I'm not sure what I what to do with my life (like everybody else), but as soon as I find something interesting that I might like, I start finding all the negatives about it and scare myself out of it. Then I end up where I was in the first place, lost again. Serious opinions only please.
2006-10-03 00:41:03 · 9 answers · asked by Bailey 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
My personal opinion is that you don't believe that you can actually do something that you are truely interested in. I think that you should have confidence in yourself and believe that yes you can do anything that you put your mind to. Take a step back and look at what you have done so far, have you made some amazing acomplishments or have you just been an exsistence in life. More than likely you have made some acomplishments, haven't you, unless all you do is sit on the computer eating oatmeal creme pies and drinking beer all day long, if that is you, then get off of the computer right now and get a job, I doubt that though. Anyways, don't scare yourself out of something that you are interested. I am planning on going back to college after ten years of not being in school so that I can get my RN....WOW!!! That is scary, but I have an amazing partner who is very supportive of me and hjelps me to believe in myself, very supportive and very encouraging....if you are in a relationship I hope that you also have that same encouragement and support. I wish you the best and remember to believe in yourself first!!!
2006-10-03 04:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by radioradioradio 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's called 'Self-Sabotage'. Basically, somewhere inside, you believe that you will either fail or that 'it' won't bring you the fulfillment you hoped for, so you find reasons to give up before you've even tried.
You're not the only one to suffer from Self-Sabatoge - many, many people suffer from it without even knowing it. It can steal the joy of success and fulfillment from life and makes us bored and resentful. But the good news is - you can conquer it!
Some of your ways of thinking may include the following:
1) Polarized Thinking.
You think of every effort you make is either success or total failure.
Answer: Be patient with yourself and accept progress at its own pace. Allow for a middle ground and a learning process.
2) Catastrophizing.
You imagine the worst possible outcome and then react as if it will come true.
Answer: Acknowledge your fear, and then challenge it.
3.) Emotional Reasoning.
You assume that what you feel MUST be true.
Answer: Accept the feeling for what it is. Give it credit for what it is telling you. And then make an informed decision.
4) Rumination (or Filtering).
You focus only on the problem and nothing else, filtering out any positive elements of your experience.
Answer: Expand your awareness beyond the unpleasant situation and open yourself to positive aspects of the experience. There are sure to be positives benefits of this experience!
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Try to remember:
Be careful of your thoughts, for they will become words.
Be careful of your words, for they will become actions.
Be careful of your actions, for they will become habits.
Be careful of your habits, for they will become character.
Be careful of your character, for it will become your destiny.
—source unknown
2006-10-03 08:57:09 · answer #2 · answered by quay_grl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
look u will never find something perfect to like but it is a matter of ratio i mean that it might have some draw backs but it also has advantage that makes u stand these draw backs makes u able to handle them , so try to determine to ur self what are the thing u want in thing u are going to do and u can't let it go and other things that u can leave also when u see some stuff that bothers u ask ur self can u deal with it if so , don't hesitate and go on and take it .
i think u are aperson who looks for perfection , there is idealism but nothing is perfect .
good luck.
2006-10-03 07:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just try different jobs. Look for one that you think you might want for the rest of your life and see if you really do. If not then try something else. You will find what is right for you if you look around. AND NO EXCUSES, OK!
2006-10-03 07:45:34 · answer #4 · answered by Just Bein' Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have found that negative begets negative and there is so much of it around , it's difficult not to get caught up in it. it also sounds like you are just choosing to look at both sides and you're just being realistic with yourself. this type of negative can help you get to a positive place. keep your head up, it could always be worse and when you think things are at their worst then you only have one way to go...up.
2006-10-03 07:54:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound insecure and seem like you are afraid of being successful.I do the same thing.You have to keep telling yourself that you are a good person worthy of happiness and success.
2006-10-03 07:47:14 · answer #6 · answered by Celebrity girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, sounds like you're afraid of failing at something you really like...so you find the 'bad' parts so you can reason to yourself as well as those close to you as to why you quit.
We always sabotage ourselves, don't we?
2006-10-03 07:44:50 · answer #7 · answered by empress_pam 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take your life as fun as it could be , instead of finding the negative find the positive
2006-10-03 07:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by Janet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because if you talk yourself out of it you cant try it...and therefore you cant fail at it can you?
2006-10-03 07:45:44 · answer #9 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋