-03 10:22:23 · answer #10 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋