i long to wear lingerie as everyday underwear with practical hosiery such as pop sox, thigh highs or pantyhose. to be able to wear heels with my everyday clothes would be great. or dress as a stereotypical male from waist up but feminine skirts, trousers, cullots and heels or boots from waist down. if only. just to be able to wear heels out would be nice.
2006-10-03 00:21:54 · 22 answers · asked by fionaheels 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The simple answer is because your "gender identity" is female - that is your sense of who you are, and as a result you identify with female gender presentation.
Lots of women have a male gender identity but society allows them to wear masculine clothing without question - so they don't ever have any conflict - in fact they have tended to own macsuline identities as call them another form of femininity.
I think the problem with have is that if you wear a dress men think that means you fancy guys and therefore must also be gay - and because most homophobic men are actually closet gays, that makes them paranoid. They have to ridicule you so that no one will guess that they fancy the idea of gay sex. (talk too the Katoey in Thailand if you don't believe me - most of thier business comes from "straight" men)
There are a few men who have dared to break with traditions - most are instantly seen as gay - I am trans - I live as a woman but I still get homophobic comments (rather than transphobic) You could move to Maruitius where men wear a sort of sarong - or do like Beckham and wear one anyway - until more men break this stupid hegomonic dress code men will always be bullied by other men into conforming.
Incidently there is a long history of men cross-dressing so don't consider it any way odd - the problem is organised religion that has persecuted gender transgression for thousands of years, probably because most religions are run by closet gay men.
2006-10-03 00:46:48 · answer #1 · answered by Richelle 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You don't tell us enough to make a valid reply. Does wearing women's clothing excite you sexually? You may be a transvestite (TV), a transgender person (somebody who doesn't fit into the TV or TS categories), or a transsexual (TS). If you are the latter you will probably have had the feeling that you are really a woman.
How long have you had this compulsion?
What kind of clothes do you like to wear?
It is thought that GD affects about one in 250 men.
For more information about gender dysphory try Lynne Conway's website
http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/
2006-10-03 11:12:24 · answer #2 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's unlikely you'll get an answer to the 'why' part, how we end up like this is an unfathomably complex combination of nature and nurture. And even if you did get an answer, would it matter? What does matter is that there's nothing wrong with this urge, it's just how you are.
The fact that you want to wear womens clothes should be completely irrelevant if our society wasn't so lame. I like to dress up in womens clothes sometimes, not always, but when I do I do and I'm not going to stop doing so because of the reactions of other people - and I'm a big built guy and securely heterosexual. Crossdressing is part of your identity and you shouldn't feel guilty for it, or apologise for it.
2006-10-03 00:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
There are two main possibilities: you are a transvestite, in which case your reason for wearing women's clothes would be sexual, and you would feel aroused when cross-dressed; or you are transsexual, in which case you simply feel you have the wrong body.
If you are a transvestite, then most probably you are sexually oriented as a heterosexual. Many TVs are married, and their wives help them buying clothes, makeup etc. This becomes a sexual game which they can both enjoy in the privacy of their own home.
If you are transsexual, you have some difficult decisions to make about whether you plan to start dressing out, and whether you want to live as a woman. In this case, you will certainly need counseling to help you with your transition.
2006-10-03 03:17:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would try just wearing a skirt instead of trousers. Not poofy or anything, but just a simple denim skirt over your normal shreddies. Put your normal other things on, shoes, socks, fleece or whatever and see how you feel. The very fact you have asked the question proves you are not a poof or transexual but feel inhibited by so called convention. I suspect as much as 50% of regular hetrosexual males have asked similar questions if only of their selves.
2006-10-03 01:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by rinfrance 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess you percieve the life women have as being nice and cushy, being able to be depenedent on men and act girly and silly. Perhaps this i why you want to dress like them? Rather like some men dress like babies (according to the Jerry Springer Opera anyway).
Whatever the reason, it doesn't matter really. You know you enjoy it, so why question it? There must be other people out there who enjoy it too. There will be "fetish" clubs you can go along to and be yourself. Have a search of the web...
2006-10-03 05:33:38 · answer #6 · answered by helen g 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are a crossdresser with a fetish for certain clothing. So what's stopping you? Crossdressing is typically done by heterosexual men, and while I don't suggest springing it on your wife or g/f if you have one (until you are sure its a turn on to them), you can "play" in privacy.
You can buy shoes over the internet, Newport News and Payless carry sizes that can be worn by men. Depending on your size, you might find Plus size thigh highs (Walmart has a good brand or Fredricks of Hollywood), more comfortable. No one is going to look at you twice for buying panties and no one tries those on anyway. Again because of your size you might want to buy plus sizes. My very favorite panty for men is a crotchless, for the obvious reason. You can get those in adult stores, online fetish stores or simply check out plus sizes at your local stores.
There is nothing wrong with what you want to do, and you will find so much relief when you do it that you will kick yourself for waiting so long. And if you are not married, there are plenty of women out there that get off on crossdressing men. Contact your local BDSM or Fetish community for information.
2006-10-03 01:49:04 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I knew a str8 guy that was a trucker that was a transgender guy, or maybe he just like to wear womens clothes? I can't remember.
He was a nice guy but felt uncomfortable around gay guys....it seems most gays were trying to convince him he was gay but he was sure he wasn't. But he hung out at gay bars cause he had nowhere else to go. I recommend you look at some trans sites to get an answer to your question.
2006-10-03 00:29:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the trangender community! The secret to happiness: do what makes you happy and complete.* Not everyone fits nicely in the two major categories, male and female. Not everyone's mind matches their body completely either. Just be true to yourself and be safe. There's many of us out there that don't obey standard gender rules.
*Variance in gender presentation can hurt you in the business world unfortunately, and can also be dangerous. Unfortunately we still face discrimination and hate crimes. Watch what you're doing and be safe out there.
Blessed be )O(
Sarah
2006-10-03 09:43:10 · answer #9 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not gay, but I know how you feel, I'd like to wear lingerie someday, or even go swimming in a bikini, when I see celebs, wearing these kind of stuff, I think "I wish I was wearing that"
I think its something to do with that it looks so comfy to wear, but I'm not sure, I'd just like to wear it!
2006-10-03 09:07:13 · answer #10 · answered by Ben N 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋