Do '**** hags' secretly want to seduce us? Do they want to say to their friends "Oh, look, I'm so trendy, I know a gay person?" or "Look at me, I'm so poofter tolerant"?
2006-10-02 23:19:22 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Awesome answer Grendle!
I'm not sure anyone goes out with the intention of "befriending a gay man." You don't just wake up one morning and say, "I really should put that on my to-do list." There is nothing pre-meditated.....nothing planned. Finding a friend is finding a friend. Is it not? We are all drawn to people we connet with. And whether the connection is one where the two people can just openly talk about various topics ...... or where two people can sit and laugh for hours without stopping ... or where they can share deeper thoughts and issues ...... or just run around town together enjoying each other's company, it is just a friendship. Merely a friendship.
Women don't interview girlfriends about their sexual desires and preferences before befriending them. Why would what a man wants sexually matter in the least when it comes to befriending him as well. The whole friendship is not going to be centered around one of the two people's sexual orientation and if it is, then you've found the wrong friend.
But what you have said above is a generalization. Something glamourized by tv, movies and magazines. No man that had respect for himself would actually befriend a woman that he sensed was shallow enough to use him because of his sexual orientation. I mean I can't even fathom that. But then I can't fathom carrying a yippy dog in my purse either. (How do such trends ever happen??)
All I can say is..... bad judgement of a few women is not the norm for the others. But the real truth lies in the man that would allow such a thing to happen to him. Find valuable friendships. Ones where you can both accept each other as people.....not as objects to be toyed with.
2006-10-02 23:48:27 · answer #1 · answered by Marianne not Ginger™ 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
1. their decent human beings, just like everyone else. They find they have something in common and go from there, friendship grows from that point.
2. Are you really THAT good looking??...if so, don't you think you **** hag would go after a straight man that's better looking than you? grow up, she may like you just because.....
3. If you consider yourself a novelty, a fantasy or a way of releasing sexual tension for her, then you need to grow up.
4. Instead of thinking with your penis think with the brain God gave you and consider the fact that your attractive to her/them because of whats inside of self. your humor, your intelligent, (hummm ?) your desires to know more of the arts, movies, books, etc. quit being so narrow minded and be the adult.
2006-10-03 04:41:22 · answer #2 · answered by Snookie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The FH part of your question(s) I will not add to for you have gotten great answers but the first part of your question I will.
I happen to be a lesbian and going out with the gay guys is way more fun, at least in the neck of the woods where I am living. The guys love to dance and have real "Let your hair down" fun. The gals in this area are too worried about getting embarrassed. Oh those southern belles.
2006-10-03 01:21:02 · answer #3 · answered by dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is more of a mental attraction. Without the sexual tension, there is a greater capacity to be intimate friends and be accepted for who they are, not based on being a sexual object.
It works both ways; gay men can enjoy these friendships without the sexual tension we face with other gay men.
If there are hidden sexual agendas, they usually come to surface and I have had those relationships come to an end.
Just like straight men don't want to be hit on by gay men (most of them, anyway!! LOL!)
2006-10-02 23:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god....NO!!! First of all I'm a lesbian and don't know many men in general. Second, I actually LIKE gay men better because it's nice to get a male perspective on things without having to worry about a situation taking a turn where it becomes uncomfortable for both people. You always know where the other one stands in regards to being attracted to each other. That's my personal perspective on it.
2006-10-03 09:24:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've often be accused of being a 'f*g hag'. I appreciate people who are open minded, tolerant, and have similar interests to me. I gravitate to those people, whether they are gay or straight, but all in all, a good number of the 'straight' male population (esp. in the mid-west America) are not tolerant, open minded, and respectful of differences. I can't stand that macho bluffing and blustering, so I tend to hang out with guys who aren't....and viola, f*g hag! Oh well. :) (hey, go figure, Yahoo finds the word 'f*g' to be a bleepable word!)
2006-10-02 23:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by Arlene06 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a Trans women the answer is simple - Gay men treat me like a woman without and issues around it. Most straight men seem worried about what other people will think and whether I might fancy them (in their dreams) or they do fancy me and then they are all over me like a rash. Gay friends are just that friends.
2006-10-03 01:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by Richelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think women befriend gay men because it is safe for them to do so without having to worry about being hit on/groped/fondled etc. Basically it's safe for women to socialise with men without having to fight off unwanted sexual advances. Of course some women are fag hags, but then again, so are some men.
2006-10-02 23:31:49 · answer #8 · answered by paul h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd rather be around gay men than straight men because the gay men that I hang around are the ones who aren't concerned with male stereotypes and can be fun and flirty and sweet as all hell. They like to hug and gossip and aren't concerned with trying to be macho or fake. I like many gay men over straight men because they're just easier to talk to and they lack a lot of what I hate about straight-male-culture (at least the ones who are my friends!).
My male gay friends whom I talk to once a week are closer with me than the straght men I spend time with every day. Even my gay friend who isn't so flamboyant. I think it just has to do with a breakdown of barriers. I just feel more comfortable with a guy who isn't afraid to be himself, rather than what society wants him to be :] But that's just a personal thing, really. And then again, I'm gay too, so hey ;\
2006-10-02 23:30:08 · answer #9 · answered by fakingfallacy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I would love to have a male best friend who's not interested in me in the sexual context, so I gay guy is the best option. It's like having a best female friend, but I think it's even better....
2013-10-22 09:45:47 · answer #10 · answered by Fr'Oz92 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋