I think my sister is in a mentally and abusive relationship with her fiance. He says mean things to her, ugly names, and constantly telling her to leave. Then he begs and pleads and apologizes and says he does it cause he is an alcoholic. 2 weeks ago he put everything she owns on the front porch and told her to leave then he begged her to stay and even brought her stuff in. He told her that he would never tell her to leave again and last night he did. She came home and he wasnt even up for work yet and she had tried calling him 49 TIMES! he left the phone in the kitchen and not by his bed. He told her to get out, to leave, and slammed the phone out of her hand. He has pushed her several times. held her down, and slapped her once. She has nowhere to go and lives in a different state than me...she has 2 sons and a good job so she can't just up and leave and come to live with me. Please help! what should she do? should she leave to make him wise up? she never has before
2006-10-03 03:11:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your sister can ring crisis care and they will pay and put her in a motel and help her to leave this relationship......she has to know what ways she can do this and im sure once she feels she can maybe she will
2006-10-03 03:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by cleo_alter_ego 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH yes, she needs to leave, ASAP!! She won't get anywhere with a guy like this, except hurt. She doesn't deserve to be treated this way and her kids do NOT deserve to be around it. This is abuse, mental and physical!!! She needs to get away from him. If it means leaving the state she is in, so be it. She needs to think about those children and what this relationship is doing to them. He can beg all he wants, but in the end, he is going to keep doing what he is doing. You really need to help your sister now. Tell her to leave this guy NOW. If it means coming to live with you until she can get on her feet in your state, then do it. She is your sister and she needs you. Her children need you. Once she leaves, she should NEVER go back to him. Abuse can start out slowly. Once they are married, it could end up excessive. Love is not being hurt. He is hurting her and those children. Please help her to get away from this guy before something terrible happens to her or her children. Bless you.
2006-10-03 11:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to think about, she is in an abusive relationship. Him saying he is an alcoholic means nothing, if anything it is just an excuse. She needs to go to an abuse shelter, or social services, or even child services. What ever she can do to definitely GET OUT> She is a person, not his door mat and she needs to protect her children. They will learn from him to be abusive adults. She doesn't want that. ANYTHING is better than being abused. Make her understand that she has to ASK for help , soon.
2006-10-03 10:29:48 · answer #3 · answered by oddbutterfly1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to leave that a++ hole. She does not need to be in that kind of abusive relationship. My mom and dad were like that. He not only physically abused her but mentally & emotionally too. He was a drug addict. She thought she could change him. They were together for 13 years before it finally got out of hand and made my mom realize SHE CAN'T CHANGE HIM. To this day....my father is still the same. Thank got she wised up and left or I KNOW she would be dead.
Tell her to get out....she will feel so much better not having to worry about him....TRUST ME!
2006-10-03 10:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by CMA 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you even have to ask if this is abuse. Of course it is. She needs to leave him otherwise she might possibly end up in the hospital...maybe not for physical abuse but mental as well.
2006-10-03 10:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by A D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course it is abuse, my daughter married an abuser, he would always be sorry, but he continued doing it, she never knew when it was coming, or even why, she kept going back to him,finally he hit her one evening, and called the police after he had scratched his own arms, and reported that she had abused him, she was taken to jail, it happened to be the weekend, so she had to stay in jail until monday, after that humiliating experience, strip search and all she finally filed for divorce, and is now happily married to some one who treats her like a queen. they never change,it's some thing within theirselves they can't deal with. no one deserves to be treated like this,and it doesn't end ever. she stayed with him and got abused for about 5 years until she left for that last time.
2006-10-03 12:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will never get better. she needs to leave him go to a freinds house for a few nites. make him go to aa meetings if he loves her hell change but he needs a wake up call.
2006-10-03 10:32:16 · answer #7 · answered by missluvsharleys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get the law involved.
2006-10-03 10:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes she shud leave him now,before it gets uglier,at least for sake of her and her children's lives ,u never know when this man will loose it completely,get help from local authorities if necessary.
2006-10-03 10:16:40 · answer #9 · answered by knu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋