is it bad to rely on my friends when i have a serious issue? i just lost one of my very best friends because her boyfriend didnt want her to see me anymore so i have been feeling very insecure about my other friends and i have talked to them and they have told me that they love me and they will never leave me but that is just what my other firend said before she told me she hated me and wished i was dead. i need some reassurance but am i being to pushy? should i just back off and deal with my problems by myself (because the therapist doesnt work for me)?
2006-10-02 22:33:21 · 13 answers · asked by [TGS] 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
my family hates me (they have told me so) so i cant go to them.
sorry about the spelling i was typing in a hurry
2006-10-02 22:34:22 · update #1
yes...we certainly need friends...but bear in mind that at the end the day it will be you and of course God alone....people tend to depend their happiness on other people...they tend to seek encouragement from others.....but one thing i've learned i should learn how to encourage myself first when there's no one to turn to. When you have serious issues sometimes you gotta be wise on who you're gonna share things with....people are not the same,same thing with your friends...not everyone can understand you....they could be of help or the other way around, so be careful of who you confide ok?....somewhat it is true the nothing is permanent in this world..people come, people go....so cheer up....and try to be happy with or without them.
2006-10-02 22:57:06 · answer #1 · answered by maic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends are there to enjoy life with and to be there for you when life sucks. This girl does not sound like a real friend.
Through life any one person will have about 5-10 friends total. Real ones. Nurture the friendships you do have. Know that people come and go in our lives. Enjoy them while you have then. Make new friends as the older ones leave, move, Etc.
The ones that are still there after a crisis is over. The ones that really stuck with you, those are your friends.
Don't give up.
2006-10-03 05:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try starting a Diary where you can write down are your a feelings and emotions and the best part you can write down whatever you want without offending anyone... Friends come and go all through your life and if you have a problem go ahead and go to your friends and if they seem to help you every time then they are your real friends... just because one person lied and was a real friend it doesn't mean all the other friends you have will all of a sudden be fake Good luck and i wish you the best
2006-10-03 05:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by ~*Megan N MaRc~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay.. you can try writing a personal diary which could also possibly become ur best frend.. and u can always rely on it coz u can possibly pen down ur feelings and emotions and it usually works.. the other option try find a net pal who you can talk to wenever u feel like.. this is hard to do coz its not so easily possible to find a such a person who would care for u.. but there are a few out there.. then try getting close to someone within the family.. maybe ur mom or ur bro or ur sis.. one of them who can be there when u want them.. best of luck
2006-10-03 05:45:46 · answer #4 · answered by $~~BrOKeN~~$ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what your "problems" are, because at the end of the day, friends are just friends and they stick with people because they are fun to be around, not to hear their problems constantly. (I don't mean never tell them your problems, but sometimes, people get stuck in a rut of always complaining to their friends about their lives and this can be irritating!)
Yeah, if you get too hung up on this, you will probably push your remaining friends away. Try and relax and remember that the boyfriend of this girl must have a lot of power over her. Is she not strong enough to make up her own decisions about which friends she has?
2006-10-03 05:37:25 · answer #5 · answered by Xenophonix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine to confide in your friends. That is what they are there for and you do the same for them. Forget the girl who said she wished you were dead. You certainly don't need friends like that. You are better off without her. Consider yourself lucky that you have all those other great friends!
Edited to add: Sorry to hear that about your family. Hang in there and be a good friend. They will be there for you when your family isn't.
2006-10-03 05:35:56 · answer #6 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
were you trying to steal your friends bf?
you need someone to talk to about your problems. Im sure the therapist is there for a reason. It almost sounds to me like ur on drugs or something...coke? meth?
If you dont care, no one can for you.
If youre a bad influence, you can generate hate and lose friends. If you arent committed to changing a behavior you identify and acknowlege in yourself then you just need to burn out hard til you get sick and tired of whatever it is...maybe it will take you to desperation first before you desire that change.
2006-10-03 05:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by jorluke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therapy doesn't work because you don't let it work. Give it a chance. You really need to talk to a councelor or someone that can help. Someone that can meet with you regularly until you feel better about yourself. I bet your family loves you but maybe you are hanging with the wrong crowd and maybe your family doesn't trust your friends. Please talk to a councelor.
2006-10-03 05:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by Just Bein' Me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try another therapist, before you give up on them altogether - sometimes it takes a while to find one that "fits".
2006-10-03 05:37:03 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they treat you like that..they were never your friend,,,,if the therapist didn't work try liquor..It can make you believe anything,,,Good Luck
2006-10-03 05:38:46 · answer #10 · answered by hwybluess1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋