We have been together 2 years, he has a perfectly healthy 4 year old son, and a good relationship with his ex, that part of it I understand, they need to get along because of the little boy, but, really please tell me is there a need for calls to each other almost every day, sometimes twice a day, I am talking in the week, early mornings, weekends, when we go away on holiday! am I missing something?? I have asked him to stop, but, I get an anry response and a definate no, she has a boyfriend as well, is this normal behaviour?? am I the one in the wrong for asking for the calls (not to stop) just to be toned down so we can have our time without inturruptions???? he says that i am !! I would be really grateful for some advice!!!
2006-10-02 23:47:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds like they may have loved each other at some point in time, but have come to the realization that they are now just good friends...
Because of the child they should have contact with each other. Is it possible to set up specific times for these calls? It sounds like she is calling him. Does he ever initiated the calls?
Are they speaking about the son or just having a chat?
My best advice is if you really love this guy and plan on spending the rest of your life with him you need to accept that this is the way it's going to be.
Children are a strong bond between two people. Do you take any interest in the child or care for him at anytime. If you do then try to have a good relationship with him also.
You may be feeling jealous because he was married to her and they have a son together and you don't.
I wish you happiness and peace...
2006-10-02 23:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by easinclair 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez, you are caught in the middle, I would suggest a little harmless snooping, catch up with her b-friend and ask him if he has noticed anything fishy. Sounds like they may be headed back down the aisle again to me. At the very least when you confronted your b-friend, he should have given you some reassurance that you are the one he loves first and best, and that even tho they have a child together and will have to deal with him, and that your opinion counts for something, not the brush off! If that doesn't work, try Dr. Phil. I'm serious. He deals with stuff like this all the time. At any rate, don't forget there are plenty of fish in the sea!! Say "see ya" and dump the hairy ape!
2006-10-02 23:56:12 · answer #2 · answered by bookluffer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that's a lot more involvement than I would want with my ex or that he would want with me and we had two children .. It seems on some level they still want an intimate, if non-sexual contact and that's just too cozy for my liking. If its been going on for two years and you haven't had anything to say about it, then of course he is going to get testy that it comes up now. If all else is good with the two of you then overlook it. He won't like having you tell him to whom and how much he can speak to anyone and this is one you can't win. Here is some advice that may help though, when he gets that "Must Call" look, snuggle up to him and distract him. He may find that he can manage calling only once a day because hes ummm busy.
2006-10-03 00:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have three children with my former wife. We also have a good relationship. We talk on the phone once or twice a week. (sometimes more depending on what's going on that week) Mainly to talk about our kids. Sometimes the conversations branch off into other areas but the calls are always initiated because of our children. I would have to agree with you. That seems like an awful lot of calls to each other. Doesn't seem right.
2006-10-02 23:55:40 · answer #4 · answered by looking for the left eye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to understand that he is in another relationship. You are signaling that the attention spent on his ex is not OK with you. The issue is whether or not he respects you enough to change his behavior. If not, you should consider dropping him and looking for someone who will give you the respect you deserve. He is telling you in many ways that he has not let go of his ex.
2006-10-02 23:52:24 · answer #5 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have NOT let go of each other and neither one of them has any right to be in a new relationship when they are obviously still VERY connected. They got legally divorced but emotionally they are still "married", and although I hate to say it, you are essentially the "other woman" in his life and not vice versa. He will be incapabable of having a relationship outside of the one with his not-quite-ex until --- and IF --- he ever breaks it off with her. Time to take care of yourself, and DON'T settle for "second fiddle!
2006-10-02 23:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
recover from it, he has an prolonged term connection with this lady by having a baby together with her. a minimum of he didnt in simple terms shrug off his responsiblity to his youngster whilst the marriage ended. end being immature and comprehend that stuff surpassed off earlier you purchased there that he nonetheless has to shield. What are you getting dissatisfied approximately? the undeniable fact that he talks to the lady he had a baby with? Ohhh costly jesus, a minimum of he's WITH you whilst he does it. If he became into nonetheless fascinated in her, he'd BE together with her!!!!
2016-10-15 11:25:57 · answer #7 · answered by barn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
insist that it stop, put your foot down you are right.
2006-10-02 23:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they have to talk
2006-10-02 23:48:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋