Before the marriage i want to tell my husband about my ex boy friends relationship but he said he was not intrested. i am from a open culture he is from a closed culture from india. Now after our marriage he is not happy to see my boy friends photoes and gifts. He dont want to listen about my past history. He says it is not important for him. It is important for him the present and the future. We love each other. what can i do to over come my hushands anger?
2006-10-03 03:18:24 · 24 answers · asked by theena b 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
ok your married now why would u keep crap from your ex boyfirends. If you love your husband and want this marriage to work you should toss that carp. Remember he is your husband now not one of your boyfriends
2006-10-03 03:21:12 · answer #1 · answered by dunebugger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say you are from open culture and he is from India, do you mean that people in your so called open culture enjoy evenings talking about each others ex's.
You are acting childish. Grow up. Can you not understand his anger? He is angry because he loves you and is protective of his interest in you.
No sensible husband in any place on earth will enjoy talking about his girlfriend's ex .
EnJoy the memories but cherish the love.
2006-10-03 04:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by vinod s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question clearly points to the fact that you haven't fully understood the Indian Hubby. You know, in our country, dating, pre-marital relationships etc are uncommon and our culture believes in Love after marriage than before.The so called "modern" open culture may not be digestible to him. He is basically a good person, that's why he told you that he is not worried about your past but of the present & future. For you, the childhood adventures are thrilling memories but an Indian generally does not like it and would prefer to forget it than being reminded.Inspite of living in developed countries and Gulf countries, I am yet to be that much forward in my outlook because of my Indianness.
So my advice will be to heed to his request of not boasting about your pre-marital affairs and be a good wife to him.Generally an Indian does most of the things with whole heart and he will also love you whole heartedly. Do not make it "hole heartedly"
2006-10-03 03:35:31 · answer #3 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree...there is no reason to get rid of the photos or gifts given to you from you ex-boyfriend...photos are memories and if they are not bad memories you should keep them. However, they should be either be in a stored photo album or put somewhere where your past is not in your husbands face. He is right not to want to share in your past experiences...he wants to live in the future and so should you. Your past is exactly that...YOUR past. Enjoy what you have currently with your husband and let go of the ex.
2006-10-03 03:28:40 · answer #4 · answered by Stacy H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger? Why are you trying to shove your past history in his face? Your husband sounds like the sensible one. He loves you for who you are now and in the future, not based on your past relationships. Build your relationship with him now and stop dwelling on past relationships. Keep bringing this up and you'll not only have ex-boyfriends, but an ex-husband as well.
2006-10-03 03:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by bill_the_cockroach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whilst it may be easy for you to use those trinkets just to fondly look back at past times, for your husband it is emotionally threatening. He sees you reminiscing about former lovers, and feels maybe that you had something with one of them, that he is unable to provide. It probably gives him some kind of internalised inferiority complex. All men suffer from this as we are instictively programmed as competetive predators. If we feel competition, we fear being inferior to the competition, so we have to try and dominate it, to prove we are better.
I imagine your husband is threatened by those memories in this way. He wants to know you only have feelings for him, and by remembering your old feelings, you are not focusing your attention upon him.
2006-10-03 03:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
indian men have a very close mentality. They think they are western but deep down they all want to be the first love of a girl it may be a wife or a girlfriend. i am sure he must have had a gf before you
It just that he can not digest that there was a man in your life before him my dont you avoid your ex tire down the snap you'll have together
For the present you want ur husband so do this cook this fav dish as they as the way to mans heart is to hius stomach try it maybe it works out for you
2006-10-03 03:25:32 · answer #7 · answered by simran 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think you probably knew his feelings re: keeping in touch w/ ex lovers. And it's likely he's not going to change.
If your husband is the number one man in your life, I honestly feel you should re-examine the situation and cut off all ties with your ex boyfriend. Otherwise, brace yourself for a predictable divorce.
2006-10-03 03:42:12 · answer #8 · answered by StarNY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somewhere in an old seldom seen scrapbook there are pictures of my youth including parents siblings friends and a couple exes.i rarely take out the albums so i do not feel bad about keeping them.
how would you feel having to look at and dust pics and gifts from his ex?
2006-10-03 03:30:08 · answer #9 · answered by borrowedtime 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2017-03-03 23:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋