I had a friend for 4 yrs lately he seems very distant from me when ever i call him to go out over weekends he always tell me his is busy for four months. I meet one of his co-worker he told me that he said he can not learn anything being my friend. he was just a friend nothing else.
2006-10-02 22:17:14 · 17 answers · asked by Nina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
His meaning of friend has changed. Not.
If you are a true friend, invite him for a meal and find out for yourself.
If doesn't work then just give him the space that he needs and be there for him.
Thats what friends are for.
2006-10-02 22:21:35 · answer #1 · answered by avonlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My experience of people like this is that somewhere down the line they have betrayed your friendship - and their conscience won't allow them to keep up the farce of 'friend' anymore.
Whether or not you want to know what the betrayal is something only you can decide. You might just want to leave the situation alone and let him go his own way, or you might want to find a way of finding out - but if you do ask the question, are you ready for the answer?
'Betrayal' can be in a number of forms - his was that all he wanted your 'friendship' for was to glean information about you for his own benefit - to use your mannerisms, attitude, ideas, appearance - to improve his own image and standing.
Unfortunately you are not of the same calibre as him and are therefore now very hurt. Quite frankly you see alot of this type of 'friendship' around, and to those of us on the outside - they are very shallow friendships - the ones where people laugh too loudly, constantly looking around to make sure they are being watched, acting up and over exagerating their mannerisms - just like acting a part - which they are. These people are infinitely inferior to the likes of people like you. As far as I can see he had a lot to gain, and still would have if he hadn't acted so arrogantly - you on the other hand have lost nothing. You can't lose something you never had.
2006-10-02 23:19:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well we don't actually get in to a friendship to as such learn something new. That guy seems to be just now re-inventing himself as a new morphed avatar of what he is and now he thinks he was just not receiving much info as of you were an encycolpaedia. You should leave that guy behind in fond memories and move on as there is always someone out there to offer you the truest friendship you never even thought of. Its going berserk if one doesnt value something just because it turned out to be intellectually dis-invigorating. One makes a friend to share what one can't with anyone else in teh world.
You have a wondeful time ahead. GOD BLESS !!
2006-10-02 22:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by Bunny H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i does no longer say something. it form of feels that he could be attentive to each thing you defined, because of the fact he may be the only relaying her requests to you. He knows her, he loves her and he made his own decision to marry her. As a pal, you may desire to recognize that and be satisfied for him. in case you knew something which would be a revelation to him that would replace his suggestions, say that she's been cheating on him or something alongside those traces, then i think of it may be alright to talk to him under those circumstances. yet, that does no longer look the case right here, so i could keep your thoughts to your self and not harm this satisfied time for him. you're saying which you're feeling as though the two way you would be dropping a pal; yet with telling him you think of he's making a mistake, you're very almost guarenteeing it. in case you do it and his spouse ever comes around approximately having greater buddies, then he is going to bypass working to somebody else quite of you.
2016-12-26 08:09:09 · answer #4 · answered by levatt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendships come and go - a friend of mine of five years standing, to whom I was a confidant has shut me out of her life in this way too. I am afraid I had to tell her to either treat me like a friend and respect or I have to just walk away - I decided to walk away in the end.
2006-10-02 22:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by bovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him hes not a true friend, if he was he wouldnt do this to you. Ive been there and dont see the person concerned any more the way i look at it is its her loss not mine. Hope you find a new and better friend one who treats you right.
2006-10-03 00:40:39 · answer #6 · answered by welcome2whereyouare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change, you just have to let this happen, and go off and make some new friends.
2006-10-02 22:22:50 · answer #7 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships change. I think that you have grown apart take the hint and do not contact him he obviously wants something different in life, so take it on the chin and carry on with your life minus him.
2006-10-02 22:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to re-define your idea of what the word friend means. This person certainly doesn't sound like one.
2006-10-02 22:26:52 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
True friends are like diamonds, precious but rare, false friends are like dried leaves scattered everywhere..........
2006-10-02 22:38:57 · answer #10 · answered by sonia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋