I feel Lonly?

Question

i feel lonly.. not married, not enganged, not able to fool around as it is against my religion, working, doing my post graduate studies, not doing well in my work, all my friends are busy.. and as age goes your tolorance to other actions diminshes.. so your circle of ppl gets smaller.. most of my friends are married..

i m late 20s , and althought of the difficulties i face in my work and studies i m thinking about getting married , but i dont think it is logic to get married cuz i feel lonly.. but i just think it is nature of a human being to be intimate with some one..

what do you think?

Answer 1

I dont recommend JUST getting married, if you busy now, it increases quite a bit after being married. You want to spend time with your other and do things and on and on. Then if you get intoa marriage with the wrong person, its even more headaches. It is human nature to be intimate at times. You need to have a set time once in a while to go out to new places and make new friends just for he social interaction. Communincation is a wonderful thing and helps with the lonely feeling. If you want constant or semi contant company, get a dog/cat. They are social creatures and is a way for you to inteact with something and yes build a relationship. Its may also be a way to meet someone with simular interests but going to vets, stores for food, supplies.

Answer 2

Maybe it stems from childhood when most of us are told to be seen and not heard. Do you know many folk feel lonely even when in a room full of people it is not uncommon but is is certainly a horrible way to feel. Maybe you have a problem with your own self esteem and would benefit from finding common ground by joining for example the local reading group where you discuss books and the like. This will build up your self confidence and hopeful find others that have the same interests as you. As an engineer you must have studied a great deal and perhaps you were considered a swat and did not give yourself the luxury of having friends, you can change all that ...get out and about. Good luck with overcoming your problem and remember that many people have the same feelings of loneliness it is something you have to work at.

Answer 3

Get your bible and head out of the house on Sunday morning at 10:00 am. Drive around the city (5 mile radius) and find a church with pretty ladies going in. Go to church. Join the church. Go to Sunday school! In a year, you'll have a fiancee, in two years, you'll have a wife. Oh yeah, by Sunday afternoon, the loneliness will have faded significantly. Also consider attending library programs and art galleries. I am not kidding you, I promise these words are true.
Peace and Courage,
Sleek

Answer 4

hmm.. I know how you feel because one stage i was like you, now that i find someone who is only 6 years apart from me, I must work in this relationship to make him accept me because our age is so different, we don't know if this realtionship will work out or not, but for sometime I know he will end up being with me. his still doing his studies and im currently working. so age gap =(
all you can do is get along with the friends of yours and go out and have fun and one day you will have someone who will marry you, since marry is a big issue and money as well

Answer 5

You need to find what you like to do....get a dog, a hobbie, or something.....read some books, go jogging. Find something that gives you pleasure and stick with it. First and foremost you have to learn how to enjoy just being with yourself......you can be in a crowd of people and still be lonely. Try to open you mind to different things because at the rate you are going you will end up depressed and in worse shape then you are already in.

Answer 6

Follow your beliefs, do not worry about being lonely, and don;t go out looking for a companion. The best thing for you to. do in my opinion, is to concentrate on your work and that special person will come to you. the more that you look the longer it will take.

I speak from experience. I was lonely at the time that my husband came around. I took time to find myself and he walked into my life and we are still together and happily married.


GIVE IT TIME ! :)

Answer 7

Check the classified section of your local newspaper. You will see several ads that state something like "feeling lonely? Incall or outcall. You will have a happy ending". Make sure you ask what they charge and how long your session will last. Good luck.

Answer 8

Learn to spell or use spell checker for a start. Your English is appalling. 'LONLY,ENGANGED, TOLORANCE,ALTHOUGHT' poor 3/10 try harder

Answer 9

you cannot get married or fool around what religion are you ? first you have to date meet the right girl then get married how do you know you'll be lonely when married ?? you have me baffled !!

Answer 10

You are correct. Smart as we may be we are animals and we have a sexual drive that compells us to be close to one another in order to maintain hour mental health if not our physical health.