2006-10-02 23:56:08 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
YES! It is perfectly fine for you with no doubt. Seriously. First of all, you didn't make any commitment. It wasn't you who married and made a commitment. You didn't promise neither to his wife that you would take care of her marriage nor to him you would do that. Grown ups are fully responsible for their acts and they are the only responsible for their acts. So, it is up to him to decide what he wants to do, he is not a child. And it is up to her to choose a man who will marry (so if she wants a faithful husband, then to find a faithful guy) and take care of her marriage. You are free, so you are free to date anybody you want. Period.
P.S. For those asking what you would do in being in that situation, but being the other side, i.e. a wife... In that case, if you were bother by the fact that your husband dated another woman, you would and could only be angry at him, as he is the one that made a commitment, not her. if you were looking for someone else to be mad at, you could only pick yourself, as you had picked the wrong guy to marry. (Note: wrong guy for you, not really wrong guy.)
Btw, I would be ashamed to act like a little girl and expect the whole world to take care of my marriage (or anything else). One should what is capable of and not expect anybody to do his own job.
P.P.S. Someone mentioned herting an "inocent" woman... Inocent woman! Hey, that woman chose that guy to marry. So, she is responsible for her choice, not anybody else. And it is not your duty (I am the asker's) to protect her marriage. She chose it, i.e. him, it is up to her. Your life is up to you. People should just mind their own bussiness anytime, simple as that.
Finally, LOVE KNOWS NO RULES!
2006-10-03 08:58:21 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Smart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That nagging feeling in the pit of your stomach or a corner of your heart--- that still almost silent doubt that caused you to ask this question holds the answer. I don't need to give you that,.. I can give you a few more questions to ask of yourself instead.
If respecting yourself means never having to do something you need to question if it's right, then you probably shouldn't do it..
Is it Love (capital L) when he willingly married someone else?
If it is convenient for you to love a man who made a commitment to another, what are your expectations of dating and relationships? If it mostly is a first love romance type of thing, remember the whole karma possibility that what you sow, so shall you reap..
It would really suck to accidentally or purposefully fall in love with someone who is incapable of feeling the same.
Respect yourself and the decisions of others. You deserve better and you will call it into your life, you will also begin to know a new freedom and happiness when you no longer need to question what if...
I will close with a few more questions.
What if your birth control fails?
What would his present wife feel upon discovery of your relationship?
What would you feel if he rejects you when he comes to realize the errors of his ways?
2006-10-03 14:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by Dawn M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be out of your mind. I am sure this is wrong any way you see it. Men wil do anything to get into bed. Just think, the guy is married, and he wants a mistress too, do you think this is justified?
How would you feel if another woman dated your husband. There is nothin you can do now that he is married. You will only be ruining the life of an innocent woman by agreeing to this affair..and yes, have you heard karma? What you give comes back to you.
2006-10-03 00:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by freshlimesoda 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Uh, no.
If he's married to you, then yes. If he's not, no. Because if you're the one asking him out, that's interfering with his relationship with his wife. And you put him in a position; if his wife found out, you could jeopardize (sp?) his marriage. Then he might never forgive you. And you don't want you Love hating you, right? If /he/ asked /you/, no matter how much you love him, I suggest you tell him no. It would be the right thing to do - seriously.
Sorry, but if he's a married man, you need to find a new dude to get with. Well, I guess you could still love him or whatever.. Just don't do anything stupid to break his marriage up. If you do, and you end up getting him in the end, that's bad karma. And believe me, you'll never forgive yourself; and you're going to look back at it, and you will feel bad. If he's happily married, leave them alone. If he's unhappy, you still need to leave them alone. They can work out their problems without you. It's the best thing to do. Remember, you can be there for him as a friend, but nothing more.
Bye (=
2006-10-03 00:13:24 · answer #4 · answered by Candie™ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Imagine this...your a newlywed woman and everything is going great with you and your husband. Your getting used to being married and you love your husband. Okay now imagine you find out he's going out on dates with other women.How do you think you would react.For some reason I serious doubt you would be happy about it so don't be such a sl**>
2006-10-03 05:34:30 · answer #5 · answered by XxXSheVampXxX 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's totally wrong, that's despicable in fact. I hope that one day if you marry you do not find out your husband has been dating other women behind your back. Grow up, move on, he did not love you enough to marry you, did he? Put your energy into finding a healthy relationship.
2006-10-03 00:12:57 · answer #6 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Zainab Z. SOunds Muslim You give ALL of us a bad name. You are sick, disgusting and I hope that this is just a joke. If not, you know where you will be going, I dont need to tell you. Even if your NOT a muslimah, you know where you will be going, because christian have same destination fro sinners as us, as do the jews, honey. Get a life, and get your OWN man. STOP BEING A WHORE
2006-10-03 01:46:35 · answer #7 · answered by cricketwinner@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WHY would you wanna date a married person?
You think that sounds like a good relationship?
It's wrong, pure & simple!
Your "love" got married....presumably to someone else. Get over it & move on.
2006-10-03 00:05:02 · answer #8 · answered by Roman 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is not your Love. He is someone else's Love.
You shall not covet your neighbours husband!
2006-10-05 01:00:48 · answer #9 · answered by Freddy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohh its a hard situation,....but gurl just imagine his already married. maybe you can find another guy who love you more then he do....dont focus yourself to him you have to move forward. and find the right one for you......
And, if you will go with him what you gonna do if you will be pregnant?...
just think of it..........
2006-10-03 00:03:50 · answer #10 · answered by simplelovinggirl_juna 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋