Which is better spanking or scolding a child that doesn't behave?

Answer 1

i prefer to remove my child from a bad situation..............and then explain calmly why that behaviour is not acceptable.......i continuely praise them when they do something nice.......there is nothing wrong with a smack on the legs at times but it is always left as a last resort...........

Answer 2

It depends on the child and what they have done. Also, pattern of behaviour comes into play.

In my house, a spanking comes with a degree of scolding, but scolding doesn't mean a spanking or other punishment.

Scolding is sharp, direct, strong words that get right to the point. It generally is a one-way conversation that leaves not much room for response.

I prefer talking and lots of listening.

Answer 3

if a child does some thing wrong then speak to him politely and tell him that it is wrong and gud children do not behave like this and tell him the right way. The best way of teaching about something to a child is through interesting stories or by personlities or characters they like, such as if a child likes a cartoon character and u want to stop him from telling lies u may tel him that his favourite character never tells a lie and this is why he is likd by every one and so on. wait for the response if he does it again u may scold him and if he repeats it again then give him a spaking. Children mostly are moved by politeness and not by scolding or spankings.

Answer 4

I think neither of the options are long lasting options. They might have temporary effects in controlling the child's behavior, but it doesn't really convince the child to understand what they did wrong.

I'm no expert on this, but I think it's best to give the child a 'timeout' session where the parent has to be firm on sitting the child down on a chair to reflect what he or she has done wrong, and then talking to the child about his or her actions.

In more time constricting situations (i.e. at a mall, or at a restaurant), take them outside and try to talk to the child by asking them why they are behaving this way, acknowledge their side of the story, and recommend a better alternative to the current situation. This is based on a few different shows I've seen and heard, and again - I'm no expert but I recommend you do some more research! It seems like there's been a lot of research into this and it works!

Answer 5

Scold. Spanking only creates negativity and more behavoral problems. If spanking created good kids, the most violent families would have the best behaved children. In reality, its just the opposite. Violent homes are troubled homes.

Answer 6

Depends.
If the child is being merely disobedient, a brief, direct scold can be effective. However, if the child runs away (like across the street), a swat on the rear can be effective Pavlovian indoctrination into why one must listen to mommy/daddy when walking near traffic.
The key is to make it clear that you are dealing with the offense, but that the child is still "a good boy" underneath the deed and is loved.

Answer 7

This depends on what the child did. I know that my uncle used to spank me when I was little and mom was more a scolder (my dad just yelled and then let me get away with things) I still have a bit of 'shell shock' from my uncle though - I jump every time someone unexpectedly touches me! So don't spank too much, usually once in a great while will get the point across.

Answer 8

Why don't you try the reverse psychology method where the child doesn't expect your reaction? Instead of spanking or scolding, why try to call her/his attention and discuss the matter?

Answer 9

I don't think any of them help. My parents used to watch Super Nanny on T.V b/c my brother was a pain. My parents used to spank and yell at my brother, so on super nanny the nanny says that your child misbehaves because he is not give enough attention and it is usually the parent's fault that their children act that way. check out the show or the website. hope this helps

Answer 10

Pray God. Both r not correct . Tell them frankly what u donot like love him/ her as s/he is and say what u want . U cannt dictate or make other's future few things like fate name and money individual soul carry from their past life. Weep and pray through heart . May god bless u and ur son .