Im 19, engaged and wnmat a baby? Am I too young to be thinking like this?
2006-10-02 23:31:37 · 11 answers · asked by LouiseBriers 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
your not too young, a woman of your age knows what she wants but you should take in the advice given, i was 17 when i had my 1st son, 21 when i had my second, im still with their father and love my boys to bits but i so wish i had waited, not for long, just a few years so that me and my partner could have the holidays and do all the fun stuff. Once that baby is here there is no going back, money will be tighter as kids cost an absolute fortune, theres always something to buy. your sex life will suffer even if you try to not let this happen it will! but most of all you will not be you anymore you will be mummy, your friends will lose interest (even if they say they wont, they do!)
ask anyone that had a child that young.
yes they love their kids and wouldnt be without them but i bet they wish they had waited 3 or 4 years.
anyway hope this helps, goodluck!
2006-10-03 01:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
At 19 I wanted the same things, and was glad later that I didn't have kids or settle down because I would've missed out on a lot that I experienced in my 20's. I know people that got married and had kids right out of high school and are still happily married and love their kids and would never change a thing. It all depends on the person, and you are an adult and able to make that decision on your on for yourself. It's not the norm to be married with kids so young as it was in years past, the majority are now waiting until their late 20's or even into their 30's. You do what's right for you and your fiance. One small word of advice from my experience that I regret not doing is finishing college. I am now 34 yrs old with one child and struggling to have another because neither my husband or I attended college and the jobs that pay good you need an education for.
Lots of luck.
2006-10-03 00:01:06 · answer #2 · answered by Emjay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me 19 would have been way too young, I was single, living in the dorms at a BIG Ten University living the life of a young college co-ed... I wanted until I was 31, married, financially set, education almost completed (still need the PhD), but I know some young mothers who are wonderful and perfectly content...who put off their education until their children are older, and some who are now my age living the life, while I'm home w/a pre-school-er... life is all about choices...making them, sticking to them and making the most of every minute...I wouldn't change my life for anything...so make sure a few years from now, you won't have regrets either! Good Luck!
2006-10-02 23:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Wait until you are married for a few years before you try for the baby. Enjoy being with your husband, soon to be, and enjoy it only being you. If you don't enjoy it just being you too, then when a baby comes in you wont have time for you two and your relationship/marriage will suffer.
You are still really young, enjoy that. You have plenty of time for a child. enjoy being 'free' while you can. So, I know where I'm coming from.
For clarification, I'm only 22, been married for almost 2 years and have been working on a baby for a while now.
2006-10-02 23:35:22 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm a male and that i imagine 16-18 is only too youthful yet 19-21 isn't significantly better suited. human beings do not realize at that age each and each of the pieces and alterations that comes a persons' way down the line. human beings replace and they are going to fulfill a million better human beings in life. i imagine previous due 20's will be perfect.
2016-11-26 00:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, its your life and you have to live it your way. I personally wouldnt dream of having a baby till im at least 26 where as my friend had her first child at 16 and is now happily married to the father and has another two children. She says she couldn't be happier and is happy that she has had her children young. I think its a personal choice. Good luck in your decision!
2006-10-02 23:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your choice. however put in mind that a child is a big responsablialy. At 19 you have plenty of time to have a child and you may want to explore life a little more. Good luck.
2006-10-03 01:22:53 · answer #7 · answered by R W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a personal choice, I was married when I was 19, pregnant when I was 20. Its now 4 years later and I don't regret a thing.
2006-10-02 23:35:19 · answer #8 · answered by pocketwife 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u ARE TOO YOUNG!!
there is still so much left to do in life at the age of 19!!
A baby wud only cause problems and complications...
u'll find it very difficult...its physically and emotionally stressful.
2006-10-02 23:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. Know-it-All 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course not, there is nothing wrong with having a baby at this age. It's just up to you and whether you think you are ready for such a huge responsibilty that's what it really comes down to. =)
2006-10-02 23:36:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋