I have been married for less than a year. One day, i checked one of my husband's equiptment cases and it was locked. apparently i had been having terrible thoughts about it coz it was always locked and the keys hidden. When i opened it, i found condoms staffed under the equiptment . I havent asked him up to now, am just a little confussed. I knew him for 2 years before we got marrieed in which we never had protected sex so am just wondering lwhy he would keep condoms. sometime last year, i found condoms in his car's glove compatment and he just told me he got them from a toilet and was going to give some friends. The same condoms are the ones i have found. Please advise me. i dont know what to do or to think.
2006-10-03 00:15:57 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In my sad and honest opinion - - you are being conned in the worse way and it's cruel! There is no reason for condoms for friends or as collector items or anything else. The only positive about it is -- if he's a cheater, at least he uses them. That still leaves you in a very vulnerable position and you should get family and friends to help you confront him -- sooner rather than later. You deserve honesty and faithfulness in a relationship, especially marriage.
2006-10-03 00:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by Justin W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a man who doesnt need condoms because his wife is obviously not going to get pregnant due to some other contraception DOES NOT buy or save for friends,condoms, the thought wouldnt even pop into his head. are his friends underage or something because if a man wants sex,he will buy his own not send a friend.open the box,throw them out and let him know if his friends want to know where their condoms are,he can say you threw them away,,whats the harm? dont be fooled just because you want to be,,he may not have used any but they are there and thats enough.
2006-10-03 07:23:43 · answer #2 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would have to ask yourself Why is he locking them up, If you two do not use condoms yourself, I would be suspicious, Apparently he knows that you know about them from the confrontation you had about the Glove compartment....and now he has them locked up? I would take them out of the briefcase, and not say anything, if he does not say anything to you, chances are he is using them elsewhere. Good Luck.
2006-10-03 07:26:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to the question. Your husband is a lying cheating louse! I would suggest you be tested for HIV or any STD's. I am appalled that you can't see the forest for the big old tree that has been standing in many fields!!!!
1st off you need to lay it on the line for your husband. Tell him you know he's been cheating and lying ......tell him you're going to seek legal counsel and rid yourself of this parasite. Parasite men will tell you they will change but never do. They also will promise to never to do it again....this too is a LIE....
2006-10-03 07:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you're feeling pretty upset right now, but you definitely need to talk to him. He will probably get very defensive about what you found, like he'll feel like you've been snooping, but you need to know what's going on. If he has a problem, like being unfaithful, find out now before children are involved. You need to stand tall and proud and let him know that you will not allow this type of behavior in your marriage.
2006-10-03 07:21:15 · answer #5 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask him he'll just lie to you again.
Investigate some more count them, see how many he has and then the next day check again. if some are missing you know his using them and not saving them for his friends he'd give them all to his friend not just one.
Make sure you really know his cheating before you confront him.
Good luck
2006-10-03 07:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by lollypop_za 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he isn't being honest with you for whatever reason. I suppose it can be from having a affair, to using hookers, to possibly being gay or bi. In any case at least he has the condoms and if he's playing you let's hope he uses them. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-10-03 07:20:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think in your heart you know the answer to this question. I would be skeptical in light of the fact that he never excercised caution with you. I wouldn't ask him about it. I would just put them in a fruitbowl somewhere obvious. He will bring up the issue. As to giving them to friends...well are his friends minors?
2006-10-03 07:39:50 · answer #8 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had better up the sex tempo sweetie or he will dump you. More O and certainly A is needed also dress to impress suggest outdoor sex and possibly mess around on web cam with others befroe considering swapping. Make sure you stay toned up and interesting and start to explorte his fantasies becasue it is a certainty he is exploring them with others now..This may be your last chance..ignore the puritans and holy joes on here and follow this advice..it is the only way to save your marriage.
2006-10-03 07:20:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Its a very bad sign that he may be seeing other women. Guys don't collect them for fun just to give them to friends. Confront him about it and don't let him wiggle out of the question again. He's busted.
2006-10-03 07:20:29 · answer #10 · answered by farahwonderland2005 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋