Is avoidance the easiest way to forget?

Question

Will ignoring something make it go away any faster than just confronting it?

Answer 1

There are a few things lately I've ignored and they went away. I've had many things I've confronted lately. They're all pretty much over. With mostly favorable results even, and I usually feel a lot better afterwards. I also have a few things I'm trying to allow time for the flames to subside. I'm not forgetting. They're eating at me. And that's too bad. But I believe that favorable results are on the horizon, and when the time is right, I'll face them after giving them some thought. But to ignore these things all together would probably leave a much bigger scar.

I don't have a clue as to what you might want to see go away. But if it's something like "OMG, I ran out of Mellow Yellow! I'm doomed!!", you might not want to ignore that. It won't just go away as you could wilt away and die to death until you're dead. I'd confront that one head on and do a quick inventory restock. Or if it's something like a papercut, I wouldn't confront that. Especially with salt, lemon juice, saline solution, or sulfuric acid. You can just ignore it. It'll go away.

If you are, however faced an issue or a problem with a friend, or loved one, especially one that is causing you galactic quantities of duress, I would allow a little time for the situation to diffuse itself some before not necessarily confronting it, but maybe approaching it and proceeding with caution and scrutiny. And I know how hard this can be at times.

Some things go away on their own. Some things need to be assigned immediate attention. Some things are never forgotten. And some things are worth the effort and courage it takes to confront them, forget about them, and move on.

Without understanding what needs to go away, I hope this helps.

Answer 2

Absolutely not.
It's better to face things head on.

Just face the music.

Don't allow yourself ignorance.
You owe it to yourself to have no hidden agendas or regrets or whatever else there could be.

You must confront the problem. Find your balls and use them. Don't shy away from the problem. It won't disappear from your mind nor your life. You have to just let go of what you think and feel in order to just be free of the burden.

Confrontations can be wonderful.

And if they don't get better after confrontation, either come and shoot me or avoid it.

You have to try.... just once or twice or thrice :)

Don't avoid anything... have the courage to stand up to everything.

Maybe you'll have a few scars.

But at least you'll truly be done with the issue at hand.

Go get 'em tiger!

Answer 3

I think both can work well depending on the circumstances.
Sometimes when there is a lot of pain involved, on both sides, avoidance for awhile can be easier. The time will come when confronting will be easier.
I prefer facing things head on but have been known to avoid issues at times.
Whatever works for you and makes you feel at ease is the way to go.

Answer 4

I find that drinking works much better. Whiskey is very intelligent ... it gets in your bloodstream and instantly eradicates the pain. Like how does it know just where to go? You've gotta hand it to our Scottish bretheren ... they had been corned so often by the Romans then the Brits that killing pain was a fine science. Thus, the best whiskey in the world is Scotch, as we all know. Irish whiskey is a close second ... only they have been pillaged so often that their whiskey isn't as good as it should be.

Being an alcoholic screws up your life, but you don't feel anything. And a rock feels no pain, and an island never cries.

Avoidance .. it is for girly men.

Answer 5

It must be confronted, but then ignored after the fact for me. Once I have closure to an issue, I will walk away and go back to my "comfort zone". I don't leave things hanging. Funny you should ask this right now...

Answer 6

Ignoring something, for me, usually just results in a bigger heartache. At the same time, I'm not one for confrontation, but if someone comes to me first to talk thinks out, I am willing. It's hard for me to take the first step.

Answer 7

I have tried both. It is better to confront and get it over with. However, it is far more painful, which is why most of us prefer to avoid the issue.

Answer 8

It may not go away but it simply pass on by. It works for bull fighters. The easiest way to forget is to die. You shouldn't remember anything then.

Answer 9

no, avoiding an issue will not make it go away, confronting something is the best way, but it takes courage.

Answer 10

Not avoidance, If I need to forget to pay a bill for example then I fill my head up with as much useless stuff such as learning Portugese