how can i make him trust me. basically there is ascratch above my *** where i scratched it at work on the door. but he doesnt believe me. also when i go out and tell him that i will see him later. but then i get fucked out my head and go home but he thinks im up to know good. what can i do to make him trust me.i really love him and dnt want to loose him.
2006-10-03 01:26:59 · 19 answers · asked by destiny1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He has probably been in some really bad relationships and has insecurity issues that he may always have - he could also be up to something himself. Be sure that he isn't a control freak! You're going to have to tell him he needds to get to know you better and have more trust - if he knew the person you really are and not a cheater then he would not second guess you and your actions. Tell him these things, talk to him and find out what has caused his insecurities.
After you and he have s_x try spending the night, he may be feeling used or it just might bother him that you are going home afterwards and not staying with him. If you and he have been seeing each other for a while sugess moving in to together his behavior maybe be hiding his true feelings and he just isn't sure how to bring it up to you...
Scratches bumps and bruises are a part of life next time be sure to tell him about it or have him look at the area bring these matters up to him before they are a surprize to him. It sounds crazy but it may be all he needs to put his imagination to rest. He a lot of re-asurance he also needs to be mature honest and work on his communication skills he and you should also be best friends and this my dear is what it takes in any realtionship or marriage.
You say you don't want to loss him but if he is threatening you b/c of a scratch then think of how he may threaten you later about something more serious. Remember it takes two! You need to get a handle on his behavior now other wise it will get worse and be a waste of time. Review your behavior as well and try to see what he is seeing and why he may feel the way he does.....
Good Luck!!!!
2006-10-03 01:50:30 · answer #1 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is pretty simple..... Trust is earned. Trust isnt something someone just gives because they should, trust is earned by actions.
So, you want his trust and you dont want to loose him, then do what it takes to get his trust. Examples would be to ask him if he wants to go out with you. Another would be to call him when you are getting ready to go to bed. And really the best would be to not do anything that would make him really think. Understand it is by your own actions that he has this distrust for you.
Now, if he is someone who has a hard time trusting (say because of a hurt he got in the past or for just any old reason) then you will have to figure out how to make him trust you. If he is worth this, and you love him, then you will work through it, but in the end, it is your actions that make for his trust.
As much as actions playing a role in the building of trust, you will also want to include communication. Talking to him will help fill in the gaps that actions dont cover.
2006-10-03 01:43:37 · answer #2 · answered by just me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dated a woman for 2 years who did that to me. She wouldn't call when she said she would, flake on planned dates and just basically treated me as a 2nd class citizen and YES I didn't trust her. It got so bad that although I didn't cheat on her, I had no desire to be loving with her and when we had sex it was just that "SEX" The scratch above your **** is the straw that broke the camels back, not the beginning of the problem. Honestly, would you trust a man who regularly kept you wating by the phone while he was out with who knows who?
BTW, I hope you meant "fucked-up" out of your head and not "fucked". I
2006-10-03 01:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by Michael P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him 'hear im not taking part in anymore video games i truthfully did not have something to do with the dogs limping and in case you do not prefer to have confidence me it fairly is your judgement of it. If i did infact harm the dogs i might pop out and say i did yet i did not. What you do now's your decision i informed you the actuality'
2016-10-01 21:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to fulfill your promises to earn trust if you say you're gonna do something, do it if you know its likely you won't don't promise anything and be hoinest tell him you're gonna get f*cked out of your head, to be honest I'm not surprised he doesn't trust you you're not acting like you want to be trusted. one of my ex's used to do that kinda stuff all of the time at first I was ok with it but it just grew and grew until I just didn't trust or beleive her at all.
2006-10-03 01:52:05 · answer #5 · answered by crownose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a change of attitude. Don't get fucked in your head, avoid having bruises and love him more. Case closed.
2006-10-03 01:34:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything, he is an insecure paranoid tw*t, you acn't chaneg him, pandering to him will only make him worse, tell him to keep his pathetic worries to himself, sounds liek a to**er to me, hope he doesnt try and tel you what to wear either?!
oh and ignore JeffB's advice it is truly awful - calling him when yuor going to bed/asking him to come out with you is PANDERING to his insecurities, it's his problem not yours, if you do what Jeff says you will end up resenting boyfriend, he will end up controlling you
2006-10-03 01:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon,in one of your other answers,you said you f ucked your friend,ex & exes' friend,all the same night & was gonna do it a coupla times again & then you turn around & say you would never cheat on your boyfriend! Which is the truth,Darlin'?
2006-10-03 10:37:03 · answer #8 · answered by Putt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem could be...as I see it...yeah sure you love him....but if he loves you he will have to trust you....the real question here is does he really love you? (PS....this is only an opion...not gospel....questions of love are not really all that answerable) Best of luck!
2006-10-03 01:32:06 · answer #9 · answered by michael s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes got issues with trust. Its not your problem really its his.
tell him he has to start trusting you, or to go to counselling. If he wont then dump him.
2006-10-03 01:31:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋