I think I have feelings for my best friend?

Question

She is my best friend and I think I'm in love with her.
She loves me too.But I'm afraid,what will our parents say?
Should I stop seeing with her?
We are both 17 years old.

Answer 1

I'm going to say something different from the posts above...

Every one of us is capable of having strong feelings for our same-sex friends. That doesn't necessarily mean we are gay or even bi. You may have a strong personal attraction for her because she understands you, is easy to talk with and you enjoy doing the same things. Those are qualities we also look for in a mate. It's very much like love. But the attraction doesn't neccessarily mean it's sexual love. It's easy to get them confused, especially when you are young enough at 17 that your hormone production is still working overtime.

According to psychology literature I've read, younger persons ages 12-14 or so are especially prone to have sexual attractions for same-sex friends. Eventually those feelings go away and the person settles down as a normal heterosexual. It's a matter of time with the body's becoming accustomed to hormone production and setting it at a normal level.

You don't neccessarily have to stop seeing your friend. Just be aware that you are both young, and as has been brought out in other posts, deciding to sexually act upon the attraction is a difficult road. If you do hold back, in a few years you may feel differently. I do also realize that it's possible to have same-sex attractions for the rest of your life.

Answer 2

If you are having feelings for another girl it is a wonderful experience, but a tricky one. Many people still are afraid and don't understand. You are both young and at home, so I would not make any public announcements until you are sure. And find some support from people in the PFlag organization (Parents and Friends of Gays and Lesbians). They are good people who will understand, and perhaps, help your folks to understand too.

Answer 3

Hey wen u love u shud push away fear from ur mind dear. Try to talk to ur parents n tell them frankly how u feel n if they really love u, they will accept u as ur n ur friend too. Don't fear anything as long as u have ur love beside u in all ways. Hope it works fine for u...

Answer 4

your 17....think your in love with ur best friend, which is a female...huh...look at the hard road you r about to endure. doesn't sound good, but do what makes u happy, but try to come to and understanding of what will truely make u happy.

Answer 5

Stand your ground and tell her. Serious relationship come out of close friends. look at the posite and the negative reasons the weigh them u'll get the answer.

Answer 6

never be afraid of parents.they always want what is best for you.tell your girlfriend your problem.she is bound to help you if she really was your bestfriend.of course if your parents are worried about your studies then i would ask both of you to wait.discuss with your family and her-then make your dicision.

Answer 7

go on do what u feel like doing but remember anything done against nature never reamins it goes away so be prepared for that also till then happy loving

Answer 8

Hey, it is what it is. We are all born the way we are meant to be, or, we are meant to be the way we are born...either way, go with the flow and don't waste your time and energy worrying about it.

Answer 9

Forget about your parents. Feel feel to be with each, but make sure you tape it and send it to me.

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Answer 10

No you should go to her and sleep with her tonight. Your body, your decision.