Most recently a registered nurse was sent to jail because her 16 year old son skipped or missed 75 days of school and the judge held her responsible. A 16 year old knows right from wrong and made the decision to skip the classes/school and I feel HE should have been held responsible and not the mother. The law is punishing her for what he did and I believe that is wrong. If she knew he was skipping classes and disciplined him for it she would have been accused of child abuse! Damned if she did and damned that she didn't. A lot of parents are afraid of the consequences for disciplining their children and that's why they are catching a hard time of it in children as young as 2 and 3. I am old school. There is a big difference between discipline and abuse and I made sure that I NEVER crossed that line but I disciplined my children when appropriate. I've seen parents tell their kids to behave and the kids yell no at them or ignore them. I would not allow that!!
2006-10-02 22:39:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes and no, a parent is ultimately held responsible for their child's actions in a sense that they are monetarily still supporting that child. The fact that she was sent to jail for something her child did is unthinkable. I work for a Police dept and we have many parents that come down and ask for help controlling their children. Unfortunately, we can't legally do anything to help them. Sometimes these kids get things in their heads, and they are going to do them no matter what the consequences. I have also seen parents charged with abuse for smacking the kid (who deserved it by the way) because some damn crisis counselor thinks the reason the kid is acting up is because mom smacked her. It's ridiculous !!!
2006-10-02 22:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by Michele A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely think that she should be held responsible... but sending her to jail is a bit much. Here we have 180 days of school... if he missed 75, that means he skipped almost half the school year. Where the heck was his mom? I'm pretty sure the school notified her of his excessive absences. Here, once you miss 10 days you're in jeapordy of failing for the year, so she had to have known he was skipping. I think that instead the child should have been sent to some sort of reform/preparatory school and that as a family they were ordered to get some sort of counseling. She should have been doing everything in her power -- calling the school, emailing the teachers, picking him up & dropping him off every day, notifying the truancy officer in her area, requesting conferences with the school guidance office, psychologist, social worker, or behavior support team...
We always have a choice, and there are always people we can turn to for help. If her son was that out of control, she should have taken it upon herself to get him help. I'm sure he's probably STILL skipping school if he wasn't punished in any way. It sucks for mom though... it isn't totally her fault and it's very unfair that she was sent to jail.
2006-10-02 22:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by Jemmie Vee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is the schools responsibility.I mean 75 days is a very long time to be off school with the parents not notifying the school that their child is absent due to a sickness,or has left school permanently,and it's a very long time for the school to not notify the parents or to at least contact the parents to see how their student is doing.At my daughters High school,if the student misses one day of school without a note from a parent (and they have the parents signature on file so the child can't forge it.)The school sends a letter to the parents and asking them to send the bottom part back,just so that you can confirm that you know your child was of school,and 2 days of school they ring you at home,work your mobile,grandparents until they find you.
2006-10-02 22:56:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I would go so far as send a parent to jail over this issue, but I definitely have to disagree with you on another point. A 16-year-old is as far removed from knowing right from wrong as the sun is from earth. Parents should be held responsible for their kids' behaviour.
2006-10-02 22:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i agree that there is a very fine line between abuse and discipline. i dont think that the mother should have been held responsible(given that she did everything in her power to make sure he went to school) i really think that she has been wrongfully punished. she could have dropped him off at school but if he really wanted to ditch he would ditch. unless the courts want her to follow him to all of his classes i dont know what else she could have done
2006-10-02 22:43:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a daughter almost 16. she has been in juvenile detention center for skipping school. I take her and drop her off and watch her go in. She still manages to skip. As a working single parent, she intercepts mail and calls from the school. I truly haven't had any help with the juvenile system.If they came to take me to jail for her absences I'm not sure how I would deal with it.
2006-10-02 23:06:03 · answer #6 · answered by sweetfree 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had a considerable skipping habit in HS. I used to circulate to my pal's homestead earlier college, hotbox interior the bathing room and then decide for if we felt like going. in specific circumstances we stayed in and in specific circumstances we confirmed up fried. If we confirmed up, we'd circulate smoke up back at lunch time. One time, I screwed up so great collectively as skipping, i became into too scared to stand my mothers and fathers for a week. in simple terms took off settee surfing. i'm shocked i for my area went back. they'd desire to have in simple terms murdered me. rather, I graduated and thoroughly wiped sparkling up my act. nonetheless embarrassed by potential of the quantity of skipping I did and the crap I have been given as much as.
2016-10-15 11:23:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the court was right, the reason why, until the kid/s moves out of the home the parent/s are respondable for there kid/s, no matter what. you just answered your own question by the you asked the question, you take respodable for your kids, why should the nurse not take respondale of her kid/s?
2006-10-02 22:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by dmncprkr 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, parents cannot know where their kids are 24/7 unless they are following them around all day
2006-10-02 23:51:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are the one with a problem.
2006-10-06 00:27:57 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋