what can i text her?

Question

This morning I go before the Judge for the last step in our divorce. We have been married for 24 years and 7 childern later. She said that she starting to fall out of love with me about 6 years ago. She started working 3 years ago and met the head cook who she now lives with, For 4 months. He is still married and has been secretly with my wife. I was shock to find this out. My question is what can i text her this morning after the divorce, that would be impacting to her mind. She has turner in to a"deal with it when it happens"person.She has no plan and lives for the day. On the other hand I have the 4 youngest kids 15,13,11,9. I have the house and the debt. I am blown away by her complete change. Maybe its a mid life crisis &she want to be free again, well ok. I want to text her something so impacting that maybe she will wake up for just that moment, Please help me and submit your thoughts and a "text message" that will make a dent in her world,that will make her wake up and think

Answer 1

I am sorry for your family but the sad fact is there is probably nothing you can do to change anything. Go on with your life, be strong for your kids and let her be her.

Answer 2

DO NOT text her anything. DO NOT write anything. If you cannot talk to her, you have seen the problem. You have to give her what she wants here which is the divorce. Raise your children. Keep her away due to her immoral lifestyle ( living with a married man). She may come around later she may not. Just do not do anything which will affect your moving on. And don't do anything which will be saved and used against you later.
Make sure to press for child custody and support. I repeat MAKE HER PAY CHILD SUPPORT. That will leave her with the lasting impression you are looking for. Hoew do you figure that fits into her live in the moment plans.

Answer 3

Wow, that is really sad, sorry for you and the children. I would just make sure she is paying child support and ask her how she can be so selfish, it is one thing to want a divorce but to leave the children and move in with a married man, she has no idea, it wont be very long before she gets her pay back in full. What goes around comes around. She is obviously only thinking of herself, and the man is married and living with a married women. That wont last very long, he will leave her for someone else soon. And then she will be calling you. Good luck, And God Bless

Answer 4

Try this: There are few things in life so valuable as the deep love, family and years we have shared. I know that you have had your world turned upside down as have I. Maybe you need things I don't understand or haven't known how to give you. Maybe we are both looking for something we still haven't found. I only know that we are soul mates and that I am willing to try to find those things again with you. We belong together and can make our lives better, happier and more fulfilled if we just try. Don't make a final decision now that will wipe out all our hopes and past love before we give it one last chance. Please "Grow Old Along With Me, The Best Is Yet To Be."

Answer 5

Well I think am not well positioned to give u advice taking into consideration ur experience of life compared to mine but I would just say that u shud not text her or contact her anymore unless it's for the children. They are grown up enough to know wat is hapenning and if they don't want her back, let her there n show her that u can manage with the children without her help. Talk to ur kids n tell them how u feel. Am sure she will be stunned to see that ur well off without her n it's then only that she will wake up.

Answer 6

It's little bit too late for that ,don't you think, she let you go long time ago, why don't you let her go now? She made her choice, let her live her life, the way she wants it, it seems like that's what she's trying to do so bad...Text message wont help here, she needs serious counselling so she could start thinking deeply about where she's heading, looks like she doesn't want to do it with you. I'm so sorry to hear about children, it's very sad because they don't deserve this junk...

Answer 7

you are hurting,which is understandable but sending a text wont change her mind about you or make her 'wake up' either,,sometimes relationships end properly and decently,other times not but trying to get her to see how badly she has handled this wont help you in the long run,,,she may not text back in which case you will be sat waiting for a reply that may never come or if she does reply you may misconstrue what she says and be even more confused,,if there isnt a chance of getting back together let it and the hurt go,,for your sake,,she has moved on,,good or bad,dont put yourself through anymore pain.

Answer 8

You won't need to say anything. Her world will come to a screaching halt now that she is single. She'll start pushing for her boyfriend to get a divorce and he probably won't put up with that. Once he dumps her because of that, she'll soon see her dent in the world.

Answer 9

You can't. There is nothing you can say to jolt her back to your reality. She's on her own path and you have to let her go. If the two of you are meant to be together, she'll come back. But whether you take her or not, is another question.

Answer 10

text her the following
"my doors are still open for u. me and our kids love you and will pray for you that u see what you are doing to yourself and all of us. its well"
sorry for ua situation i feel for u, dont loose heart, thing appear tough in the beggining but with time u start getting used. pray for her and ua family, communicate with God openly and tell him everything u feel n what u want. u will get over, we've been there dear.
talk to me too if u need a friend at this trying time
remember your kids love u and u have to be there for them.-