There is this boy at my dance school and i really like him. I think he really likes me too- he doesnt have a gilfriend and his parents are fine about him dating. My mum says hes 'a nice boy' too. Hes 18 and i am 14. He is my dance partner and his sister is my best friend. But my friend likes him too. I really love him- what should i do?
2006-10-03 01:41:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Nothing.
His parents may be "fine" about him dating, and your mom may like him well enough as a dance partner for you, but that is too much of an age gap for dating. I bet if you asked her if it was OK to date him, she would feel differently about what a "nice boy" he is.
You are under the age of consent, and he is over it. That means that any sexual contact is illegal. In addition, you are at two very different places in your lives. In every way, he is too old for you. Physically, mentally, emotionally, he is ready for things that you may think you are too, but probably aren't . He is an adult by law. You are a minor.
Even if age wasn't a factor, then you would still be taking a chance by dating him. Before you even went on your first date, you would be hurting your friend who likes him. As soon as she found out about it, she would feel betrayed, and that just might be the end of that friendship. Also, if and when you break up, then your friendship his sister, your best friend, will most likely be over, too.
Ask yourself this:
"Is it worth two friendships to date this guy?"
The answer should be "No."
2006-10-03 01:55:16 · answer #1 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand how a 14 year old child can be " in love". I think you better wait till you grow up love. I did not even know what a boy was at 14. and how could your parents approve of such a thing. he is far to old for you. back off and have a look at your self. just concentrate on your dancing, it will take you somewhere, men just throw you away when there done. your just a child to him. don't embarrass your self.
2006-10-03 08:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow age difference is a lil off but 4 the most part if you really like him dont hold back go 4 it. i understand l;ikes him too but im pretty sure she likes someone else too. his your dance partner too what better way to get it going. Show him all your move impress him make him want you move. it will come down to the end in fact tell him to his face or write him a note saying you might be my dance partner but i like you for more then just a friend and i would like to go out with you how do you feel. Yes i know it might make you a lil nervous but when you get it off your chest yall feel better and then you still have to dance so what the worst that will happen. good luck but try it it works trust me youll be happy with him in no time and your friend shell be mad but she will understand how ytou feel later.
2006-10-03 08:51:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well well well at your age you should not be thinking about boyfriend but if you are be smart you are young. Hear is what you have to do confront him take him aside and let him know that you like him be wise in your choices as they often take young girls for fools. Let if know that you like him invite him to dinner at your house to meet your parents let your check him out and see where it goes from there.Second why date someone that your friends like that will cause problems in you and your friend relationship think or look before you leap as my mother always tells me as this guy is 18 and may take advantage so try for know just focus on getting the good grades and sooner than later the man that should be in your life will come GOOD LUCK
2006-10-03 08:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by antionette_jazzy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take things slowly! You are only 14, and there could be serious trouble if you get to involved with this guy in a romantic way. It's fine to be friends, but make sure if you go out it is with other people. He may like you just as a friend, but please think carefully about what may develop
2006-10-03 08:46:27 · answer #5 · answered by marcus p 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 14 years old and you want to date an 18 year old? I say that you should just like him from afar because you two are in two different stages in life......he might want to do somethings that you are not ready for ..........but if you friend likes him why would you want to be with someone that your friend likes also. That could lead to a bad situation in itself.......
2006-10-03 08:46:53 · answer #6 · answered by phattybiggums 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait, wait, wait. I know you don't want to hear this but you are too young to be thinking such serious thoughts. You are going to go through so many changes and meet so many people that you can't possibly understand love yet. Sorry to break your heart but if it is meant to be it will be later on.
2006-10-03 08:54:46 · answer #7 · answered by Kimberly R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him out on a date or get your friend to ask himm. he can only say no and if he does then at least you will know and be able to move on. take it easy though you are only 14 and boys of 18 have needs that you may not be able to fulfill yet. look out for yourself and be careful
2006-10-03 08:44:30 · answer #8 · answered by A G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well four years is a big time in your age, sorry if i break the bad news, but imo it is. you are a bit younger then the guy, still, if he does not mind the age difference and you know what a relationship means (that is if you are mature enught to know all the things about protection and stuff) then go for it ask him if he cares about you and stuff. still be careful, ok?) fingers crossed.
2006-10-03 08:45:25 · answer #9 · answered by VeronicaB 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find someone your own age. THere would be something beyond wrong with him if he is interested on a 14yr old
2006-10-03 08:43:50 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋